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hey geyser, wutsup ? About your little problem with calling this girl and what not : First of all, id say your friend was right. If you want to be with this girl and would like it to last, its always good to develope a good relationship with a person you want to be with. Take things fairly slow, and if youre polite, nice, and youre just yourself, the basics will follow. Callin her shouldnt be a problem. Id say to just give her a ring, say wutsup, ask how shes doin, bla bla, tell her whats on your mind, ( youve been thinkn about her and would just like to hang out sometime ) , or you could even just act more friendly like " would you wanna go hang out sometime, maybe see a movie or get somethin to eat ? " If shes not there, wait a day or two, and try again. If she is and says yes, then let her make up the date, and while youre doin this, just be calm AHAHA, i noticed you seem a little intimidated by the whole calling her situation. And if she doesnt want to even go on a date then just respect that and be cool with it. Still be friends with her. Id say just be calm and give her a call man. It shows youve got balls if anything, and girls like that. But you also have to back that up with kindness, manors, and respect. She should give in to yah if you do that. Other than that, just be yourself and let her know how you feel. If youre thinkn about actually asking her out as in " seeing eachother/ dating " , theres no set time to do that. Its just best to take things slowly. Its more comfortable for everyone that way. But just let her know in small ways everyonce in a while that youre interested like maybe giving her a back massage if she mentions that her back is sore. Or buy her food if you go eat. That always works. But if you rub her back, or do anything physical, be careful. This girl is young and the last thing you need is some large man beating you senseless. But also, dont flirt too much, that can sometimes turn girls off , or annoy them. Just do it enough to let her know you like her. Not to the point of pullin her nipples or anything. Anyway, just be calm and give her a call man, youll be alright. Good luck dude, and i wish the best between you and her ! Take care

Well, like 4:20 monday morning now, and saturday night was the night that that girl kinda ignored me playing hard to get or whatever. I got a couple replies on wether or not this girl liked me, and it was that she probably does, but is just weary because of certain things including her ex. Tonight she came up town when I was talkin to a couple of my guy friends. I joked around with her, made her laugh about certain dumb things i was just sayin on purpose to make her laugh, and she laughed - cracked up a couple times. Then i said " give me a hug, ( acting real childish and " cute " ) and she was like " I dont trust you " while smiling. and so I looked at the ground and show walked up to me and stood real close like i was supposed to hug her. so i put my arms around her and she just leaned against me and put her head on my shoulder ( she said she was cold but not sure if she stayed there on me kuz she liked it.) i tickled her a little bit and she laughed and said stop. but i kept doin it just to be flirty and she backed up and i let go and she laughed and said " thats where i draw the line. just sayin " i wont let you hug me if youre gonna just tickle me " kuz i guess shes pretty tickleish. but anyway, when i was holdin her i was jokin and said " will you be my girlfriend " and she said " sure " but it sounded a little sarcastic. and i said " seriously " also sounding kinda sarcastic, then she said " yea " somewhat sarcastically again. and I said " youre still in love with kyle ( her ex ) " just joking, and she slapped me and laughed . And that was right before i started tickling her. then i basically just asked random dumb questions to talk to her and made her laugh, and talked a little also while pranking my friends friend from his college on his cell. She wouldnt quit laughin kuz of it lol, it was funny. Then anyway, she was like " i need to go home, im tired. " and i said " no you dont " and she was like yes i do. And she slowly walked back to her car and i said " give me a call tomorrow, well eat fettecinni " ahahah, and she said " ok " then while she was gettin in her car she said " i hate fettecinni by the way " lol, and i said " too bad I guess . " and then said bye and she said bye. That was basically it. But if anyone wants to let me know, do you think shes into me ? are there any clues, and any advice on what i should do or how i should act next time i see her. Anything i should ask ? or anyway i should act towards her ? just let me know, it would help - but basically , just wonderin if she still sounds interested , im kinda getting slight mixed signals. Halfway that she likes me, and halfway that she was just tired or just wants to be friends. Not sure, just need some feedback from anyone wanting to reply. Itd be appreciated -

Dude, now i may be wrong, but this is my opinion. Youre a cool guy, she cant handle it because you seem nice, and nice guys DO finish last as f'd up as that is. The girls a hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh OOOOOOO, and she probly got with that dude, and shes messin with your mind. Ignore her, yes, give up in her , and if you ever F her again, wear proteeeeeeeeeeectiooooooooooon !!!!!!! seriously ! i may be wrong, but from what you givin, ahahah , id say shes a FREAK mayn. and oh yea, you go to clubs right ? AHAHA, SO FIND ANOTHER MAMACITA, theres BILLIONS man !!!!! ahahah, let that freak go, even if she DID like you and WASNT a freak. .... i dont know about you, but she seem pretty high maintanence. AHAHA, i may be lazy, but i cant even see a working man tryin to put up with all her shit. AHAHA Let her go man ! as crude as it sounds , i know you like her, but she sounds Eeeeeee-VIL ! If you must have a girl , id say give up on her, and just keep on looking. Thats my advice AHAHAH - take care man

The best thing in life is life. Why let one guy out of 6 billion or more get you down ? it hurts when that happens, but ill agree with that other guy, there are more fish in the sea than you can imagine. Be patient, even though it sucks , ahahah i know, but be patient. Ive gone through exactly what youre going through. ..... I GOT THROUGH IT ! ahaha you can too , and you will, but give it time. YEssss , that ugly ass horrible time when youre trying to get over someone. But time DOES heal all wounds. But if you totally feel liek time is doing nothing, try meeting other guys, or hang out with different guys more often, you may even find yourself interested in one soon if you do. just dont ask on how to get a guy ..... i AM a guy lol , jk. but if you can, give yourself some time, and stay away from that guy. He sounds like a poop head ! AHAHAHAHA , dont worry , be happy, ENJOY LIFE - * TAKE CARE *

