masterman_05

By breaking up with you, this person is telling you that their level of feeling and commitment is not as strong as yours. Not True. Ive broken up with a girl before because i felt i liked her/loved her more than she loved me. i broke up with her because mu level of feeling n commitment was more. also another point/view In one quote to this is "PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES, MAKE WRONG CHOICES, WRONG DECISIONS OFTEN'. we forgive for other mistakes, why cant we forgive them for breaking breaking up with us ever even of it wa shonest reasons. why should it be one u can never ever forgive? if you were with someone that you truly cared for and had throughts of a long term future with, would you ever risk walking away from the relationship? Hell yah, if i thought it was for best, if i needed to sort my life/stuff out before i could be everything they deserved and i needed to be, before i could make htings work, and hel yah if i do what i usualy do and run for hills as soon as soon as i fall in love instead of embracing it, and hell yah if i just needed some time to be sure b4 i made a big committment. Ive been confised many a times like most ppl, and ive also broken up with a girl n realised few months later how bad a mistake it was n how i truly loved her. I think its better if u need time to think to break up with them n sort ur head out rather than stay with em while ur confused n be possibly leading em on. sometimes it tes a good honest person who truly loves their significant other to break up with them. No, you would stay and try to work things out, like is done in normal, healthy, relationships. When someone breaks up with you, they've quit on you. Not true, sometimes ppl r just needing time to be sure, sometimes ppl make mistakes n bad decisions, or rash decisions, sometimes ppl just dont know how to communicate or arent mature enuff to know how ot yet etc i know alot of ppl who bury their head in the sand rather than face up, it DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION. sometimes its best to break up, doesnt mean u dont love them. LOVE DOES NOT CONQURE ALL. it takes a whole lot more. sometimes after yrs of just love, u have enuff and need to walk away even tho u love them. sometimes it is for the best to let someone go even if u do love them. sometimes ppl break up n later become more compatible, sometimes ppl break up n get back together a yr later when they are in completely diffrent situations n places in their lives n now can truly make it work in a totaly new n diffrent rship, even tho same ppl. as for if u do take them back u will always have a dark cloud ove ryour head, so not true, sometimes ppl break up , get back together with a better understanding of what each other need, how to deal with problems, how to better communicate, sometimes ppl r better off breaking up n than gettin back together..........i knwo i was

I also felt that love has no time limit, sometimes we think we are in love when in fact we just found it hard to differentiate between lust and infatuation with love......but there have been times where i have been asked if i wa sin love, like with my ex, we had been together for 8 months and i was asked if i was yet in love, i had never had a proper rship b4 not serious n proper even tho i am 22, n i was like well, no, i dont think so, not yet anywyas..........n everyone was liek WHAT???????? u have bee with her for 8 months n u arent in love yet? she also told me that MANY of her friends told her to break up with me because i had not told her i loved her yet and it had been 8 months. they said if i didnt think i was then didnt she think that meant i never would be??? but she told me she trusted me n understood me, but it worried me, did it mean i was never going to be in love with her? should i have been by then ( 8 months) we eneded up breaking up because she told me she was in love with me when i went to leave after our first big fight , we had been together 8 n half months, n i felt because i didnt yet feeel that strongly it wasnt fair to stay together. i wasnt ready to be that serious yet, i wasnt ready to be in love, i have hard enuff time already exspressin how i feel so anyways im rambling now any more opinions on the is there a time limit on fallin in love??????????

i was just thinking there MUST be a time limit on falling in love..........i mean for example if you have been with your bf/gf for a yr and you are not yet in love does that mean u never will be with that oerson n u should break up? so this is my question how long is too long to wait to fall in love?????????? 6 months n n in love does that mean its safe to say u arent goin to fall in love with them, or a yr, or 3 months etc etc and my other questions............what was the longest time u had to wait until your significant other told u they were in love with you? thanks so much, very appreciated

