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Moontiger

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Moontiger last won the day on August 10 2013

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    The problem with asking "what makes these guys so undesirable?" is that it (unintentionally on the OPs part I believe) continue to put the responsibility for these people's misery and, when things like this happen, their violent actions on external factor rather then placing the responsibility on themselves. My guess is that there are a variety of factors that vary from person to person in this "incel" community. But from what I have seen, generally,they enjoy being miserable. Imagin if itstead of complaining at their key boards some of these guys got together and said "You know what? We a
  2. It's been a long time since I've posted for advice in ENA. My life has stabilized a lot so, in a sense, I didn't need this community as much as I've needed it in previous years. I've finished my degree, have a long-term boyfriend (over 2 years), got a full-time job, moved to a city I like a lot more than were I was, and Boyfriend moved with me. On paper, my life looks pretty good and I feel it is 85% of the time. For some background: Boyfriend is 36, I am 30. Neither of us picked careers that will make us rich but we both always pay our bills on time and live within our means. We agree on
  3. How old are you? It's sounds like you are still living at home. If that's the case start saving up now to move out.
  4. Talk to a lawyer ASAP and research the laws in your state so you have a good understanding of your rights as a father. EDIT: Were you and your ex married or just living together?
  5. So, unless you live on Montana, a employer can fire you for any reason at any time (unless that reason is that you are a member of a protected class). Speaking to HR will only make them raise an eyebrow, not get you your job back.
  6. Have you asked her what would make her feel comfortable with you taking him over to your parents house? I think you getting to bog down in "My wife won't let my son see my parents" instead you should be asking "Why does she feel this way? What can I do to make this situation better?" You need to focus on the underlying issue not the outward expression of it.
  7. It sounds like your wife feels very alone. You admit that you were basically not there for her when your son was very young, and now you are more or less taking your mother's side against your wife. Barring anything extreme a husband and wife should be loyal to each other against all others. Your wife is saying "I don't feel comfortable having these people watch our son." and you are dismissing her without really listing to what she is saying. Add to that, she missed many of the "firsts" with her baby, for a mom that is a huge blow and while I think she is over-reacting to how your mom handled
  8. You can't control you brother or your moms reaction to the situation. What you can control is you. Get yourself out of the situation. It will not be easy but since neither of them will change it's what you have to do. If you are not working right now find a job, any job, and start saving for rent on a little studio apartment/find some roommates to go in on a place with. If it means working night after class, on weekend, whatever it is do it.
  9. Another point, you are suffering from "magical thinking". That is, thinking something will or won't happen depending on how you feel about it. He was honest with you from the start and had done nothing (such as therapy) to change his feeling. Why would you think he would change when he's done nothing that leads to change?
  10. You are dating a Darth Vader boyfriend. That is some who continues to hurt you but who you remain devoted to despite the evidence. From Captain Awkward (look her up, lots of good advice): “Luke, your dad is totally evil.” “There’s good in him. I’ve felt it.” “Luke, he blew up a planet just to make a point.” “There’s good in him! I’ve felt it!” “Luke, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but he severed your hand. From your arm. He cut it off.” “Dueling to the death is just how we relate. You wouldn’t understand it. Now that we both have prosthetic robot limbs, it’s only br
  11. Ok, there is a lot here to unpack. So I'm just going to go down the list. 1) you are living with your bf after just 6 months? Generally not a good idea. 2) you've basically taken on a major parenting role, which while kind pans showing results (him doing better in school) in not appropriate this soon in a relationship. 3) the ex does sound like she has some issue. 4) you let a child talk you out of calling the police. I question your over all judgement because of this. You don't let children make adult decisions. Your not his friend, you are an adult who has to make the hard choice
  12. Eh, she told you up front, they have been broke up for years, he has a girlfriend, I don't think you have anything to worry about. That being said, everyone has different boundaries. My boyfriend has a ex that he dated very breifly after his divorce, they were friends before they dated. It didn't work and they remained friends. She on his FB, and has been one of the first people to congradulate us on become FB offical, moving in together etc. I would have no problem with my BF grabbing a coffee or something with her to catch up.
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