HeartGoesOn

You can't change her, and this is not what you signed up for. With that said it,s time to issue her, her walking papers.

I think you made the right decision. When all is said and done, I would not consider her a friend.

Not only would I'd never take that risk, she should have enough common sense to cancel the wedding. That would appear to be the lesser of two evils, (imo). Your call...

Can Allison make every landing. PRICE

As with any stranger, stay aware of them and their surroundings. Trust, but cut the cards.

How old are your children, and does he live with you?

In a few words, what you see is what you get. You can't change him, nor can you can control his abuse, as it will likely to statistically escalate. You need to take yourself out of the line of fire ASAP, and begin building your life from there. You can do this. In short, don't feel you're the exception to the rule...you're not.

It's impossible to answer that simply because you haven't even dated. I'm sorry but a romp between the sheets is not a date, and putting the cart before the horse does not seal the deal. I think you may have had a better outcome if you presented yourself as dateable as opposed to disposable...no offense intended. Take the lesson with you, learn form it and you'll still land on your feet.

Since you don't seem to be attracted to him in any way, what are your intentions. Also, what is your question?

I'd tell them you have the same goal, but after time and getting to know each other along with deciding if you're compatible, you'll be ready to discuss it. He'll either sink or swim, yet there's your answer.

Rather than wait for the next shoe to drop, along with history having a tendency to repeat itself, I'd quit while I'm ahead. In short he's likely to find better ways to cover his tracks. Are you up for this?

Her silence is your answer...Sorry.

I have to wonder if you're really that naive, or attempting to justify your feelings/actions. He's married, you're married, even though you're using the classic excuses as in not sleeping in the same room with your husband, etc. In short, I'm not sure how you could ever trust a man who cheats on his wife, or vice versa. In addition to that if you seriously want this to end, you'll find a way, if not you'll find an excuse.

Sorry to hear, Vic. Take care and get well soon.

Heard every lunatic loves onions. TOWER

I, for one had no idea what "tw"means until I googled it. Keep in mind that net speak is not allowed on the forum. Pleas review the forum rules/guidelines.

Sounds as if you already have one foot out the door, where I'm sure no one would blame you. Keep in mind that verbal abuse can quickly escalate to physical abuse. My guess is that the chances of this relationship moving forward are slim to none, (imo). It's high time to leave him in the dust. You can do much better.

I would politely decline. There are too many potential risks involved, (imo).

Unless I'm missing something, how does one cheat when they've already broken up? There are too many gaps in this story.

I can only speak for myself, but I'd convey the message one time, and one time only that he needs to figure out why he's in this predicament and how to resolve it. Also, remind him that you weren't born yesterday. After all he's an adult who knows right from wrong. It's not your job to try to reform him, You didn't sign up to raise him or be his therapist, etc. In short, he'll either sink or swim, yet you'll have your answer.

May she RIP.

Wishful thinking, but that excuse simply wouldn't fly. These stories have a tendency to be exposed in one way or another. Rather than making excuses or trying to worm your way out of this, it's time to take responsibility for the choices you made. Of course it's too late to turn back time, yet it's not too late to focus on this innocent child who has no say in this matter. I hope you choose to own this, and do the right thing.

Stop taking all readings seriously. ABOUT

I'd lose the negative attitude, as you have nothing to lose by meeting him for a cup of coffee. As long as you meet in a public place, tell friends/relatives where you'll be, and avoid giving him private information unless in time this goes any further Think positive.

Why not ask yourself if this situation is worth your time, or effort. My guess is the chances of having a future with this clown are slim to none, (imo). I'd fight for child support through the courts, raise your daughter alone and move forward. Be careful not to ignore the fact that he's also responsible for the welfare of this child. I hope you find your way.