ok i broke up with my gf and eveyrone is tellin me how well she dealt with it.........i even worte a post last time aksing if u guys thought she was over me....u all said yes haha...... anyways this is all besides the point, its just she was my first gf and all m mates r sayin usualy girls are really hard to break up with and hassle you etc........... so im just wondering did my ex deal really well? i didnt think she did but then again it wa smy firts break up....... i went to her house, she was layin there tellin me how good i smelt, then she saw i was quiet n worried n asked what was up, she then asked if it was my family, i said no, then she asked if it was about us and i said yes, then she said do u wanna break up....i said yes........ she then rolled over, then back to me and said why, i explained and then she said that she didnt really understand, she started crying, she said 'im sorry but im goin to ask u heaps of questions because when u leave my house today i dont wnat to have to sit here and think about this for hours wondering, i wanna know everything and naythin i can think of so i can let this go n start to move on............she then asked if i ever loved her, if i still did, if ww would get back together, why i feel wya i do, if she did anything..........then she cried more when i said i would never love her n nevr get back with her( i said this even tho its untrue becaus ei wnat her to move on n b happy). she then cried more sayin she didnt wanna have to go thru this again, then she hugged me said it was ineveitable n i should go, she kissed me a few times hugged me, otld me she was ok then said bye, she wrote me an email syain she was sorry for being upset n that she was ok n understood.......... we didnt talk for a mnth then she wrote a hey how r u email, nw we talk once amonth on phone, i usualy call her after she emails a happy hello email, every 6 weeks or so......... do you think she broke up well? she did cry alot and ask alot qs........

even befor eyou mentioned it i was thinking ' uh oh this rom mat eis bad', NO guys friend whether close or not dogs out the other ESPECIALY when it comes to girls, no guy doe sit, its a unspoken rule......... not only that, i just know what hes sayin has motives and i think u do too........what kinda guy rings YOU and asks what your doin when it has NOTHING to do with them.........someone who has their own intrests in the matter..........dont listen to him. instead se ehis words as a good way to know to do the complete opposite

im not ready for kinda rship she needs.....she deserves someone who is......shes older then me in sense she had travelled....ALOT....and has had previous rships...3 to be exact two fairly serious.......she is my first gf........shes happy in her job n ready for rship of serious nature ie marrige soon i spose.......im still studying and i have to move away to get further trainin in my feild and am at moment workin 6 nights a week,,,,im just not ready, even tho i do have feelings for her.........i guess my ego is hurting too........... do u think shes over me? i dont knwo what i want for sure, thats not what im botheredabout at moment im just wonderin if shes over me. dont u think shes dealt really well?

Hey im just wondering what you guys think? my question is : do you think my ex is over me? does it sound like she is? i broke up with her as i got a job working security and was working 6 nights a week, and she works durin the day, it began to make me feel guilty and eventualy feel a kind of resentment for feeling guilty, i just felt i need to do what i need to do and get my life in order b4 i could be with her, we had been together 8 months. we never got to see each other anymore it was ridiculous. i have an issue with myself at moment, and im not good to anyone till my issues r resolved anyways. anyways when i broke up with her of ocurse she cried as did i, bu she dealt really ok, she even wiped my tears n told me not to cry when she said i should go and walked me to my car...she said she would be ok and kissed me...i left........she sent me an email that next day explainaing everything she wanted to so she could say it once and quickly n let it go, she said things about being confused and hoping we oculd be friends, but she basicaly wrote to say she wanted what i did, she loved me n waned me to be happy..........she sent me a txt one week later sayin she hated not knowin how i was.....i replied to the email but not the txt............we didnt talk for a month...then she emailed me sayin hi, but i didnt get to check my email for a week so when i finally got the email, she had sent me another askin why and if i was ignoring her, that she would like us to be friends....she never broght up break up or asking me why i did it to her, she never even got angry with me once, she was alwyas dealin ok, even sayin she understood and that she wnated whatever it was i wnated...i wrote her back and told her i would call that weekend...i did...but we only talked for 4 mins b4 she said her battery was goin flat and she was at a friends house.....she text me a week later apologising for it.........again we didnt talk for a month....then it was her bday and i sent her a bday txt and again sayin i would call her that weekend, she didnt reply. i wasnt able to call that wknd at last min so i sent her a txt sayin i would cal her the next night..she replied sayin it was ok as she was away for long weekend and wouldnt be able to chat anyways and was sorry she hadnt told me sooner, she then said 'u dont have to call me tomorrow if dont wanna and to have a good night'.......i felt bad like she was sayin not to call so i didnt call the next night...that weekend she sent me a txt sayin hey u wanna catch up i called her up and we chatted again for bout 5 mins b4 she said she should go........she sounded really happy and was all fine and then was like oohhhh ok i should go but talk to u later, that was a month ago....... i guess its seems weird to me that shes dealt so well...........do u think shes just over me? what do u think? have u ever heard of someone dealing with a break up so well??? i gues si should count my lucky stars, and that were now still able to be friends, but im confused as to whether shes just over me. do u think it sounds like shes over me? i gues sim lucky to have had someone so undertsanding and shouldnt bother about this

