luciamts Posted December 11, 2019 Share Posted December 11, 2019 I started dating a man who I met online. We have been seeing each other for 2.5 months now. He had a divorce 2 years ago and has a 10 year old daughter. In the beginning it seemed he had done a lot of work on himself and wanted to move forward with his life. He was so sweet to me and very thoughtful. However, over the last couple weeks, I've observed a change in him. He fluctuates between being either angry, or depressed, about his life. He says that everyone is against him and he is suffering. He will be fine one minute, and crying the next. Sometimes he is uncommunicative. Other times he tells me how much he cares for me and is grateful for me in his life. But then, this morning, he got upset with me because I gave him my cheek when he leaned in to kiss. I didn't even think anything of it. But he told me I do it too often and it makes him feel like we are not "stable". I apologized and said I'd be more conscious of it, but we left on an awkward note. I feel like I have been very patient and understanding of his sadness and negative emotional state, which seems to be mostly related to not seeing his daughter as much as he would like, and other divorce related struggles. I told him I would be here for him anytime. Is it too much for me to expect him to be understanding of me as well? I fear that perhaps his emotional states will affect our relationship. I really fell for him, and I'm eager to do what it takes to make it work, but what is my threshold? How can I determine whether he's going through stuff and theres hope, or if he's just a sad and negative person? Link to comment
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