I officially started dating my current boyfriend about three months ago in November, but we had been going out since early September. Everything was going well until recently when his ex-girlfriend reached out to me online, trying to warn me about him. My bf explained their past and her extreme jealousy issues so I brushed off her messages. However, last night, she messaged me again, claiming to have hacked into my boyfriend's Instagram account. She shared screenshots of messages between him and multiple other women.
These messages included two from our non-official dating phase, where he complimented his ex-friend with benefits and tried to hook up with her and flirted with another random Instagram woman. The other two were from when we were in a committed relationship. One involved him flirting with another random Instagram girl, calling her babe and baby with kissing emojis on the day of him asking me to be his gf! The second was him messaging another girl, complimenting her gorgeous photos and asking where she's from. That one was from 1 month into our relationship.
Confronting him, he became defensive, insisting that the messages were innocent. He explained away the compliments, downplaying the significance of his interactions. He claimed that his ex-girlfriend's only goal is to break us up and argued that half of those messages occurred when we weren't officially together. He also said that when he said “gorgeous photos” to that one girl he meant her non-selfie pics, but she only has 1 non selfie and he likes all her selfies lol. Despite his apologies and declarations of love, I am deeply hurt and uncertain about how to proceed. He has always liked these women’s selfies on Instagram and I had always been weary about it, but these messages really confirmed a lot for me. I told him I have to think about this.