HI, I was wondering what peoples thoughts were on me sending my ex a letter. we were together 10 months, she broke up with me saying she wasnt ready for serious rship and that. not all truth i know more to it then that, there always is. Its been 3 months. I was ok when we broke up even tho it hurt i didnt want to make it worse between us so i let it go. she calls me every few weeks just to catch up. and i still love her but u knwo she did break up with me so what can i do? the thing is i now realise things i didnt do right when we were together, things like how we spent too much time together ( possibly my fault haha) and how i didnt go out with my friends much, she said she wished i did more ( this wasnt cos i wanted to spend time with her, it was because ive been overseas and im not as close with them anymore, and in all my past rships it has caused major problems between us, when i went out with my mates, also i like just stayin in more now, but i never explained this to her) anyways what i was wondering is this...... can i write her a letter sayin sorry for the things i did that contributed to our break up, things like not spending more time away for her to allow us to miss each other, and for not puttin in more effort with her friends etc. she used to exspress these concerns to me but i never fixed em. it was like i didnt listen. or will this just seem like im not movin on? i just wnat her to know i knwo i did things worng too and that im sorry for my bit, n to not feel bad. i just wanted to send a light email sayin ' always meant to tell u i hope u never feel bad or guilty for us breakin up, n im sorry if it seemed i never listened when u told me about htings that bothered u, cos i did , it was me too n im sorry for things i did that contributed in break up like not making more effort to go out with my friends but it was cos i wa shappy just bein on own and they live so far away n were distanced now, plus it caused major probs in my last rships n i was scared it owuld with us, but i should talked to u bout it. so neevr feel bad or anything, i understand everythin. we all learn form these things were we should changed things n so we can necxt time. just know that i know i contributed alot n im sorry for that. what do u think? will she think im just not gettin over it?

I can not believe that the only advice you were given that had the onlyl obvious and LOGICAL back up to it was charlotte_skyes and you completely ignored it. Everyone preaches nc like it is what makes the rship work again, it may get him al worried n nervous just like thye said but it WONT make him stay with you. he has a new gf and he is still with her even tho hes been begin n promisin you these things bout lovin u and wnatin to get bk together and yet u still think that he loves u??? you think that if u ignore him he will comeback n u will live happily ever after ......HARDLY. u shouldtn HAVE to ignore him. talking about why u broke up,, how u feel, being honest is best chance of making it last if u do get back together. he has only started to beg because he lost his back up. ppl love havin someone around, like cheaters or have gfs, esp someone he knows wont leave like you, u guys were 2gether for 3 yrs, hes havin his cake n eating it too, he doesnt wanna loose the security u offer. stop listening to what u wanna believe and face the facts. 1. he left you 2. he didnt care till u ignore dhim 3. are you together now? 4. is there a GOOD reason why? a good reason like hes dead, or in hopspital in a coma 5. has he got a new gf? cmon darl face facts. look up soime of dragon girls stuff, she explain how nc desnt work. its to heal not get em back

intresting. I guess what i think is that TRUE love may conquer all, but it is only because it has conquered all that makes it true love. i believe in fate, like my parents, the were meant to be so they are. But i know my mother had truly loved someone before my father yet they split up when she wasnt ready for serious rship so young. i guess to be in love doesnt mean you will be able to work through anything, and if you dont work thru everything doesnt mean it wasnt love. I think love makes u stretch further then u thought possible but when u still have to stretch even further....well....there is a limit to what everyone is capable of, sometimes we reach our max anyone got any examples on this topic?

