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Sometimes, i made my gf angry but i don't know what i did wrong. then i'll start guessing what am i wrong at and ask her if i'm correct. but even i'm correct, she won't even admit then i cant be sure what i'm wrong at. so how can i spot my mistake and how can i make her less angry??!!? plz help........i often offend her, stupid me.

Actually, I'm kinda like A in my current life situation. Though B didn't pretended to be my gf* and chatted with me. In fact, my gf* keeps on mentioning B to me. I'll also get mad and jealous. But that's in the past. Recently, what my gf* did was, she asked me what I am jealous about and she told me why she is so close to B(e.g. B's good personalities,she feel comfortable with B). and the way she showed care and concern, hoping to help me end my jealousy makes me feel that my relationship between her and me is not as bad as B and her's. Show him that you really wanna help me solve his problems. Ask, ask and ask. My first time helping people to solve problem. Pardon me. *in fact, she is not my gf but just a girl i like and i'm dating her. since u both are bf and gf, i'm sure your relationship are more steady than ours, so when i can get out of the jealous life, u both, too, can. Best of luck. Keep us updated!

first question is on the topic title.^^^ second question: honestly, i enjoy talking to girls more than to guys. 8) how can i become good friends of theirs, not just friends?

when one is unhappy/unsatisfied with themselves e.g. studies,look.... she will have their reasons. when i try to cheer them up, she will give me her reasons which makes me speechless. i think i should not justified her reasons for whatever she is unhappy with. and the reasons she will give seems right. e.g. maybe ppl are saying she is ugly but not to me though. but i don't want to agree with her cause that will make her more sad. how should i cheer one up when she has her own reasons and they seems to be true? And what should i say/do when a friend cries?

There's two problems I'm facing. It's going to be lengthy- be patient. One I've dated a girl I like once then after that, she told me she doesn't wanna advance so fast with me in terms of relationship but she told me she is interested in me(we've know each other for about 2 months before i dated her). She said she allows me to go out with friends. She goes out 6-7 times a week but never did she called me out. I don't know why, maybe she's shy. So i'm thinking of volunteering myself to go out with her friends because she seems to be dropping hints like she will tell me where and what she is going and doing tml. but i feel thick-skinned and i'm not sure if she is really dropping hints. So should i still volunteer myself? I've also thought of asking her out, allowing her to call one or two of her friends. She is the type who goes out in the afternoon and return home at night and goes out to have fun. I don't think I will be able to do that. So overall, what should i do?! Two In the first part, I mentioned she goes out 6-7 times a week right. Ok, there's one guy who she liked before has been going out with her group of friends(her group just consists of 3 girls including her and him though sometimes he may invite one of his male friend). This guy who she liked has been going out with her for about 4-6 times a week. Then, there was once when I get utterly upset that I'm not being asked out but he does. Then she noticed it, and told me he is her closest male friend. but close friends doesn't mean her love for this guy will not grow back right? What's wrong with me? Jealous? Insecure? Help me, I don't wanna get upset and bothered everytime i get to know she went out with him because i know he will continue to go out with her. Help!! I've been posting the same things over and over again. I wanna stop this.

Hi, this post is to everyone. Can i know how do you people define romanticism and what does a romantic gift means?

no, actually i do know some of her and i find that she really likes to talk about recent happenings like what happened yesterday with her church (just an example). she is also kinda the busybody type. so sometimes i may ask about her friends...gossip about others with her(not negatively tho) hehe. however, the problem is these convo topics don't last long and we may stay online for very long. then i may to ask about her but she feels that the topic is boring. ok from the previous replies, i got one tip. that's to talk about myself right then see if she can open up herself. anymore tips?

plz help...i'm the type of ppl who cant find things to talk about...

i meet a girl who don't like to talk about HERSELF. now what do i chat about? i can't ask questions about her, so what should i do?

no....it's longer than one month. around 4 months. 4 months! and i'm still at this kinda stage with her... geez

is it because you are shy? if yes, then look in between their eyes.

she feels fine with the current situation between me and her. we chatted once in a few days through net. sometimes, i call her. we seldom have the chance to see each other. she is always occupied with her friends - going out. so i don't have the chance to ask her out. i feel think-skinned to volunteer myself to go out with her friends, maybe she have some reasons for not asking me out. so what should i do to advance? i don't wanna remain something like her internet chatting partner. it suxs. to me, it seems like i'm wasting all my love and she is not responding to it or something.

