chrissy1

Well, i can't stop thinking of what happened, so i thought id post it here, as i would appreciate a bit of guidance or opinions. I'm confused and hurt. So, i had this boyfriend for over 2 years, but he broke up with me last august (like not this year, last year), he said it was because he just didn't feel nething for me nemore. So i went about geting over him, but we decided to remain friends. I stop contacting him for a while and when i thought i was ready, i started talkin to him again. I had a few boyfriends between now and then (have one now), but i sometimes compare them to him, and really they aren't quite as good in one or another way. I think deep down inside i still love him, however more then a year later i should be over him by now. We did get back toghter in june but for only a week. Back then he told me he didn't want a girlfriend and that i was perfect and the only girl for him, but he just doesn't want any of that, but if he did, he'd want me. So i got over it and started being friends with him. Although i wished that one day he would change his mind about all of that. However recently (like in the past two months) he's been a bit .. over the top. Like wanting to see me one day for lunch when i was at uni, so he came all the way to uni (about an hr or more on public transport) to see me! We go out almost once a week, and if we don't he says me misses me and wants to see me. It felt like he wanted me back, and i was happy, because inside that's what i really want. But then a few days ago he tells me he has a girlfriend which he's been seeing for about two months and he's completely in love! Well good for him but why didn't he tell me? Why would he act like that? Why would he said that stuff about not wanting a girlfriend? He told me he could never see himself having kids, but now he's saying "when me and my girlfriend have kids"!! I feel so lied to! Also it feels like he was stringing me along a bit. And why (he said he considers us best friends) wouldn't he tell me something like that if we were soooo close? He had a girlfriend earlier this year which he told me about when it happened, why not this one? He said he didn't tell me as he didn't want to get off topic when i was telling him about my boyfriend. But we have seen each other so many times since they started going out, he's had a million chances to tell me. I'm really hurt about it, and also it's annoying as i find it's stopping me from finding someone else as i don't really like anyone else i meet much as they just aren't quite like him. It's funny also as, my feelings of wanting him back disappeared for a while, i felt i was really over him, as i was thinking about him wanting me back and thought even if he did i wouldn't go back with him, but now i feel like i do. Maybe its more the hurt from being lied to which is annoying? So, I decided to cut him out of my life. But i don't really want to. I enjoy his friendship, i can't really see my life without him in it, but it's just hurting me. I wish i could just get over him! Sorry about this being long ...

If you don't feel weird or anything going out with a guy that much younger and he doesn't mind either then go for it! Personally i don't like big age gaps (even when the guy is older), but that's just me! If you don't feel old around him, or he doesn't seem too immature, then what's wrong with it?

Having been in a situaion like this recently, I would say the best thing to do is go out with him again, just once. Just to make sure there is nothing there. At least then you will know for sure, and you'll know what your doing is right. Even then, at the end, if he asks you out again, just be honest and tell him. Otherwise tell him as soon after you decide, if there is still nothing. You may as well give it a chance, just as long as it doesn't turn into stringing him along!

That is so true! It's always painful to see an ex doing better then you are! I have no idea why anyone would do what he did! Forget about him, just concerntrate on yourself, and all the fantastic things your going to do with your life! By the way what is NC?

Great Post! For aaages i've been trying to decide wether i should move out and this has made me want to do it more!

Your friends seem very similiar to my two friends from high school, did you steal them from me?? But seriously, it's good your talking about it, and i know it's upsetting, but as other people have said, you need to get out there, make friends! There are lots of other people out there, you just have to find them!

Sounds a lot like what i did and kinda still am going through! You sound so positive and I'm sure that things will keep going the way they are! By the way reading is not lame!