HeartGoesOn

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Can you please translate the meaning of "sth" and "AITA" to English please?

Why haven't you met each other yet?

No, you won't be ok. This idea is AKA denial, and it will only set you back to square one. Difficult as it is, you're better off working on ways to move forward.

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Keep every file in reference. STOVE

Yes, and it goes way beyond a "huge deal breaker." Unfortunately the majority of the time they go on to find better ways to cover their tracks. Keep in mind that you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink it. Rather than have this hanging over your head, you're better off moving on, as you deserve better.

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There's no way around it, (imo). This type of information is public and is easy to find. Even though this is a serious offense, she deserves to know. If anything, she'll be upset that you hid this from her, along with other outcomes, etc. I'd be honest and let the chips fall where they may. As the saying goes, "the truth will set you free."

Sleeping together is not equal to being exclusive, in fact as much as you'd like it to be, it's simply an arrangment where sleeping together is the goal. Rather than be labeled a cheater, he's a free agent, and not to sound harsh but he owes you nothing. I'm not sure what you're getting out of this, unless it's a matter of having low self-esteem, or choosing to remain in denial, etc. All in all, you have some thinking to do, and I wish you the best.

You can't, he was looking for his ticket out by turning the tables on you. At any rate he has the IQ of a turnip, along with his middle school behaviour. You're wasting your time with him, you deserve better and it's time to send him packing. When all is said and done, you'll realize he didn't abandon you, he did you a favor.

Yes it is. I assume he owns the home, therefore he can chose who ever he wants to live there. I think you're asking for trouble in regards to giving the relationship another go. On the other hand, what has asking these girls to start paying rent have to do with giving this relationship another go Am I missing something here?

Overcoming infidelity may look good on paper, yet the odds of surviving the long term are few and far between. My thoughts are it's easy to forgive, but impossible to forget. In short, I hope you find your way...

I'd say it's similar to the story. You have some thinking to do.

That's the point, he's not treating you right. His controlling behaviour will continue to escalate, along with him brainwashing you. Look up 'The Stepford Wives, although it's fiction it appears to describe your situation to a tee.

Got ready in ten seconds. DANCE

Never a valid entry level. GHOST

Although the majority of your excuses are classic, cheating is a choice one makes, and nothing more than that. If you have the time to cheat, you have the time to think about it. In short, nothing will change until you decide to own your own choices.

Because she can, and it works. Keep in mind that we teach people how to treat us. Give her a time limit and say what you mean, and mean what you say.

Was there a written agreement made before they moved in? I'm not sure how that works, but it may be in your best interest to obtain legal advice. At any rate, it rarely works out when two different families live under one roof. Hopefully you can resolve this soon, and take it as a lesson learned.

One pill taken every day. HAPPY

Rather than keep going around in circles, I'd cut the cord now and work on moving forward. Unless you want to be demoted to FWBs, I'd walk away now rather than invest more time.

Did you understand the consequences, or did you ignore the facts and simply roll the dice? At any rate, there are many lessons to be learned here, before going forward. I wish you well...

My thoughts are you're selling yourself short by being an audience to his nonsense, among other things. Not that it matters, but he'd have more respect for you if you left him in the dust. It's time to raise the bar.