does everyone on here really believe that of someone does love you they would never break up with you???? im very intrested by this, because i feel like im the only one who doesnt agree........ hasnt anyone got any phobias, excess baggage, previous trauma???? and these are only a few of the many things that come with rships, not to mention pressure , i know love is above all this but after awhile, after everyting all at once, after u just feel too insignificant against al the stress, it can sometimes become more sensible or better to break up. i feel like 'love conquers all' is the biggest myth about love. i for one have broken up with a gal who i loved more then anyone, at the time i was PETRIFIED of being in love with someone in a country where i only held a temporary visa PLUS my fear of committment ontop of that, believe me i tried, i did, we even tried to get her to move here and when there was no way except to get married i just couldnt, i wasnt ready n it took me over 2 yrs to get over her, i still think of her all the time, it took me so long because is o deepy loved her, still do in ways, its just the timing wasnt right, n i wasnt hwo i needed to be, and i couldnt cope at the age i was, and where i was in life, it just overtook me, of course i regretted alot but she move don, and i wastn able to do anything about it at time. i duno i just wasnt. also my best mate is terrified of flying, his dream is to road trip round usa, hes even saved up for it and everything in past, but in end has never gone because hes so scared of flying........its a severe phobia.....which reminds me of my ex rship........ another friend of mine has been in rship where there was jus too much to deal with for so long, money, kids, eerything and in the end i believe love does NOT conquer everything ad make it ok..........sometimes people cant cope, love is so strong and sometimes its too much for us imperfect humans, it takes two in a rship, it thereforeeee takes two peoples love to outhold all the dramas n pressur elife brings n sometimes love feels less significant in the big scheme of things......... sometimes we just feel we need space, sometimes we just know it wont work unless we do something else first like be alone. sometimes we need to get over things from our past liek abuse before we can completely trust and love..... you can love someone n break up with them, its jst the problems causing the break make your love seem less of an option, or less possible.... sometimes it is easier to bury your head in sand, not only this but everyone is diffrent, some peole really do have issues, some people deal diffrently, doesnt mean they didnt love. does noone else agree?

I was wondering my ex broke up with me fater 10 months as not ready for serius rship, we have always been open n honest and even with this we didnt figt but understood one another. we didnt talk for a month n then wrote each other a email, since then sh has called me to 'catch up' i couldt talk long though, she then wrote me a email a month later for my bday n said she would call that weekend, she sent message that weekend sayin she couldntcall cos of work, i wrote back sayin that was cool and i was out anyways, she said she would call the next day. i missed her call. i messaged her to see if she wnated to chat, she called me up and we chatted. im now wondering are we friends? we never chat bout break up or ive never demanded explanations or begged her back nuttin, everything has always been supportive with us. im just thinkin we seem to now chat bout once a month.............will this effect our chances of gettin back together for worse or better? i wnather back but if being her friend will lessen the chances of that i dont wnat to b her friend. are we even friends cos we only talk once a month at most. it hasnt been that long since split. does being friends lessen chances of gettin back together?

do you think that it is at all possible that someone can love u etc but just simply not be ready for serious rship? has anyone loved someone and just held back cos wasnt ready for serious rship n it was def heading that way????

have any dumpers out there assumed no contact after they broke up with their bf/gf on NOT bad terms? I know alot of ppl who GET dumped assume no contact to help get over it........... wondering if the DUMPERS also do this at times and WHY

Has anyone broken up with someone cos where they were in life, n it was an ok break up, no fighting or anything, there was understanding. but then a month or so later started considering maybe wanting to gte back with that person but felt too arkward to say anything to them, or to get in otuch with them and ask em back?

Hiya, thanks for your help. I have read up alot on this illness and although it is more common for older ppl and all i actually think it seemed to fit well. He was put into a psycho ward once and he was diagnosed with alocholic psychosis but i still like to find out for myself ( just that kinda person). He drinks alot, he has drunk for yrs and he doesnt stop when he starts gettin to the point of psychosis, it is the scariest thing, if you saw him and especially his behaviour the oddness of his looks and actions u too would understand why i am looking towards belivin this alcoholic psychosis diagnosis and even the possibility of schizophrenia rather then just beliving it was because he was drunk, I mean i know what some ppl can get like when their drunk like violent and abusive etc but this is so so sooooooooo very different, u cant explain it u just knwo when u see it, its so something more. I know they say schizophrenia is rarely related with violnce but it can be and they alcoholic psychosis is usualy a comborbid disease meaning they may already have on illness which doesnt surface until something else ( another menatal illness allows it too) for example my ex may be schizophrenic but didnt knwo until his alcoholic psychosis came through. His brother was suspected schizophrenia also and i dunno im just tryin to see if anything fits. In relation to your other questions things had continued to be bAD since the things this other person told me......what he did to me happened after they happened to her, she was his ex b4 me, he did it to her then he did it to me, the last time he hit me( the last time i saw him) was 3 mnths ago. I have thought of gettin a dvo ( domestic violence order ) but have been warned by police and others not too as it doesnt REALLY prevent him for doin nayhting, cos if hes goin to do it hes just goin to do it anyways, and me gettin a restraining order or a dvo may be the actualy thing to CAUSE him to do somehting to me, when he finds out i got a order on him he may want to get at me, which i would believe. His sayin he fantatsises abotu killing people and all really freaks me out,ive seen that look on his face, in his eyes and ive seen his anger and need for revenge and his almost psychotic belifes, do you think this would be a cause of alcoholic psychosis or does this fantasising about killing ppl and watchin ppl on the st and then follwoing them and loving makin them scared is more of a more serious mental illness or not even a menatl illness or what, whats your thoughts on him thinking and doing this? he used to get really hyper n then tell her about how he followed a person n wntched them n loved making them scared. The scary thing is people dont realize or understand hw much your in a no win situation, for example i cant prptect myself TO protect myself as i just explained, and i cant warn others that are in great danger of his violence as he will knwo it was me. its really really hard and the one thing i need to atleats make this alil easier is to understand and i cant. thankyou for your help , so much. really!

