Thatgirlie

I’ve been talking to a guy (H) for a few weeks. We hung out a lot and texted each other consistently, he admitted he liked me and I did the same. We go out to the same club (society night) as we are uni students and me being single I was talking to some guy friends and dancing with them. H has pulled me aside twice at the club to explain this made him jealous, I suggested we avoided each other at the club to keep the peace but he said that wasn’t enough as he was worried about me being there full stop. Since then he stopped talking to me cause he liked me and because of the jealously issues which made no sense? In my eyes it seemed like he was scared of committing to anything with me as it appeared to be going that way and he has been cheated on in the past. I’m the first person he’s liked since his ex which he told me himself. A week went by of no contact and he ended up messaging me again which resulted in us hanging out. During this he backtracked and said he didn’t like me that much and he never got jealous which I thought was odd. I left it at that and went out to the same club, he wasn’t there. During that night out I spoke to someone, got their socials and danced with them. He ended up kissing me and I pulled away and didn’t see him for the rest of the night as I didn’t want to be kissed by him. Ever since H has given me the silent treatment and opened my message about hanging out again but never responded. I knew something was up so I pushed for him to tell me which he eventually did. It turns out the guy who kissed me was the social secretary for the society that H was in to which I had no knowledge of. The guy had messaged me on social media asking how I was feeling the next day and I replied only to be polite. H had been told by the guy that I kissed him and I’m talking to him on social media, which isn’t the case as I’ve had one conversation with him and left it at that. H won’t talk to me and said I was playing games. I explained the situation saying he kissed me and that I didn’t know who he was and I’ve asked if I can make it up to him as H seems to be annoyed at me. This is the same guy who said he doesn’t like me that much and doesn’t get jealous of me and other guys. He has opened my messages explaining what actually happened but hasn’t responded, I’m not even sure if he has read them properly. How do I resolve this? It’s a simple case of miscommunication and exaggeration coming from the society guy and I really want H to be alright with me as I like him and enjoy spending time with him. I haven’t done anything wrong as I pulled away when the society guy kissed me and I haven’t spoken to him since. I just need advice on how to get things back to how they were 😕

My best friend has just had an open relationship with her bf and PLS do not go there. Their open relationship lasted for a week and that ended their 4 year relationship. Jealously issues, feelings etc come into play and it never works out. They were about to be engaged too as my best friend told me he was planning on proposing. In terms of your situation, having kids and a busy life wouldn’t even enable you guys to have an open relationship. What happens if one person wants to go out leaving the kids with the other parent? That seems unfair and wrong to me. I think you need to tell her you are uncomfortable with the thought and maybe ask her deep down why she wants to even have one in the first place as for an adult with two young children that seems to be the last thing on someone’s mind IMO.

I have been talking to this guy on and off for a few weeks. He admitted to having feelings for me and I did also, but said he doesn’t wanna progress things further. We’ve entered kind of a situationship now and he’s said that in 4 months (he finishes uni then) that things will be different. I tried questioning him on what he meant but didn’t get an answer. I went out clubbing one night and I sent him a voice note when I got back at around 4am to say hi as I was drunk and that I got back alright. He usually goes out on the same night as me but didn’t this time. In the voice note my male flatmate spoke. I tried talking to him the next day to apologise for the voice note as it was random and at 4am when he was asleep. I also asked if I could see him before I go away on holiday, I got no response. I said that it didn’t matter in the evening and he texted me back being very hostile and said “didn’t you literally have a guy in your bed last night”. This wasn’t the case so I sent a few angry messages back telling him not to make accusations like that and that it was just my flatmate. He opened the messages a day after me sending them and never replied. I messaged him again and am yet to receive a response. How do I go about this? I’ve explained myself yet I cannot get a response from him. He’s been on social media and hasn't opened my messages.

Yes this is the same guy. I just don’t know what to do and it hurts to move on without closure that I would get from this conversation. I don’t want to have feelings for him and I’m not entirely sure what I want for myself. It feels like he’s refusing to allow me to move on and I don’t want him to come back at a later date once he has finished uni in 4 months to have a relationship.

I’m in a situation with a guy. We both like each other yet he doesn’t want anything which I agreed on. We entered a situationship and now he isn’t talking to me cause he caught feelings and is jealous about me going out with my friends clubbing. I don’t want this as I want to continue talking to him. I’ve tried to have a conversation with him in person which he agreed upon but hasn’t given me a time meaning I’ve been waiting over a week. I told him I want this conversation to clear up on what is happening and if I need to move on or not from the situation. He’s been opening my chats and said it wasn’t necessary for a conversation which there is as I need to know what is happening with us. I sent him a message in response and he hasn’t responded yet been on social media. What do I do?

To make it clearer for you all, he doesn’t want me to kiss or get with other guys in the club but he has done this himself with girls and still wants too, he just doesn’t want me to do it as he gets “jealous”. It is essentially a case of double standards and I’m not too sure how I should approach this in the future if he decides to message me or talk in person.

Me and a guy both like each other. We met three weeks ago and have spent all day texting and majority of the days together. He admitted he gets jealous when I go out clubbing as we both kiss and dance with other people and he cannot handle seeing me do this with other guys. He doesn’t want anything serious with me at the moment and mentioned twice that if he met me 4 months later he would have married me. He has stopped talking to me as he doesn’t want his feelings to get deeper. He is going out tonight with his mates to a club. I have the opportunity to go and I could see him there which may make him jealous. I want him to come and speak to me as he won’t respond to my messages on social media which is why I wanna go. What should I do regarding this whole situation with him?