CaptainSingle

I dated someone (41) and to make the story short—we dated for about 4 months and when I brought up wanting to move forward and possibly be in a relationship, he said he didn’t want that right now—at least that’s what I got from what he said. I tried to meet up to talk through things and he totally ghosted me. I hadn’t heard from him in over a month. He contacted me yesterday and apologized for the ghosting. He said he didn’t want to deal with my wrath. We spoke on the phone and I asked what he wanted from me. His answer was still kind of wishy washy. He said that he hoped that we could get back to where we were. On one hand, I feel like talking to him again will give him exactly what he wanted before…which was to string me along until he was ready to be exclusive. At the same time, I don’t want to be in a relationship with him right now either. Him ghosting me was out of left field. Him coming back is even more surprising. His reasoning for ghosting is confusing and I’m not sure I buy it. I don’t want to end up where I was before with him but I also don’t want to miss out on something that could be great. Last we spoke, he said he wanted me think about things. This was after I said I also would be open to rekindling.

I have been dating a guy for four months. Everything was going well until I brought up wanting to see him more, talk more, or have some sort of progression. I like him a lot but I was feeling like we weren’t moving forward. I even asked about our relationship status. His response was that he didn't have more to give than what he has already given. He also got upset and said that he didn’t like when people gave him ultimatums. But I didn’t! I opened up dialogue about us moving forward…some change for what I thought was the better. Also something I thought that we both wanted. I communicated that to him, basically expressed my feelings and he has ghosted me! I’m really hurt because things were going so well and I don’t understand how me wanting to move forward is an ultimatum or how he could just ignore me without even thinking enough of me to provide a response. He said he didn’t understand why I was the one who got to decide what happened with us next. I’m confused. Completely confused. ImI don’t think I’m wrong for expressing my feelings but I have no clue why he reacted the way he did.