Hi, Basically im just hoping more then anything that someone may know osmehting about this stuff and help me out so kindly! I was involved with a guy ad he was the most sweetes caring person, but sometimes when he was mad got this look in his eye that ive never seen on anyone and was so so so scary, i gues si knew he had anger issues but hed never REALLY done anything to me to concern me of it that much. You could easily think he would never hurt a fly, but then i broke up with him and its like he pretended he understood and stayed very close with me and i believed this ot be sincere but then it wa slike he manipulated the whole relationship to get back at me for breaking it off, he drank alot but i never thought he was an alcoholic because he didnt drink ALLL the time, anyways long long story short he hit me a cpl of times when he was drunk and threatened me etc, this was when i left him and i dont see him. anyways i found out through a perosn i know who also once went out with him that he used to steal money and not pay rent and spend all on alcohol and used to beat them up and tell them how he would love to kill someone and even used to watch people on the street and fantasise abotu killing them.....this obviously has really REALLY concerned me and im now scared even for my own life, she told me hes been hospitalized before and she thinks he has alcoholic psychosis, now does anyone know nay facts on this???? does anyone knwo much on schizophrenia? can u list some symptoms for me if you do. Please let me knwo if you know stuff about alocholic psychosis, i need to know. do you think this is serious, im scared about him fantasising about killing ppl and follwing them and watching them.

Hi, Well I am GIRL, my username often confuses ppl. I was wondering this anyways: My boyfriends ex has been telling me ( shes a somewhat friend, as in i know her, we go to school together, college) and she has told me of all the horrible things he did to her, one thing was beating her, I know he has a anger problem and temper, I have seen him hit holes in a wall before, but she has told me lots of things about their r/ship and past etc all bad and their fighting and not friends anymore and all this stuff is going down between them and peopel around them, my boyfriend says shes lying and shes just jealous, but she broke up with him and a long time ago but they were still sleeping together again 3 mnths after they broke up and remained mates. Is she just jealous or could she be telling the truth? I suppose her telling me has mad her look bad/jealous, what do u think?

i need advice pls! i was totaly into this girl, we got together and everything wa sperfect for 2 mnths, by this time i was falling for her and then all sudden shes offered a job abroad for 4 mnths and she takes it up. form the beginning she was alil scared about gettin involved, scared of being hurt etc etc and then when she knew she was going away and all she decided she wnated to break up, she was freaking out. this obviously crushed me, i was so upset, everything was going so well and then this, anyways the thing is we still had feelings for each other so we kept spending every day together acting like a cpl and all, we even still slept together, she would get mad if i was lookin at other girls and all that typical stuff. anyways i kept asking her to let me wiat for her while she was overseas and then we could get back together but she kept tellin me not to wiat for her and that she didnt wnat to hurt me, this killed me, then one night i was going out with a girl friend and she got so upset and when she called me that night and got upset about it i told her that all i had been wiating for the past 6 weeks we had been broken up was for her to say she wanted to take me back , she then said " that was never goin to happen etc" this really really hurt. so then i started ot move on even tho i loved her, she was leavin for overseas in 3 weeks, we hardly spoke, probably mostly because of me not speaking much and keeping my distance. she called quite abit and tried to see me etc. she had got it into my head not to wait for her! she said it enough times! then i started seeing someone liek the week before she left, 7 weeks after we broke up and about 2 weeks after we feel out all together, she found out i was seeings omeone and was kinda upset, then the day before she leaves she asks me to wait for her, sayin she did wnat me to wiat for her but told me not to because she was scared i wouldnt . should i wait for her or not, shes goin overseas for 4 mnths, i thought we werent ogin to get abck together, and she had told me to f off and i started to move on, but what should i do??? and if i dont wait does that mean i dont really love her? pls help

