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  1. THIS IS GONNA BE A LONG ONE PLEASE BEAR WITH ME: Hi everyone, I’m very new here and very sad so I thought….. why not vent to strangers? LOL anyway, my boyfriend and I have only been dating for 3 months (he’s 24 and I’m F 22) and he just broke up with me yesterday. I would like to add this is both our first serious relationship. He said that he can’t see us together long term due to our “incompatibility.” I’m more emotional than he is, but we’re literally Ying and Yang he balances me out so well. This man told me he loved me on the 4th date, tells me that he wants to marry me and wants kids with me all the time and makes me the happiest woman in the world. On Thursday, he told me he loved me in the morning and was acting weird that night into Friday. He began being cold and dismissive towards me, whenever I sent him something cute or said that I loved him or missed him, he ignored it (which he has done before, but this felt VERY DIFFERENT.) Then, out of the blue, he texts me at 1 in the morning (on Sunday) to tell me he feels our relationship has felt off and he doesn’t think we’re compatible anymore and wanted to talk in person. I cried for hours and stayed up until like 10 in the morning. I saw him at around 3 pm that same day and he broke up with me. He said there’s just too many “incompatibilities” that he can’t live with (news to me) and other things that I don’t feel like sharing. I respect his decision, cried, called my therapist, and went to CVS to get ice cream and then headed home and slept in my makeup. I cried all night, was in and out of sleep, and decided to ask him to meet up with him again to say my peace. I really wanted to make it work, my goal meeting him today was to tell him how I felt and that if he communicated more and just let me know his thoughts that lead to the breakup, we probably wouldn’t be broken up. I said my peace, he was silent for a while and left, saying he would text me later. Very ominous, I know. About an hour later, I get a text from him saying that when he said “I love you” he was more going through the “motions” and fully didn’t feel it the way I felt it. (He told me he loved me on the 4TH DATE, I told him, finally, that I loved him on the 3rd of this month. ) And that he wants me to be with someone more emotional than he is and he doesn’t think he could change. I’m crushed, he would always tell me that he loved me whenever we were together and I would just stay quiet for so long, it was only until this month that I said I loved him. It doesn’t make sense, how could he say that he’s not on the “same level” of love that I am on when he said it first and has continued to remind me??????? I was always up front and transparent about my sensitivity and how emotional I am and he always was accepting, loving, and always told me that it was fine and to not feel sorry about it. My period also makes me very emotional and he’s been so great about it so I just don’t know where this is coming from?????? I love this man so much and I want him back so badly. I think he might be going through something. The fact that he said he doesn’t want to lose me and would fight to keep me because he loves me in the past and is so okay with not fighting for our VERY NEW relationship makes me so sad and is gut wrenching. I am heartbroken and don’t know what to do. I don’t really have too many friends due to me just graduating college and I’m in a very hard and transitional phase in my life. I’m feeling very lonely and even more sad right now. I loved him, I just don’t know what I did or where I went wrong. I hate that he’s not fighting for this, especially with the amount of “love” he had for me. I just wanted to vent, if anyone has any advice or how to cope or has been through something similar and can tell me how they got through it or what’s this guys deal is, I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you reading if you got this far! - a very sad cat mom TLDR: my boyfriend of 3 months left me because I’m too emotional; and we have too many “incompatibilities” he can’t overlook and says he didn’t really have the same feeling of love that I did, even when he’s said he’s loved me even before we got together and was very reassuring
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