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i posted earlier tht i was in a similar situation as the original poster and i felt id give an update... mybe to inspire some of the rest of you I asked a friend if shecould get me the girls screen name for america online instant messenger, so when she said yes and i got it i IMed her and we talked for like an hour so.... try it that way.... it might just be me that finds it easier to talk over the computer but talking to her at all is a good step, no?

well first date isnt exactly what i had in mind but its probably where these are to be best put to use anyway if your gonna critisize other peoples posts post some of your own please 19. favorite color?

it seems to me that the hardest thing for some people is keeping a conversation running. the best way i can think of to remedy this is to continually ask questions until you "strike gold" and branch off into a nice long talk. this is a game i picked up off of another message board. it basically works like it sounds. you put as many good conversational questions as you can (remember to number so that we know when we hit 1001) not only is this really fun but its also very helpful. when we hit 1001 just go "Woot we did it!" and go on... no real reason to stop is there? i suck at questions but ill do a few no-brainers to get us started. (i know they will really suck but when we start to build up a large number they will get better) 1. What kind of music do you like? 2. how was your day? 3. what do you think about abortion? (kinda morbid but its a good topic that ive never seen fail and it will always be a source of healthy [i hope] debate)

haha im in the same boat... cept were in almost all of the same classes and its not her friends that stop me its just the subject *is way to shy*

ok dont know if im allowed to do this (i got yelled at for breaking another forums unwritten rules) i have another prob that i dont think goes on this exact forum. lol i thought everything had worked out but soon after she gave me a note saying that she didnt want a long-term relationship and that i seemed like i did (which i did) then i talk to her about it and it seems like everything is ok again. now this past tuesday she broke up with me and said that she had probs to work out. i still talk to her a lot via AIM and she refuses to tell me whats going on. and now she says it has to do with me. someone say something please.

ok everthing has been worked out now and were a little coser now to show for it

well... i feel stupid now. i got all worried about her being with other guys and when she saw that i was upset she worried about me and i realized how stupid i have been for not trusting her. (though i have plenty of reasons not to) like i said we have plenty of problems I also feel bad cause i wanted to see what people here said before i talked to her about it and i never told her what was going on... grade A moron right here

Ive got enough problems to keep everyone here busy for some time. I thought it would be best to work on each problem seperatly and one at a time. Im startting here. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 3 months any we ge along very well. The problem s that we dont really talk. Its hard to explaine. It kindof feels like we dont need talk. I never worried about this before because I never worried tat I didnt understand her or vis versa. If we did need explaining we would until we both understand. Then after all the explanations were threw there was alwas this silence. I dont want to gush on her or anything it has to get annoying listening to someone go on and on about how they feel about you. And we share a lot of comen interest but no matter what we talk about it always falls short. We cant even fill an hour. This wouldnt bother me if it werent for an event that took place last weekend. A friend of ours had a "girls only" party which she has a lot but our friends older sister invited a bunch of boys. It sounds like the whole time they were there they were playing games like truth or dare and doing stupid stuff like stripping and flashing. This really doesnt bother me but what comes next did. After everyone went to bed my girlfriend stayed up all night and talked with some boy that wasat the party. If this isnt bad enough her parents are really cautious about letting her go out with me. We have only been out a few times because of this. Her parents probably didnt know that there would be boys at the party or that it would be unsupervised they probably only asked if i would be there and when she said no she was on her way. someone please help me. This problem is only minor to the endless amount of problems all related to her. I need group counciling. lol