smackie9

You are too tied to "I saw a future with him" But he's not the right one...even tho it's hard to let go....best to block/delete, put your SM on private. Make sure he has no access to contacting you...maybe change your cel number.

Well that's a whole laundry list of NOPE. You want your issues solved? get rid of the problem...HIM!

It could be OCD/anxiety. Her behavior...tho not uncommon, is not normal. I'm sure if you said anything she would just lose her #$%^ on ya. say things like "after all I have done for you! You don't love me anymore!, what's gotten into you, this is not the daughter I know ( my mother says that ugh!). Nothing you can do about it. This is her disorder/personality. It won't change unless she can see it from your end and knows how bad it actually is.

You supported this lazy #$% for 2 years? and then he says to find a better paying job? Giiiirrrrrl where is your self worth? kick this guy to the curb. Ain't no man worth that.

An interested guy will be interested and tie you down/keep seeing you because you mean that much to them, don't want another guy to scoop you up. These guy...zero. They just wanted to sleep with you...that's why.

He's seen you naked....I don't think he's going to mind.

I wouldn't think so. She was just being helpful...maybe study next time....then that would impress her that you are no slacker.

With narcissists it is all about control. By you ignoring him, you have taken control of the situation. It's driving him mad. If I were you I would change my number.

You should be putting your child first and work on getting a proper steady home life for her. He's not a stable person. Him going in and out of jail is him never wanting to grow up or commit to making a real life with you.

I totally can relate. I find it exhausting too listening to my husband draw out his conversations....I'm saying in my head "get to the damn point already" I usually don't go with him if I know it's going to be hours. It's not unusual for us to go solo to events. I'm good for a couple of hours then I'm done. Sometimes I leave on my own, or I go sit somewhere like outside to just breath. But ya there's nothing wrong with grabbing an Uber and going home alone early. What I have started to do is tell him the time I expect us to leave, that I'm not staying late a head of time. So he knows when I say it's time to leave, it's time to leave.

first off, you should have called him out on his bs excuses right there. He lied to you and you shouldn't put up with that. Secondly you need to express how it made you feel to him. You both need to communicate better about this.

End the relationship and start fresh by being single and just date,...discover who you are, build a life of your own, grow, and go forward. Then you will be ready to get into a relationship that enhances your life, not take it over.

Men don't contact a woman because they don't want to. An interested man shows he is interested and would try to tie you down before someone else scoops you up. This was a one and done. I think you got way too excited about your connection you felt with him making yourself think it was a for sure thing. Players can be that...give the BF experience to get sex easily. He probably said all the right things, has seemingly lots in common with you, etc. This is why you need to be suspicious of this sort of instant connection...too good to be true. Got to give it time, see how he treats you, see if he takes the initiative, solid honest respectful consistent communication, takes you out on thoughtful dates, remembers how you like your coffee or your favorite things. That's when you know a guy is being receptive to you and your needs.

He sounds like a great guy with lots in common with you. I don't think he's going anywhere lol. He has been communicating well, letting you know he will be very busy so he won't be available to chat like before. I feel is a very good sign.

Maybe he does have a wondering heart and is operating with in the parameters of being a dutiful brother in law...no hanky panky just orbiting. But I wouldn't find it odd for him to escort her shopping, taking his brother's place. Does he do theses things when his brother is right there? If the brother doesn't see anything wrong, then maybe you are looking through this with jealous eyes.

Having fantasies are perfectly normal. I find it very unrealistic to be faithful in your own thoughts/daydreams. If you want to act on them, then it's unfair to you and your BF. get to college and see where you are at. Then you can make your decision then.

You did the right thing. He had no real reason to contact you, especially when he was the one that caused you so much grief. I would say he's casting a line out to see if you will bite. Well too frickin bad I say...he can go stuff it.

When you have arrangements like this, communication is important especially if the subject arises about wanting more, less or different. If you are catching feelings, then it's time to have a conversation with him about it. Then cut ties if he doesn't feel the same way.

Your taxes from last year, recent pay statement.

OK so you had a triggered situation. I suggest you delete your FB account and start a fresh one eliminating any old photos from popping up. Or completely get off that social media platform. Find a different app and make a new start. It's all about changing your habits to move forward.

When someone goes distant on you, you ask what you can do to help or what you can expect from him like does he need space, want to take a break, etc. If that isn't adequate or fulfill your expectations, you call it quits. No one that is respectfully interested in you would do that crap. I find it immature to not communicate truthfully....to me that is a requirement of yours, and if he ain't doing it, then he's not worth your time.

Simple solution....end the relationship.

As for a first date, I'm old school the man pays. After that it goes how you want it to go with some communication. Some men insist on paying all the time, some split the bill, some alternate. Whatever way one is comfortable with. Me me and my husband alternate except for special occasions. He pays.

Did you even ask her out? or to meet at least?

The apps are not a safe place for women....at least not anymore. It's way too easy for predators, criminals, etc to take advantage, then disappear, be untraceable. People lie about who they are, what they do, are married, in other relationships, dupe you into having to cover an expensive bill when the check comes. It's user beware.