Mr Meh

Victoria, don't listen to Laughing Sam..he's lying.

hmm, much different than up in Canada. There is no choice here..2 years living together as a couple (immediately if you have a child and live together) and you are "husband and wife"... I wasn't suggesting she "stoop to his level", merely get what she is legally entitled to. Perhaps my use of the word "screw" made it sound like a negative thing. The idea behind common-law (here) is to protect people from the exact kind of crap he was trying to pull with the pre-nup..ie her financial contributions amount to nothing in the end, though she may have, technically, helped pay (for 7 years) for the house they were living in etc...

how about NO lies in your future! Best of luck to you. Have you considered screwing him out of a bunch of money as his (now ex)common law wife? Not sure if thing work the same in the US as Canada, but here a common law spouse (once you live together for 2 years you are automatically common-law) has a lot of the same rights as a 'regular' wife. That would be a nice little laugh in the face of his pre-nup attempts.

You might even be able to go back to previous months online and see if there is a pattern in the withdrawals (my bank lets me go back 6 months). Being a man myself, I think I would probably have a certain day I would go were I doing this. Another thing that I thought of is that if he's a salesman and has to entertain out-of-town clients, it is certainly a possibility that he is sending them to this place. Not an uncommon practice to 'service' big accounts with things like this.

Did you ask him about the money (ie what he did with $240) ? Seems like it might be pretty hard to catch him lube-handed, but maybe a private investigator? It seems like you are hesitant to bring it up because he'll lie and stop going\cover this tracks better and you'll never get proof? Even a good liar may falter when confronted with the 'truth'. If you were to say: "I know you are going to &$#& for a massage, what else are you doing?", it may throw him off enough to make it obvious.

apparently I missed something?...I'd also like to know how sundaymorning is making out..

Awesome..good luck, man. remember to really listen to what she is saying to you..and have fun!

Is it Rumpelstiltskin?

. It seemed you were branding anyone who looks at LEGAL pictures of young women as sick and twisted perverts, and basing it on an assumption that it will lead to a progressive state of perversion. That's an opinion which seems to be based on ONE past experience your sister had with a "pervert". I was merely stooping to your level to see if name calling would offend, which clearly it did. Childish but sometimes effective.

Me too and I certainly wouldn't want her to get into this industry, and like I said in an earlier post the concept of looking at teens because they are teens certainly makes me uncomfortable now that she is a teenager. My taste actually runs to older women anyway, so the issue is moot in my case. Like I said my tastes run to older women..so... uh ..know any good links? Glad to see your husband gives you compliments and finds you attractive. Clearly he is viewing the younger women to scoff at how their beauty pales in comparison to his "mature" honey. 8) Good, just for the record I wasn't targeting you with that remark!

The thing about body language is that it is mostly sub-conscious, so you may be giving him some of the same 'signals' he is giving you and at this moment he is on a different forum asking if they think you like him. You can consciously flirt with him by making extended eye contact, touching him, laughing at his jokes etcetc... Or take a chance and ask him for his number. It shouldn't be that hard to get him alone for a couple of minutes.

High maintenance people tend to do this to a person, because it really boils down to: nothing you do will be good enough. No wonder you get these feelings if you are essentially always worrying that someone else will maintain her better. It sounds like she does love you, so what exactly about her is high maintenance? Materially or mentally??

His comment was just as "childish" (or potentially serious) as yours, but since you both apologized it should be all water under the bridge. Maybe his was based on yours (tit for tat kind of deal). It does seem to me that the stress is bringing out issues that might need to be addressed. I personally do not support the concept of ex-partners doing things together for the sake of the kids. That leaves the new partner as an outsider. If you can live with it and your comments were indeed just childish snipes, all the power to you..if they were a reflection of deeper thoughts, you best keep an eye on them..

ah..ok..the focus seemed to be on where.. I guess theissue isn;t really the non-cumming anymore, but you do realize that being drunk makes it very difficult to get off?

It sounds to me like she is staying open to an honest discussion which can't be a bad thing. She is also trying to not lead you on as to wher eyour future will be headed. As long as you are prepared to hear whatever she has to say good or bad, I would go. Being "trapped" in a car for a few hours can make for excellent distraction free discussion. What really stuck out for me was the number of times in your email you mention "coming inside" her. Why is that so important?