smackie9

This person is addicted to being attracted by others. low self esteem, low self worth, they usually chase those emotions with each new person to keep the desire going. She's a lost soul. Not really ready for anything until she figures herself out. Or she may never will and jump from relationship to relationship. Sorry she gave you what you wanted under false pretenses. Lesson learned, hopefully you can go forward and actually meet the love of your life.

You can have surgery to restore your purity, so yes you can have that back. You are only human, you will make mistakes throughout your life, just the way it is. Lesson learned. Tip: men will do and say anything to get sex. If a man truly loved you, he would never pressure you into anything. he doesn't love you so you have nothing more with him. Just end it now, and disappear, lose his number.

What does it matter "how many". Look at the person before you...she's wonderful, you like each other. Stay true to your words....leave the past behind and look to the future.

It's a negatory bud. Don't approach her again.

She was trying to navigate things hiding from her parent's gaze. It's been very difficult for the both of you. She wants to get away with as much as possible before her parents shut her down...that's why she was speeding things up. Her parents found out so she was demanded to shut things down for good, hence being blocked on SM. You don't have any experience to compare this situation to, but we do. As everyone stated, it's toxic/unhealthy. You need to stay clear of her. I get it you were close to having something, but it was a bad something....and no, bad is not better than nothing. You seriously need better than this...raise your expectations, and don't get involved with someone that behaves that crazy.

Just tell her that you both need to come to an agreement as to when you two can talk, then do it on a schedule. If there has to be a cancellation don't take it personally, it not because you don't want to talk to her, it's because there is no way to have a private conversation.

The second I read that I yelled in my head NO! Don't let her know that you dummy. She will never get her head around it. It would destroy her and you know it. It would be a very selfish thing just because you need to relieve some guilt. Now if I had a hunch, it's possible she has a feeling that something did occur at that time, maybe a woman's intuition, I dunno. She's feeling some insecurity for whatever reason. I think she just wanted you to echo what she felt...to agree, reassure her. Some guys would say it's a trap, so it's best to play along and keep your mouth shut. If there is any evidence lying around, like old text messages, phone numbers, access to accounts on dating app or anything on your social media, better get rid of it now.

I just got through the first paragraph....this guy is a controlling jerk. Stop talking to him....lose his number.

So you got caught up in some fantasy. This girl was in it for attention to boost her ego. You can see this will never become anything. Please just let it go. Next time stop investing yourself in chat buddies on line. get out there and meet people. Go out and do things with friends, go to parties, have a social life. Doing those things will take the desperation out of looking for someone.

I did...it's doable, and it was a relief. So damn glad we never got married omg.

I didn't need to read your post...my advice...find a new BF.

What? he's got some nerve saying that to you. Like I said this guy is manipulative....just ew. Jerk written all over it. Common now you are going to let this guy push you around like that? He's making you out to be the one that did something wrong...screw him. Like seriously there is nothing to think about here.

No ending it is the right things to do. Reality check....this guy isn't ready for a serious commitment to a relationship. He's got some growing up to do. This is why we date. To find out who they are, what they are like and see if they fulfill our expectations. He doesn't give you what you expect. He doesn't treat you like a proper Gf...he's too weird. there is so much better out there.

When a guy starts in on you about seeing other when you just met, and comes up with stories about troubling girls he's dated, etc, in one breath says he's interested in you, but then turns and says he's taking it casual...he's being controlling and manipulative. This guy has no confidence and is insecure. He wants to be calling all the shots. For the love of god, just punt this guy to the curb.

How do you handle this? Block/delete/lose his number. Punt this complainer to the curb.

Just let her go. She's very bitter. She's gonna keep taking it out on you....that's a lot of years of pent up anger she has, and no words or actions will change that. She definitely needs time so just stay out of her way. You can tell her, that you too are adjusting to this, and it has been difficult as well. Then let it roll like it does.

Excuse me??? How to proceed? Think about this? OMG Dump this SOB.

You want to be a priority in a relationship to a certain degree which is perfectly legit. You tried to set a boundary which is what anyone should do. Fact is tho, she doesn't agree, she doesn't listen or respect your request, or your feelings. Your answer to this is to breakup with her. You cannot change the way she behaves because she sees nothing wrong with what she does. You don't have any other options here.

Sorry but what you see is what you are going to keep getting.

Yes this will be forever, and yes it will get worse as he gets older. How do I know? My mother is manic/bipolar, OCD, narcissistic personality. She's in her late 80's, I am almost 60 so I have seen/been through so much with her let me tell ya. I have seen the way she treats her partner too, and she's bloody mean no matter what. She's on multiple medications, sees a doctor regularly etc. It doesn't stabilize for nothing. You have to live from moment to moment. You will forever walk upon eggshells. That is no way to live. Your kids will suffer from it, like I did. It's an environment I wouldn't wish anyone to live in.

I still don't know why you are bending over backwards for this guy. You can and deserve better than this man child.

I would tell him to go find a different life then. I would also tell him how dare he blame you for any of this when he is perfectly capable of making his own decisions. And how dear he selfishly dump his misery on you when you have been supporting his a$$/entertaining him on your dime. He's unhappy...ship his a$$ off to the curb.

OK so this guy's response to a relationship conversation was to disappear for over a month and then divert blame on YOU saying he didn't want to deal with YOUR wrath. How stupid does that sound to you? This guy doesn't deserve your attention let alone answering his messages. He's an immature twit. He insulted you and your intelligence for Chr^% sakes. Block/delete, don't respond to him. Lose his number.

You were friends zoned before any of this got off the ground so there was nothing you did wrong...it was already set in her mind. She wanted something to do so she went out with you thinking it's just friendship/maybe for attention. You didn't know which ladder you were on because she acted all nice and stuff. Being nice doesn't always = interest. Some girls are oblivious to your actions, some know but take advantage. It sucks but this is how is goes at your age. Most girls grow out of that manipulation or they finally figure out men that interact with them are most likely interested in dating them. Anyways there's no point in sitting there scratching your head over this. Push yourself away from her and move on from the BS.

This is what some guys do...it's called keeping desperate/lonely girls on the hook. They just sprinkle just enough attention and watch you gobble it up and wanting more. It keeps you available to him while he can be unavailable to you, and be available to others when he feels like it. My advice...stop chasing him... he is dropping breadcrumbs.