i've have the same problem. she doesn't wanna move on, fine with current situation but not me. i don't wanna jus chat three to four times a week. i wanna be closer to her but she dun wan to move on. i've asked her out but she dun wan and rather goes out with her friends almost everyday because it's school holidays now. what should i do? i wanna give up but i still have emotional attachment. on the other hand, if i still wait, i'm not sure if there will be any chance. sorry for making use of your topic.

how do i help someone who has negative views on her/his life? A real life situation : she will always think that she will fail for her mathematics test. and her prediction was right. she's really weak in maths. other than providing me with solutions for this situation, i would also appreciate general solutions to all kinds of pessimistic problems. thx.

i'm awaken! i'm now back to normal, clear-headed. all the sadness that was caused by the girl i like is gone. BUT, there's still one thing i need to know because i think i don't possess it. not everyone has it when they are born, some have to learn it. how do i attract her, win her heart and understand her personalities( i mean know her really really deep e.g. how will she react to something when done to her, is she sociable, friendly etc...what does she like to chat about? more n more). the problem to understanding her personalities is that, i usually assume her personalities from what she does so it makes me unsure if my assumptions are correct. help help help

i've gone out with this girl once, one to one. then, a few days later, she told me she doesn't wanna get serious with me so soon, as in she doesn't want to have very close relationship with me yet. then she suggested that she will invite me out in a group with her friends. so i said "fine" because i trust her to ask me out. BUT she didn't! i don't know if she has any reasons, but she don't seem to try to create chances/opportunities. worse, a few days ago, when she went out with her friends, she invited my friends(guys) and not me. PS : my group of friends is quite close to hers. i may sound quite possessive, but i feel that she didn't take her promise to heart. i feel that she is breaking my trust for her. have she lose interest in me?

er...u missed out my last question. hehe thx anyway

i've tried to be confident by telling myself not to let that idiot destroy my self-esteem. but those events that made me jealous won't get out of my head. i'll keep recalling again and again. and somehow, stupidly, i feel sad.

i've just know this fact a few minutes ago and got jealous like hell! the girl i like(queen), with a friend of hers(lets call her Whoever, she is a girl) went out with a guy that queen liked in the past. this guy came out with a f***ingly lame(i assume) excuse to ask her out. He wanna buy a pair of jeans. i dunno if this guy is fighting with me or wadsoeva, but i instantly felt jealous after queen told me. ARRRHH. WHY?! i used an advice - talk to queen. it won't help! Please help me!

huh!? can us, guys really ask a women "did u want me to kiss you?"? i thought girls will be tune off when they hear this? and somemore, will they be brave enough to say "yes"?

u mean i should listen and understand right? does this "understand" means to make a deduction of what she is feeling at that moment of time when she speak that sentence? and u also said that some are not really aware of the other party's state or reflexes pertaining to the topics discussed. so does that mean i have to consider what i'm going to say first, and then either say it out or not? btw, i'd missed out one more question in my previous post. how can i understand one personalities from purely verbal conversation? do i keep asking questions about her e.g. what's ur hobbies, fav. stuffs and so on? huh?

i'm in the process of wooing a girl. i occasionally calls her but everything seems so bland. most of the time, we are out of topics. and i have a problem - understanding people. can anyone teach me how to keep conversation going and understand her and of course all of the humans from just verbal conversations?

this year is the year i'm graduating from my secondary schooling. the same goes to the girl i like. beginning of this year, i'm going very well with her. however, as time goes by, i've got quite hasty and had my first date with her because everything seems fine. she said she wants me to backward to how we were like in the beginning of the year. in fact, this happened recently and i did not called her anymore from then on, seemingly nothing to chat with her anymore. our relationship seems to have "coolen" and plain. there's nothing ongoing between us, no connection with her, nothing at all! i don't have anything to chat with her. both of us kinda become friends( or are we already friends in the beginning?). i'm afraid after the school graduation, our connection will end, i'd have no excuse to talk to her or maybe she will not want to continue having any connection with me. in fact, i planned to spice up our relationship on her coming birthday. any recommendation? i missed my first chance of kissing her on the first date. should i take this opportunity?

sometimes when he sees me playing basketball, he will ask me why am i here. there's one time when he offered me a bun because he don't want it but i ignored him. sometimes he may look at me and smile. he is such a freaky idiot

ok...i get what u mean. i'll just be myself and don't care about him right? but there's still a problem. he does approach me and ask me questions. everything he approached me, i'll keep my mouth shut, ignore him and walk away. then this idiot will ask queen whether i'm angry at him. then queen will ask me if it's true. i know if this goes on, queen will find out that i dislike idiot. but i DON'T WANT to talk to idiot so what should i do? how can i change my mindset about idiot that he is a good guy?