chitown9

This is going nowhere fast.

I am on here rarely now because very few emojs are available since some changes were made. chi

This could be the start of something big.

Some people have a proclivity for addiction. It seems that she has an addictive personality based on your description. You need to let her go if it is a deal breaker for you.

His talk of including alcohol in conversations would be a huge red flag to me. chi

Gosh, what if you wanted to get on a plane and go on vacation together to some exotic location? He cannot go with you.... chi

He most likely is communicating with other women. It is difficult to focus on one in particular under those conditions. chi

He said he was sorry for leading you on. That is what would stick out in my mind. I would had one last talk with him, and that would be to tell him that since he has someone, you are also free to seek someone. You will both need to see where this leads to...maybe nothing. Did you ever see the movie, " When Harry me Sally?" chi

How are you doing, Irka?

Is your spouse supportive?

Some things are better left unsaid. chi:eek:

I would bring out the heavy equipment and make a call to vector control. They would be listed in your county government listings. I had a neighbor that had avocado trees that dropped dead leaves that were never picked up. The leaves were waist high. The rats would nest in these leaves and the avocados would drop into their mouths. They also had water by the nearby gutter. It was not dealt with until I called vector control.:eek:chi

OP, would you take a bullet for this woman? If yes, then you love her. chi

Why do you think that they stay together? I am guessing it is for economic reasons mostly. How old are you now? Do you have any siblings? chi

Stay out of their business and worry about your own. Geeze.....