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  1. So recently I moved into this new neighborhood and began taking up waking around the subdivisions of it. On about the 1st mile of my daily journey there is this really hot guy that sits outside with a couple of other guys and has beers or pop idk whatever. He has a few times waved and asked me how I am over the last week but because I am a little shy I always just say like fine how are you and don’t stop walking. He is really cute so should take the plunge and start talking to him or just keep walking because Ted Bundies are around every corner?
  2. I honestly do not think this is really a problem. Most guys are flattered to be someone’s first and I am sure if he really likes you he won’t care. I would just tell him if he asks but doesn’t matter if he doesn’t because the rest of what you’re feeling is all in your head. If he is so experienced I guess let him teach you things and find out what he likes. I don’t think you guys should talk about each other’s sexual pasts though unless you need to have an STD talk. The only reason to talk about all the people you have had sex with is to make someone jealous and that’s a whole other problem entirely. Good luck
  3. Ok so to answer a couple of your questions. I think we all turn a blind eye to someone we have liked or are attracted to do I don’t think that means I lack common sense I think that makes me human. Everyone has been in the love bubble I am not the first one and won’t be the last. Also I am not cheating on my spouse. My ex and I have lived apart for nearly 2 years. Our divorce papers are signed and ready to file but we are waiting on a rather large settlement to split before we do. No one is cheating on anyone. It’s not an open marriage. The marriage is over and has been for a long time. A piece of paper doesn’t make a relationship. The work you put into it does and we have since retired.
  4. I want to thank you guys for everything you contributed to my problem. If anyone has any additional advice or tips for me I am open to it. I also want to apologize to WISEMAN for being snappy. I do value your opinion and it was actually good to hear it from a male perspective even if the situation was a little different from what you anticipated. I just want to be very clear that the Chiro in this case was good at his job even if he turned out to be not so good in other aspects of his life. We did flirt and hug maybe a little too long and a little too tight but while I was in his care that is all we did. He NEVER did anything that made me uncomfortable or that I didn’t want regardless of my state of vulnerability. I am not some kind of victim, just sorta dumb when it comes to knowing if a guy wants to be friends or hookup. In this case he wanted to hookup and I thought I wanted that too but I decided I wasn’t willing to crack that many eggs for just one omelet!!! Thanks Everyone!!
  5. Yeah I actually start seeing a dating specialist next week. I realized that I have no experience with the dating scene and I definitely need to learn which guys want what from me and what I am giving off to attract the right mate. Simply changing how you dress can send the right or wrong signals to a guy about what you’re looking for. So yeah I know it sounds lame but I am actually excited to finally get back out there soon however hopefully a little more knowledgeable. Like with this guy as he was talking to me last night I realized all he could have with me was really all I could have with him and that was just sex. I really even considered it I did trust me but I also realized that I could have that with someone else too and it not be so messy. Basically I think I have to figure out what I want and really want before I attempt to like anybody again.
  6. Omg get off your horse!!! He called me and wanted to meet up to literally discuss if could have a relationship and I turned him down!!!! You have no clue what you are saying and making me look like a fatal attraction for no reason but to be the devils advocate. I didn’t pursue him at all. Not one time EVER!!! I came on here to ask if I should remember?!?! He has however pursued me quite heavily and that is a very true statement especially after our meeting last night. How do you think I ended up going to his gym? How would I know of the 20 gyms that he went to that particular one?! Cause he told me to go there so he could see me silly. How did we ever find ourselves hugging and holding each other the way we do? Because he grabs my back in a way I have no choice but to put my arms around his neck if I am going to grant the embrace. He is the one that puts his face against mine and whispers crap in my ear…I don’t whisper in my own ear. That’s a talent maybe you have talking to yourself but I was conversing with a real man honey. He is not some innocent guy here and I am not some wanton hussy so back off. It is a basic story. Two people found themselves liking each other in a situation that is impossible for now. Nothing more nothing less. I figured it out thanks to some of the decent people on here and I MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE for me
  7. He also doesn’t have anything to lose by seeing me as he pointed out his wife and him are separated and she lives in our home state. It would be perfectly legal for him to see me now that I am not a patient. Another point he tried to convince me on. But I said I wasn’t ready based on literally this whole situation to date. He agreed to give me more time. Not that this is your business but we didn’t stop having feelings for each other they are just on hold until we fix are martial crap and I am more confident about dating again. So you really don’t have a clue. But I honestly do appreciate some of the things you did try to contribute and I took them into account as if it were from his perspective. Thanks
  8. Ok this is what is upsetting me about you and a couple of others on here! Why do you assume it was HE that let me down?? I mean it doesn’t matter to me that you think that really but your neediness to be right is really upsetting me because you’re not being supportive you are assuming. And you know what they say about people who assume. He wanted to meet up with me to see if there could be a relationship. I turned him down. So stop making me out to be some girl with a fantasy crush please. He is the one that sent me to his gym so we could see each other when I was done treating, he is the one that initiated any physical contact every time with me and he is the one that lied to me about being married. He is the doctor that met me outside of work and he is the one that has to answer to a spouse for how touched me and flirted with me. But he is NOT the responsible party that ended things here so don’t give him credit he doesn’t deserve. He absolutely wanted more and that’s why he called me and asked me to meet up. So get off your high horse admit you’re wrong and take a beat and circle back. People come on here desperate for advice not necessarily sex or a mate.
  9. I literally learned recently that when someone plays the hot and cold game that they’re not that into you or have something to hide that’s keeping them from moving forward with you. 3 months is a great start at getting to know someone but honestly it takes years to really know someone and most times you still don’t know everything. My advice is if a guy will break your heart then he really didn’t deserve it from the start so take it back, mend it, and find someone way better to give it to
  10. It sucks because I really liked him but in the end I can’t give him what he wants and he can’t give me what I want either. I am clearly not ready for any of that at this point and I could tell this wasn’t the first time and I wasn’t the first one ….it actually made it easier to walk away
  11. No he definitely wanted more than to be friends and once I said I couldn’t at this time he was respectful and ok with that. He even went in for that final hug and I said I couldn’t and it wasn’t best. I think I hurt his feelings but mine are hurt too. A little hurt now os worth less big hurt later. I am likely gonna cry for a minute lol but I do feel better to have closure
  12. It doesn’t really matter how true you think that statement is it only matters if I think that statement is true for it to be true lol!
  13. How am I desperate because I got feelings for a guy I spent five months getting to know? I never acted on those feelings or pursued him in any way so read your before you act like a jerk
  14. Ok so thanks to everyone for the advice and this is the update….we did see each other this evening. It was not romantic nor did anything happen. We talked and agreed that this is no longer a good idea to even be friends. It just got weird with all the hugging and I wish we would’ve just kept it light. So we are going to take a break and work on our own lives for now, give each other a nod if we run into each other but otherwise try to not see each other. After evaluating what everyone has said and talking to him, I realize that we did have a fantasy that was never on either of our part going to ever materialize into anything but drama and pain. It’s done thanks for all your help!!
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