Radix

Ok boss here ya go. Ive broken down your post to the key statements made by her. Read them and see for yourself in her own words what shes saying. she told me she didn't like guys or have never think about that kinda issue, or dating, etc. she prob dun really have time to think about these kinda things. she really treated me as a friend all the time. so...she said to me that how about we just keep this friendship we can still contact thru the phone she told me she don't really have that love feeling anymore. she said she always treated me as a friend if people call her my girlfriend or something like that, she might feel weird she said maybe we can be closed friends. we didn't talk to each other like before... as if there is some sort of a barrier. Sorry buddy. This is pretty much cut and dry. But you also said this: what do u think? what should i do? I think that what you should do is move on with your life. Put this girl out of your mind as an object of affection. You arent going to get what you want because shes not interested in you in that way. Reguardless of the reason. NOTHING you can do or say is going to change that. G'luck, and dont lose heart or faith in yourself. Women can detect that in you. Stay confident in yourself and move along to the next lady who just might be the one. But you wont know about it unless you go for it. Radix

Stereotype. not all do.

Forgiveness is a noble venture and if you can do it it would definitely set you above him and his actions, but dont mingle forgive with forget. Screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me. You should also not go to the other womans' husband, or even confront the other woman. That's far from forgiving and throws you right into vindictive mode. Play it by ear and see if you can deal with it. This also means that you can't throw it up in his face everytime that you get into an argument. Thats not forgiving either. Be weary but truthful. Your trust has been taken advantage of and its an issue with which HE needs to know you are going to have trouble dealing. Talk it over with him and see where that leaves you. If it makes you feel better afterwards, then maybe you can forgive, if not, then you might not ever be able to do so. G'luck dearheart, hope it works out to your favor. Radix

Hmm..Id say that inviting his whole family over to ur place to sacrifice a goat and worship the devil would definitely be out of the question.

I know you didnt come in here to get a lecture, but guess what?!? You've opened yourself up to one so ur gonna get one reguardless. If you dont want to have sex with the guy you are with, but you want to have sex with not just one but several other people, then as stated above, no you arent ready for it. Also, if you are thinking about having sex with multiple patners, there are much deeper issues that you need to address. Namely self-respect. This isnt the 60's anymore. The whole "If you cant be with the one you love, love the one ur with" thing is DEAD, and there are WORSE things that can happen besides winding up pregnant by going the route that you're suggesting. I.E. Aids, herpes syph HPV etc etc etc EVEN DEATH. I feel bad for the "sweetheart" that you're with babe, you're gonna break his heart.

You're upset over the concept of not having him around, and you're manifesting them into anger as opposed to just coming out and saying what you feel which is what you should really do. Long distance relationships are killers honey. They're almost impossible to work unless someone makes extensive sacrifices. I.E.- Moving or not going to the chosen school so as to avoid the LDR.

You need to be aware of the insecurities of others. You're both young, and evidently inexperienced at the love game. If you dont think that you can bring yourself to just planting one on him, and flat out ask him if he wants to kiss you. Or tell him that you want to kiss him. Honestly is the best policy. Keep it clean and have funn kiddo.

I have a question for you. Does it feel like maybe shes trying to break up with you a little bit at a time? Like maybe shes slowly drawing herself further and further away from you? If thats the case then you should definitely listen to your friends, because as things seem to be now all you are doing is constantly trying to get things back to the way that they were(and further). Not a bad thing if you think that shes just going through one of her phases, but a very bad thing if shes trying to slowly get away from you. If thats the case then one day shes going to be fine with the concept and she just wont be there any more leaving you high, dry, hurt, and broken. Radix

If your love was/is based on your income, then you need to go elsewhere man. It shouldnt even be a factor. Even the poor can love. I dont mean to be cold or to mock your pain, and im not trying to do so, but its true.

I hope you're right. If you are then there are still decent respectable women out there and shes one of them. Ive always hoped to find one of em. Maybe I just wasnt expecting that.

