Moontiger Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Seriously I though she would out live us all, and at 110 get hit by a bus. It's inconceivable that there could be a world without her. She is very, very sick and could have as little as a week or as long as 4 months. My boss, such a great person, told me to get on my car and drive and to not worry at all, to take as much time as I need with her. I've been at the hospital for a few hours. She is sleeping and we talked a little. My siblings are making there way into town. My boyfriend has been wonderful. He lost his father years ago so he has been where I am. I hold it together, then I cry, I'm ok and then I'm not. It's impossible for me to think of the world without her. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 I am so sorry sweetie. Hugs. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted September 1, 2015 Author Share Posted September 1, 2015 Thank you Victoria. I really don't know what to do or think right now. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Big hugs. I am so sorry. Link to comment
beanpot Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 So sorry. So sorry. I see the situation often from the other side of the bed as a physician. Sometimes the family members are distraught because they feel like they can't do anything. But you can. Be with each other (family members), be strong for your mother, stay by her bedside, make her as comfortable as possible. Read her books. Play her music. Massage her feet. Talk to the nurses. Talk to the doctors. Be active. Wet her lips with ice cubes or swabs. The small things that family members do often make them feel less distraught... Do the small things. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted September 1, 2015 Author Share Posted September 1, 2015 Thank you Annie and beanpot. She's asleep now and I've found a lounge where I'll try and get some sleep. My dad is in her room sleeping in the only comfortable chair. I talked with her about memories from childhood, music she likes etc. Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 My mom lost her mom when she was 24. My mom told me when I was in my 20s that she never was without her mom. Now that my mom's been gone 10 years, indeed,. It's true. I talk to her all the time. When I was really at my wits end last spring, I spoke out loud to her. While walking outdoors. I know she heard me. I am so sorry for the need to prepare for this transition. So much to be grateful for, so much to miss. We are lucky to have parents whom we will miss, and who stay with us. Wishing you well during this time. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Just enjoy the peaceful moments with her. The good things she remembers. Let her let go with happiness. Link to comment
shellyf62 Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Sending cyber hugs to you (((( )))) Link to comment
Lucia Amman Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Moontiger so many hugs to you and your family. Stay close to each other and get yourself whatever you need. So thoughtful of your boss! I'm glad you're spending this time with your mother when it's needed. At least this will be a cherished memory one day. Take care Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Im so sorry for you! Your boss is very kind...take the time you have and be kind to yourself. All that your feeling is right. I hope she isn't suffering or in any pain? It must feel very surreal Hugs to you! Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 oh tiger ..oh no darling I am so sorry this is dreaful news , we are all here for you ok ..every step if this you are not alone xx big hugs and again ...I am so very sorry xx Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Thank you Victoria. I really don't know what to do or think right now. just go with each moment ..it is surreal and you almost feel like you are looking in at someone elses life ...then you suddenly realise it is yours , oh darling Link to comment
Fudgie Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 I'm so sorry Moontiger. We are here for you. Link to comment
lukeb Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 It sounds like you're surrounded by a lot of love and support. My thoughts are with you in this difficult time. Link to comment
FuryLost Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 I'm really sorry to hear this. My Mom's been gone for 6 months now, so I know what you're feeling. Just try to keep the happy memories there, always in your head and in your conversations with her. It'll be confusing, very surreal, for quite a while and you'll definitely feel off-balance. Peace to both of you. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 So sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you. ((hugs)) Link to comment
mhowe Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 It is a horrible club to join. My heart goes out to you. Share your favorite memories with her, and ask for hers. Make the transition as peaceful as possible. Forgive her her trespasses against you --- and remember that she will always be in your heart and in your world. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Moontiger, My heart aches for you as I have been where you are now. It is such a helpless feeling just being there and feeling like you are not doing anything to help the woman that gave so much for you. If allowed bring in some music she loves and pictures from home she can see while laying in bed. Remembrances of a life well lived, of love and good times and things that are special to her. Talking and sharing these memories is something you can do together as her time grows near. ((HUGS)) Lost Link to comment
TMifune Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 It's so tough to lose a parent, more so when it feels sudden and unexpected. I hope she passes as peacefully as possible and that in the final moments there is something positive for you and your family to hold onto. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted September 1, 2015 Author Share Posted September 1, 2015 Siblings are making there way into town. One sister is here, brother just landed at the airport other sibling should be here tomorrow. My BF is coming in on Friday. He'll of away to meet my family. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 It's impossible for me to think of the world without her. Oh, honey, I just noticed that you are 29 years old. So young to loose you Mom. My heart goes out to you....chi Link to comment
JustWishing Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 I am so sorry to hear this, but be strong. Your mom needs you more than ever right now. So be strong for her. And if you have times you can't be, come see us, we will be here for you. You are in our thoughts and prayers... Link to comment
Moontiger Posted September 1, 2015 Author Share Posted September 1, 2015 Thanks you guys. She wanted to have dinner alone with my dad tonight so I'm eating in the cafeteria. Probably good I'm crying a lot right now. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted September 1, 2015 Share Posted September 1, 2015 Please keep us up to date. I will be watching carefully. chi Link to comment
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