kev34

Thanks CoolGuy. We have been talking A LOT and will begin couples counseling tomorrow. He is also going to start individual counseling.

I realize that there relationship is none of my business but I feel that if you are going to tape your infidelity than you are really put yourself at risk of getting caught. People have to take responsibility for their actions. And lets face it (and maybe I am just really angry right now) but I feel that if we have to suffer right now than they should to. How long have you been in the "forgiving stage" with your boyfriend? Does it get better? Are you seeking couples counseling?

This is the first time I have ever visited a chat room but I am alone with no one to talk to about this. I am engaged to be married -- we are to be married in a couple of months after a long courtship. I came accross a videotape the other day which is a home movie with my fiance and another woman. Apparently, they were together a handful of times about 4 years ago. At that time, we were just past our first year together and were having a rocky time. I realize that this is something that happened long ago and that our relationship is at a very different place than now than it was back then, it is just so hurtful that he not only cheated on me but kept a tape of his actions (and watched it!!) all this time. We are going to go to counseling ASAP but I am not sure if it is enough. Also, the woman he was with is married and I strongly feel that I should tell her husband. Anyone have any thoughts on all of this?