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Don't tell her you love her..you may but you don't want to start telling her that cause it will more than likely scare her off..Try and talk to her more and suggest getting together over the summer holidays or talk to her friends and yours about getting together to do something.. Phil

You need to talk to her about this..she's probably talking to other guys maybe because she is getting the attention or since you two don't talk she is getting this from someone else.. As for her parents being cautious about letting her go out with you..is there something you do or have done that makes them think that. More than likely its them just being a bit overprotective of their daughter..perhaps she is just now starting to date or something.. Hope that helps Phil

Just wait I predict in the next 5-10 years the number of reported cases of STD's among teens will jump high and of course there will be a news report here and there about "Oh how did this happen"..and blah blah blah..Well it's like Sweetharmony said you got teens running around showing off parts of their rear end and god knows what else to attract guys attention. The whole world in my opinion has Britney Spears, Christina Aguiliera, Madonna, and those stupid Olsen Twins to blame for all of this..celebrities dress like they were attending a freak show and every one wants to be just like them so they dress like that too and when the celebs start talking about sex being "No big deal"..i think thats how Britney Spears said it once..the kids agree it's obviously No Big Deal..I mean Britney said that so it has to be right would be there only argument to defend it. Phil

If I were you I would talk to your gf about this..tell her about your parents being of different religions and you not knowing what yours is. I would say go with her because that way get an idea of what her religion is like..you might want to join it..I would talk to her about all of this though Phil

Good Luck man..Personally I would've gone with Girl #2..I mean no offense but let's say you get shot down by Girl 1..who is to say that when u turn around to your fallback(Girl 2)..she all of a sudden decided to go out with someone else cause she got tired of waiting around on you. But as the old song in the 80's by Talk Talk that was later redone by Madonna goes my life don't you forget"..well its your life your decision hope you get with one of them at the least. Let us know how it goes. Phil

Ok you think Girl 1 will say yes because she's the type that will give people a chance..what if she doesn't?..and who is to say you go out on one date OR two and it still doesn't do it for her..she still doesn't have the same attraction to you. Girls 2 and 3 are like I said practically begging you do this for me..give one of them a chance ok..you don't have to work to get them cause they want you!..I'm telling you your gonna go after Girl 1 and waste all your efforts and then decide to give girls 2 and 3 a chance since you figure they'll be waiting well guess what..chances are they won't be waiting around for you anymore..they'll be gone and hooked up with someone who wants them.. Just my advice to you..Go with girls 2 or 3..even if you don't think it will be good do it anyway cause you never know!.. Phil

The only way you'll know how he feels about you is if you act on your instincts. Pick up the phone..who knows..he may be sitting around thinking up a good way to ask you out or wondering if you like him or not..The worst thing that would happen is he'd say no..but I really don't see that happening..You won't make a fool out of yourself..thats for sure..Chances are he'll be flattered you called him wanting to go out with him I know if that happened to me I would..Let us know how it goes. Phil

As far as I know the U.S. Military does not give more money to a soldier. Being married allows the soldier and his/her family to live on base with the govt. picking up the cost of living for them..thats really the only thing I know of..as far as I know they won't let gf's fiancee's live on base with them..its gotta be legally married last I remember. Phil

Ok if I were you I would go with Girl 2 or 3 yea I'm sure Girl 1 sounds great but she doesn't feel the same way about you so you might as well forget. It seems girls 2 and 3 are almost wearing signs saying "Please go out with me"..As for waiting until you get your license that's good I would do that..just make sure you've got some driving experience in and DO NOT Speed with your girl in the car to try and impress her..I don't think she'll be impressed when she see's your having to spend your money on a reckless driving ticket than dinner for you and her or a gift for her or something..not to mention she probably won't like you very much if you get in a wreck!! But keep being chivalristic..From what I gather the ladies like that alot. Hope that helps some Phil

Well FDKasj I've never had a gf but this is just my opinion take it or leave it but this is how I think you should do it: 1st. Off I would wait a just a little while longer 3 weeks is still kinda new..I don't know if other posters will agree with me on that or not.. 2nd. Get her alone somewhere where u two won't be bothered like go to a movie and then find a park nearby and walk around there and look for a bench and then just tell her how much you like her and care about her and would like her to be your gf.. Other posters may be able to help u some but hopefully I did. Phil

Thanks everyone Mahlina especially all of these posts made me feel better about what I've been thinking lately..Luckily I start summer college classes next week and I've landed a fairly decent job so who knows whats in store for me. P.S. Congrats Mahlina on making Royal Member!!..your one of the best posters on here who can give very informative advice that can make a difference in the people who are reading them or needing the advice.. Phil

Ok normally I wouldn't post like this since after what happened to me and the last girl I tried to ask out failed but basically I've been doing alot of thinking and I ask this alot about myself: Why is it that I'm 20 now and still no gf, nothing..I'm not a big partier at all since that last post I made you'd know that but I'm just wondering if maybe I should just give up concentrate on finishing college and getting my degree and starting my career and just voiding it all out of my life?..I mean I haven't gotten anywhere now so why keep trying?..What do you guys think? Phillip

Yea you should drunken psyche you really don't have anything to lose out of he's says no just go on and try something else. Phil