guys advice would be best but all welcome..... how long could you guys be in a relationship with a girl who was a virgin before you felt the relationship wasnt going to go anywhere? i been with my girl awhile now and i respect shes a virgin of ocurse, i wouldnt have got with her if i didnt and i know i wnat to wait but the thing is she just said she doesnt know when she wnats to and theres no reason why she doesnt want to or why she hasnt she just hasnt and i feel like the relationship isnt going to get any deeper, its not going to the next level and im just wondering how long you guys would wait or hold out until u felt the relationship wasnt ogin to go anywhere. thanks alot

I was wondering how long do you think it takes to fall in love with someone?? obviously if you have been with someone for a yr and your not in love its quite apparent you wont ever fall in love with this person so breaking it off may be a solution but how long do you think it takes to when you know if you arent goin to fall in love with this person?? example someone has been with someone for 4 mnths but not in love do you think they still could fall in love or if they werent by now they probably arent with right person, or 6 mnths or 8 mnths......i duno what do you think? how long does it take to fall in love and how long is too long to not be in love.

I was hoping some people could help me see from other points of view.... if your a guy and you meet a girl you like but shes a virgin but is 19 and you are gettin into a relationship would you go out with her in hope that she will change her mind with you and hopefully you can further the relationship with her with intamcy also or do you think if a guy is willing to go out with a virgin that he must really really like her??????????

Hi, I broke up with my first love 2 yrs ago but I still have a soft spot for him, im over him but when i think about times together or when we talk ( we keep in touch not too often he lives on other side of the world) i remember him and our time together and i still feel a love for him. I have a new bf and we have been together 4 mnths and its so nice , he was also with his first love in his previous relationship which ended just over 6 mnths ago, he told me he was over her and even just before we officaly got together she rang him and asked him back but he said no, and we became offical. the thingis im wondering is do you think you always have left over love for your previous lover, i mean u do alot with them etc and loved them , do you think you will always have that spot left? and if you do like i do my ex do you think its ok? i think its fine the way i feel about him, i love him but not in love and its just that we went thru so much together and i still care about him. but for example if i broke up with my bf and it was definelty over and he then called his ex just to see if he could love her again or they could start again would you think that was totaly dodgy and that he was always in love with her or do you think its ok to still feel like you care about your ex and if things did go worng in your current relationship to maybe wonder if you could try again with them? is this normal? or is it wrong? my friend was going out with a guy and he had been broken up with his ex for 6 mnths and was over her but when my friend and her bf broke up he tried dating his ex again and she believed it was because he was never over her but i feel you can always just have that left over soft spot for your ex but still be over them and if things didnt work out in your new relationship why not try with yyour ex again just to see if it works out, just liek dating a new person and get to know them again etc .......what do you think

hiya, my girlfriend and i broke up 4 and abit mnths ago as she was movin abroad to work, i wa sin love with her and she was with me also but said she couldnt go out with me as she had been hurt before and was already going overseas for 6mnths and didnt feel she could do it right now, said she needed time and that this would be good for us to take time and build the strength etc. she went through a really hard time for a long time about a yr ago and is stil abit scared to get close just yet. anyways so i got really upset and we went through a really hard time the mnth leading up to her leaving for overseas, we fell out completely and she told me to leave her alone and that we never were going to get back together etc but then she got upset and said she loved me and is just scared and doesnt wnat to hurt me etc anyways so i moved on and started to get to know new ppl even though i still loved my ex, the thing is she wants to get back together, shes asked me to wait for her to come home and she will wiat for me but i feel like im falling or have fallen out of love with her, is this pssible????? my question is can you fall out of love with people beacuse their not here with you?????? i really need to know this! or is it maybe because of everything we went through before she left? i just feel like ive fallen out of love with her because shes not here, i do still love and care about her lots just not in love.....pls help