Rachelle_19

Usually I wouldn't reply to something like this, but this seems like an easy answer to me. You know how girls flirt with and attract guys right? Well in this case, they would do the exact same things with you. (You're the guy...exept you're not)

Hi there. Well, I'd have to say unless you can go on like this forever, you're gunna have to tell her how you feel or take action. If you can't take it the way it is for a long time (for as long as you know her) than I'd take a risk and do something. It may be better to take a risk and possibly lose her that to go on the way it is. Are other people's perceptions more important to the two of you than your own personal happiness? Take care

alrighty then, and you can say this about me because you know me sooo well...eh? oh, wait a minute.....YOU DON'T KNOW ME AT ALL! thereforeeeeeee what you said about me being programmed and falling inline is very, invalid. thank you very much. nuff said. I'm never going to this section again, so don't waste your breath!

ARRRRGHHH!!!!!!! Alright, I already posted another reply on your old topic, but this is it. She's either playing the hard to get type and wants you to chase her, or she's kind of leading you on and is playing head games. But about her not liking the same food as you and the tickling thing, don't let that discourage you. Maby she's just being playful. I'll admit, this is a trickier one to diagnose than I had origionally thought. Also it sounds to me like you are being a little to direct in finding out if she likes you. Asking if she'd be your girlfriend (even if it was sarcastic) was gutsy and put her in a potentially uncomfortable position. But she didn't say no, so it dosen't sound like it was a really bad idea. Use your instincts on this and don't get too caught up over her until you know she's not just playing around.

The other advice given is the alternative to my advice, and it's possible that's the case. But she's only 18 and I think that she's done with her ex. I don't think she'd go for anyone else if she still wanted her ex. But from the nine points I gave, it sure looks like she's going for someone. You! If you don't give her the impression that you'd like it to go somewhere, than she may go for someone else or her ex if he tries really hard to get back with her. In this case I think you have nothing to lose and I bet that I'm right about this one. Good luck. 8) P.S. If she still wants her ex and if she flirts with you and perhaps other people, than I'd stay far away. (head games)

Hi there, and I'm absolutely positive that she likes you sooooooo much! I don't know how much more she could do to convince you of that unless she gave you a kiss or asked you out! Take a look at all the stuff that's happened: (i can only go by what you wrote) 1. Your friends have told you she diggs you and she herself told you your cute. 2. Your really nice and cool and funny. You make a good friend you say. Did you know that girls dig guys who are nice and cool and funny? 3. **SHE wanted to share the bed with you the two nights at the college.** She obviosly wanted to get to know you better (she already liked you, but she wanted to see if she'd still like you after she got to know you a bit) AND, you cuddled. She wouldn't cuddle if she didn't like you at least a little bit, and she wanted to show you that she likes you by cuddeling. 4. she's always leaning on you, touching your hair and talking to you. 5. when she just said awwww really when you called her, she choked. don't worry, that dosen't mean that she dosent like you! 6. When she told you she dosen't know if she wants to have sex with you or just hang out, she's leting you know that she has a sexual interest in you, but dosen't know how to go about it. it's like a game of chess. the next move is yours. do you just want to hang out? or do you want it to be more? (sex) in a way she's asking you to decide. 7. You say a girl is hot, she says "noooo!" (she likes you, and she wants you to only like her) 8. she's taking her own advice about ignoring someone to drive them nuts, so they'll want em more. (she's ignoring you a little cuz she thinks it'll make you want her more) 9. But she dosen't want to play "impossible to get," so sometimes she hangs on you and runs up and hugs you to let you know that she's still interested. (incase she's done a job too well, with ignoring you) Those are 9 points that you can look at to decide if she likes you or not, accoring to what you wrote. It's an interpretation from a 19 year old chick who thinks you're crazy if you don't go for her! I hope you take my advice cuz I think you could get with her if you go for it! Peace

There was no need for that comment. I could see before it was mentioned that my post was 13 minutes earlier. But it would be possible for someone to look at my post, and then 13 minutes later post something themselves I think. Anyway I'm glad it wasn't in response to my post If anyone happens to see this, they can say whatever cuz I'm never coming back to this topic again! bye

I never said he was a momma's boy! I said I hope that's not the case. All we can do here is offer you our opinions and views and our own values and what we think about what you said, and what we may do if we were you. So just remember that in the end only you can decide what's best.

Hi there. You know, she could be one of those girls who wants you to want her. Maby not. I've put a lot of thought into this, and if you're sure that she likes you in the same way...then I'd do something bold like ask her if she'd want to go out with you instead. She might be bored with her current boyfriend. That's not really something "bad." She's only going out with him right? She's not married to him so it's fair play. Then at least you'll know "which way the wind will blow." And you might get what you want!

Hi there, first off I just want to say that's a nice microwave. It sounds like (very unfortunately) he may be one of those "mama's boys." Oh, I hope that's not the case. It can be very difficult to "wein" them from their moms. If he wanted to marry you, you're right. I think he should have proposed. And since you've mentioned marriage already and he hasn't said much, it dosen't look like that's the road he wants to go down. And further more. You dumped him. And he didn't chase after you? It dosen't sound good. I don't think that too much blame can be place on his mother though, as he is an adult has a mind of his own. He can do whatever he wants, even if it's something his mom might not approve. Unless he makes lots of money at his job, it sounds like he's getting into a long-term debt with the house loan. If he goes through with that, that may not be good! He should buy a duplex or triplex instead of a house. Then, his mom could live in one of the units, you two in another one. And if it's a triplex, the third one could be rented out for help with the mortgage. And one last thing: You are twenty. He is thirty-three. If you want to marry him so bad, remember that when you're thirty-five....he'll be 48. ALMOST 50! (believe me, it'll be more of a big difference then) I hope something here will help. Bye! P.S. It's not your fault in my opinion, it sounds like you were pushed away to me.

Sorry, looks like I shot my mouth off before you gave the update! But I really still stand by my advice. I'm sure you'll get more.

I would go for the long term thing, if I were you. If you're not happy with the sexual part right now, perhaps the two of you could work on it? If she's the type of girl who you would want to spend the rest of your life with, then I'd stick with her. And the two of you get along great? All the better.

For any of you who gave me advice before....thnx. I'm glad I listened! He read my letter, and we've seen each other since then. We made out for hours the first time we saw each other after the "avoiding." It was so intense! You know what? I'm thinking of having sex with him now. I mean, I've already known him for years...we know how we feel about each other now. He dosen't know that I'm thinking about it though....do you think I should go for it? Or do you think I might be going too fast? I wouldn't want to get embarrassed if he said "wow nelly, slow down!" Advice, pretty please. I forgot to mention, we are both virgins!

I don't know if anyone will ever read this, because there have already been so many posts, but incase someone does.....here's what I have to say. Let's look at this from the opposite point of view. I supose it happens, but how may girls that are 18 do you think go out with guys that are 14? I don't know about any of you, but I think that sounds weird! I know I'd never be caught going out with some 15 year old guy (i'm 19) In the end, I think it's wrong...mostly cuz it's illegal. But what can anybody do about it? not much. do whatever you want

All I have to say, is to the last poster: EWW!!!! If they were in high school and you were in 6th grade.....there was certainly something very wrong with them! I'm in my last year of high school now and like since grade 9 I've thought of 12 year olds as being little kids.