Just wondering here...why is it that most girls seem to be in this 'party' or clubbing phase..I mean is there anyone out there who'd rather find enjoyment doing something I don't know..sober like watching a movie or going to one or just hanging out together doing stuff..just seems like alot of girls I talk to are like that..Just wondering Phil

To all those who I see writing about whether a guy or girl likes them I just wanna say to all you guys..the best way to ever find out is to either start talking to them especially if you haven't before or are shy and ask them out to something like to a coffee shop to study..I'm telling you if you talk to the person for a while they become more relaxed around you and when you ask them your odds are better at getting a positive response than rejection..I did it recently with a girl I like..turns out she has a bf so I got burned but if anything I've learned that all you do is go up to guys or girls u like and Be Yourself..and talk to them..it works magic and if you get burned like I do you realize that you learned how to build your confidence when talking to girls or guys better than where you were to begin with..Just some advice I thought I'd share for those who are shy take it from me a shy guy just bite your tongue and do it and the more times you do your shyness will wear away.. Phil

Well the title of my post pretty much speaks for itself..I met with her again this morning to study and we we're talking about what we're gonna do over the summer break and I mentioned my b'day was coming up and she said that's the same day as her bf.. When I heard that I was disappointed because I was certain I was going to get a date with her..but I didn't I just took my final and got outta there. You know sometimes I think that God is punishing me for something and I don't know what it is I did..I mean I got along great with this girl and I mean she wasn't the hottest of them all but I thought she looked good I mean I'm no mr. fabio but I think I look good considering I look at how I was before I lost a lot of my weight and its different I turn 20 in just a few weeks and I am going to summer school starting the 26, maybe I'll meet someone there but the more I think about it the next girl I meet will probably be taken..maybe I'm like others doomed to wander this earth all alone..If anything good came out of all this its that it helped me get over my shyness when talking to girls and asking them to meet up and stuff so maybe some good will come out of all this but I see it as without disappointment you can't appreciate victory. I just wanna say thanks to everyone that posted and pm'd me regarding all this I appreciate everyone's replies they all helped me a lot with this and I hope soon I'll be on here asking you guys for help with a new girl..I just hope its sooner rather than later.. Thanks everyone I don't know where I'd be if I didn't have this site to post to. Phil

Ok I met up with this girl tonite and we studied for our final...I think everything went well we we're there for about 2 hours and the whole time we both made jokes about the material or teasing each other about knowing the answers to certain questions..she seemed to always look me in the eyes and I did the same..she's got a pretty pair of green ones too!! anyways she kept playing with her hair alot when I was talking to her she actually called me a few mins ago to make sure the time for the final was right and mentioned how she was gonna be studying tomorrow in the libarary before the final if I wanted to come by and I said I would I wanna ask her out to something else but not sure how or if she really seems to like me..I mean we each have each others phone numbers so thats a good start I guess...Thanks for any advice Phil

thanks for all the replies...turns out she did NOT forget..she called me this morning asking if we could meet this evening instead of afternoon and I said yes so I'll post later on how everything goes..I hope it goes well i really like her. Phil

Ok tomorrow i'm supposed to meet this girl to study I talked to her on wednesday on the phone since i have her phone number... is it normal to be nervous that she's gonna forget about this? I mean when I called her she remembered where and what day we were going to meet and plus I figure if she didn't want to meet she would not have given me her phone number and when I called her she sounded excited that I had called..What do you guys think any replies I appreciate..

Thanks, anyone else have an opinon on the matter?

Ok, I'm going to go meet this girl on sun. at a bookstore to study..how can I go about asking her if she wants to do something else sometime I mean after we're finished like how can I tell if she would be open to going on a date with me unless you would consider me meeting her and studying a date?..I guess I'm doing alright because she gave me her phone number Any replies I'd appreciate on this..Thanks Phil

Thanks mahlina..I can't see myself being like the guy your talking about usually when I'm talking to her I keep eye contact smile and say sort of ask questions to let her know I am paying attention to her but I'm always able to get her to laugh..I kinda see it as this I've obviously been doing something right if I was able to get her to agree to this and getting her phone number..I just wanna make sure I don't talk too much I really want to hear her talk..I always get a kick out listening to her talk about herself and where she's from cause she's from the northwest U.S. and her accent is really cute when she talks plus I get a better idea of who she is. But thanks again Phil

Thanks for the replies I was already planning on paying for her's I just wanted to make sure it was the right thing to do..Is there any type of subtle flirting I can use with her while we're going over this stuff for our final?..Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?..Bueller?

OK, in my last post I wrote about this girl I'm supposed to meet on Sun. to study well she wanted to work out the details today only she didn't show up..so I called her cause she gave me her number well when she answered and realized it was me she sounded somewhat excited saying "Oh Hey!" like that and not making any excuse to get off the phone and actually remembered what all I asked her about meeting and she still wanted to do it so we worked out a time. So I guess I'm doing something right here but one thing: Should I pay for her drink or whatever or should I just pay for mine?..I need a reply by someone by Sun. Thankyou All Phil

All you gotta do is start talking to them..just go up to one and start talk about something you two do together..like class for instance..ask something like hey did u get the notes from such and such class or whatever.. I am still shy myself but lately it's starting to go away the more you talk to people