Im in the exact same boat as you dude. Except ive known this girl my whole life, just didnt get to know her alot better since the past couple months. I cant really give you much advice then has already been givin. But Id say on the subject of helping deal with the anxiety of waiting on a call and etc. , is to just do what you normally do. Try not to think about her too much, because if something doesnt work out between you and her like her going back to her ex or whatever, it would hurt you unfortunetly. Id say just wait it out like that other person said, then maybe in a couple days , call her. But till then, just try to be patient. Youre young man, try to not only worry about this problem , but keep attention on yourself aswell. Try to keep yourself stable and ..... id say just keep on truckin ! ahaha, youre doin good so far, just wait it out for a couple days. after that, whatever happens is up to you and her both. but until then, enjoy life . The key to gaining a good relationship, is enjoying yourself while youre single - it helps just to not worry - be happy man , and i hope it all works out *

Swewwwwh. ok.... my problem is one of great multiplicity all over the world. I know. But there are always so many details to a problem that noone can give perfect advice. So ill just tell my prob. , then if possible id like to get a little advice, and maybe somehow some tips on if she may like me and what i should do if she does or doesnt. anyway - Theres this girl Ive known my whole life, we went to separate schools for about the first 15 years of our life. Im now 19, shes 18. I didnt know her real well until about a year ago. But gradually im getting to know her better. about 2 1/2 months ago her boyfriend broke up with her. She really liked him and so now shes stuck on him. But she doesnt know that he cheated on her with her best " friend ", ashley. Im not gonna tell her this because its not my place to ( i feel ). but she should know. But thats not my prob ahaha. My prob is, about 5 weeks ago i went to a college that one of her girlfriends go to with the her ( the girl I like- LAURA), another one of her girlfriends, and a guy friend of mine. we stayed 2 nights and the whole time she was pretty flirty. And this was actually one of the first times Ive hung out with her. My guy friends told me she kinda digs me and shes told me before , " youre so cute" but i took it friendly because im one of those guys all the girls think is just real funny and cool - they dont really look at me as a guy they want to fight over - im just pretty cool and nice and funny. ( a good friend ) But anyway, it so happened she wanted to share beds with me the two nights we stayed at this college at her friends apartment. So we did, and we really didnt even mess around because i tried to be a gentleman and kept my hands to myself. But both nights we stayed up till about 6 in the morning in bed just talkin. And i really got to know her alot more. and we cuddled and bla bla. But im not sure if that happened kuz she needed comfort because of her "bad breakup " or if its a mixture of that and also that she does like me. But anyway, ive been hanging out with her and friend alot lately for like the past 2 or 3 weeks, and shes always leanin on me , or touchin my hair or talkin to me and yotta yotta. ( being flirty ) and a week after we stayed at that college ( 5 weeks ago ) i called her to tell her i had been thinkn about her and what not. She kinda laughed and said " awwww really " kinda insinuating she just thought it was cute, and didnt feel the same or hadnt been thinkn about me . But a few days after, she and a friend picked me and one of my friends up to cruise, and i tried to make myself look less pathetic and said " sorry about me callin you tellin you i really like you laura , I was madly in love with you " ahah, kinda actin like it was just a crush i had, and like i really do now just want to be friends so I wouldnt feel dumb around her if she didnt like me too, and to be funny to make her and her friend laugh. But just a day or two ago, she e-mailed me for the first time becuase i told her to like a week ago. and it said something like, " i dont know if i want to have sex with you, or just hang out " and that was the main thing she wrote, and that she was just confused. And she apologized for always flirting with me and messin with me. I dont know if thats a clue that she doesnt like me and is just needn someone there to flirt with and is sorry it had to be me shes messin with, or if thats just what was on her mind. But anyway, since those 2 days we stayed at that college ive kinda liked her, and shes still pretty flirty with me, and shows signs of jealousy, like when i say a girls hot, shell say " iaaaaaan, noooo ! " ahhaah like she doesnt want me to like another girl. and when she took me home from cruisin one night recently, we were talkin about a friend that broke up with his gf and wants her back now. And she said " he should just ignore her, itll drive her crazy and shell like him because in a sense, she cant have him" ( because hes ignoring her ) and now, she kinda ignores me sometimes, or doesnt flirt with me as much some nights . But other nights, shell kinda hang on me, or run up and hug me when i get out of my jeep. But like tonight, i drove around with her and her friend, and one of my friends, and she kinda ignored me. So I dont know if she likes me, and is trying to get me to pay more attention to her because she is ignoring me ( like she said what the guy that wants that girl should do ), or if she just isnt interested as much as it really seems she is. So I think she could still be trying to get over her ex bf, or isnt , and kinda likes me but is scared to start anything with me for whatever reason. and thats basically my problem- sorry it took so long to explain and was kinda cluttered and confusing, but i tried to give alot of nesseccary details. Anyway, if possible, i could use some advice on how to maybe get her to like me more, or how to keep me in her mind. AND, id like to know anyones opinion on if they think she likes me or not and/or , how to figure this out ( if she does like me or not ). What should I do, and how should I go about this - any opinions and advice will be accepted and greatly appreciated , THANKS