This will definitely work for you. Just start by asking her what she likes to do for fun and build on that. You'll be talking about something that SHE is interested in, and most likely you'll be able to keep the conversation going by referring back to other interests that come up during the previous topic. Interested is interesting. If you are talking about something she has an interest in, she'll want to talk about it, and in return to you're having listened to her, she'll listen to you. Just ask her questions about her, and comment on them. **Comment not insult. What do you like to do for fun. Where do you like to go. Have you ever... Do you ever...

Ive been where you are brother and i feel for you. Im 17 months out of a 3 years 7 month and 18 day relationship( 15 hours 27 minutes to be exact), and I can tell you that the first year was the worst year that I have ever gone through in my entire life. But heres a truthful proverb. Time heals all wounds. But its also incomplete. Although time WILL heal your wounds, it wont make them go away. They heal, but leave scars. What you need to do is NOT pretend that you didnt ever love her, and if you're anything l;ike me, then being her "friend" really is about the worse thing that you can do to yourself. If you really want to be just her friend if nothing else, then you need to pull yourself away from her for a while. You need to give yourself time to get over the concept of not being with her as a mate anymore. It takes a long time and its difficult, but you CAN do it. But pretending that you never loved her is only going to tear you up more inside. You see, what you dont realize is that she didnt just break up with you at the spur of the moment. It was definitely something that she had given thought to, and had been doing it long enough that when she did it she was already content with the concept of not being with you anymore. The problem is that you weren't and evidently didnt see it coming. The nub of it my friend is that you need to pull yourself out of the same old familiar routine that you most definitely got yourself into when you were with her. You need to rebuild your life relationships and start a new. definitely go out. definitely try to find someone else. If its like you then go and have a fling with someone. Reguardless its hard it hurts it sucks and its not fair. But it gets better. Good luck man. Radix PS- I still love my ex and i always will, but ive accepted that we arent going to be together, and so will you.

Ok, ill try to fill in any gaps of info so that you have a clear idea of the situation. Last week work hired a new girl. It seemed to me that she immediately liked me. We worked together all day and it seemed that she was actually following me around. We had decent conversations and definitely enjoyed working with each other. At the end of my shift, I did everything that I needed to do to leave and then went into the back of the store away from her hoping that she'd follow me and i could talk to her alone for a minute. She did. I asked her if she was doing anything the following weekend and if not if she wanted to "Go out or something". She said yes and i got her number. I called her for the date/go out thing/whatever, and we set a time went out to dinner had a great time. She had ALOT to say and that was cool because im a pretty good listener and all she was saying was fairly interesting. We have alot of the same interests in common which is cool, and we had a few good laughs. She didnt do anything to indicate to the contrary that she wasnt interested, and everything went well. What I did pick up from the conversations is that shes only been with one guy before, however has mostly guys as friends. I dont want to end up just another of them. If its all thats to be had ok, but its not my preference if theres a choice. BUT... we live in the same town and we were heading back towards home. I asked her if she wanted to hang out some more, and she said no, which is totally cool, and not a big issue. It was getting late and she said she was tired. Its still all good ive had a really good time so far. I pull up into her driveway she says that she had a good time, I get a hug and a good nite. SO here's what I know. I get all of the right signals as far as eye contact, smiles, the following me around thing at work(literally following me like a lost puppy), is a big sign i think, she was fast to give me her phone number, on the drive to and from our date(?) I could see her out of the corner of my eye staring at me, and everything SEEMS to be going well. Maybe its the hug thing that is throwing me. My receptors REALLY do suck at this kind of thing. Ive never been very good at dating. Then again maybe im just used to dating a lower class of girl who does more than give a hug at the end of a date. Not that I was expecting or looking for much but id think that at least a kiss would have been in order. Whatcha think, cause I dont know what to. Dont know what to do next either. Radix