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To Bella (and DN): Okay. Thats what Kinda makes me mad. People get all technical. I'm not a mean person. I'm one of the nicest people I know. I just tell it like it is most of the time. If i dont like you, im not gonna pretend i do. I'll tell you I dont. If i think your ugly, i wont pretend i dont, i'll tell you your ugly. And fat, and everything else thats wrong. Me and my friends are like that. Now. Its pretty obvious i dont mean "ALL" as in 100% of the people. That would be stupid. Your calling me stupid if you say you think i mean it that way. I dont. I'm not stupid. Your stupid for thinking that i mean it like that. Not being mean, being truthful. I'm a nice person. But i'm saying this straight forward. I did not mean all. I meant the majority of the people i have talked to online and seen pictures of that had anything resembling how "hott" they were, were not hott at all. It was a simple question, but people like you have to ruin the fun for people like me who know what its like to see "hott" in someones name, want to talk to them (because nobody looks for ugly people, ugly people find me and then im friends with them), and then you see a picture and they are really ugly. It makes you want to go "why did you put hott in your s/n?" doesnt it? Now. And not once, DN, did i say that 'only' ugly people put hott in their names. Hott people do too, i guess. But i'm saying the majority of the people who do it i think are ugly. From MY EXPERIENCES. Thanks, and have a lovely day.

exactly, Shake. Imagination. DRJQD112804.. DRJ are my initials.. JQD are my boyfriends initials.. our first day going out was 11-28-04 our initials put together are DRJJQD or JQDDRJbut we always take out that extra J or D cuz it 'brings us together' hah cuz we r stupid. but i just hate it. 'sexy boy5000'.... what ever hapened to originality. i used to spend hours thinking of screennames like "lyke omfg lol jk" and stuff.. i even once had a s/n that was summin like " dklah83nd "... cuz i was bored. nethin i sbetter than hottman400

Is she a lesbian? If yes - she probably wants you. If no - she might feel a tad uncomfortable. I dont know, im not good in the 'do they like me' dept.

I dont reccomend online dating to anyone. While your online looking for a guy to spend time with, a relationship, i can say that in my expriences, at least 70% of the people are only looking for sex. Or they alredy have a boyfriend/gf and just like talking about it. It's annoying. You'd probably be better off with an ad in the newspaper personals. They are classified and everything never tried that, but it would probably work.

Yes. I would get married to my boyfriend. We have been together for a year and a 3 months now. Im 18, hes 17. We were both 16 when we met. I love him more than anything and anyone. I have given up everything for him. I ran away w/ him, dropped out of school (though i recently just started again), quit multiple jobs, dropped all my friends, dont talk to my family anymore just because all of those things got in our way. He did the same for me w/ the exception of his family (and im talking to mine again). We are always talkin bout getting married. But since hes still 17 we havnt proposed. I kinda want him to.. We already got promise rings that we chose together. Now we just gotta get engagement rings. When we get married i do want a child one day. Maybe more than one, im not sure. I know he wants a kid too - i can tell from how he acts w/ his newphew and neice. I love him deeply. We would do anythying for eachother and we prove it to eachother all the time. We live together and work together - pretty much spend 24 hours a day together.

no offense but why do people make their screennames "hotgayguy" "hotchick101" "imsohot" "yourhotbaby" ect. I mean. If you think about it. Hott people dont make their screennames like that. Only ugly people do. So why do ugly people always put "hott" in their screennames.. or say their hott and the actual goodlooking people dont?? I dunno, it makes me mad. Note: if ur just gonna be an a**hole about this then dont even bother replying. This is for people who want to have a civilized discussion about it because im honestly curious as to why good looking people dont put that. I mean i know im not HOTT but im good looking.. and my boyfriend is good looking.. but every guy i know who has "hott" in his s/n or any form of hott.. is ugly.

honestly my boyfriend look at guys and goes "hes gay" whereas i look at the same guy and go "hes straight" so i dont know. maybe mines broken or maybe his is way off. i was walking one day with my friend and i glanced at a guy who was staring at me. our eyes locked and i looked for a second before turning a corner. a couple minutes later he came up to me and started talking and asked for my # so i dunno. maybe its real.

It is possible for a straight guy to lay and even sleep in the same bed with another guy. I layed in my bed playing games with a few of my straight guy friends who even KNEW i was gay. One of them even flashed me as a joke. He's not gay though, and i know that. Just because you lay and or even sleep in the same bed dont mean he is gay. If he is constantly accidentally 'touching' you while you are doing it then yeah, he might be. As for the looked at your penis thing. He might have. But you might have just wanted him to and thought he did also. And if he did - he might just be curious as to whether your bigger or not. Doesnt make him gay. Sorry if i sound negative. I just dont like it when alot of people make it sound like someones gay when there is a big change he might NOT be gay. Dont get your hopes up, but you could 'accidentally' touch him while laying in bed together. Dont do it too much though, and dont make it too obvious just in case. Just see if he moves away.

it is possible for a guy to let you touch him and not be gay granted he probably IS gay, but how old are you guys? he could just be h*rny. There are alot of guy who had fooled around alot when they were younger but it never developed and they are straight. so hes probably gay but he could be straight. you'll never know until he tells you. if he says hes straight, then believe him. if he says hes gay, then believe him. but dont think hes gay if he says hes straight. because it will cause problems.

I just wanted to put in my quick word. I went to a church once w/ my friend because she kinda tricked me and my boyfriend to go with her. There were 3 gay people in there that i know of, including me and my boyfriend, and my friend was bi herself. They talked about gay people the WHOLE time. Said how it was wrong. That was my ex boyfriend, but my current boyfriend went to church and his friend went with him once. And they said "gay people are wrong" and his friend actually shouted out "NO ITS NOT!" really loud in the middle of the sermon. We need more people like that. I dont believe in god for reasons that dont even have to do with homosexuality. But there is a church here in Naples, FL called "Unity Church". They accept gays. Their logo is a rainbow with Unity written on it and a cross. They accept every type of person. Its the best church in town, but not alot of peopl go to it because of the 'accepting gays' thing. Oh well. That was my two words.

to confused as hell: You are the one being rude. I was merely stating my opinion. You are jumping to conclusions about myself. The "if you thinks your gay, you are gay" is my opinion, and usually it is the correct one (also, in my opinion). I have only met ONE person in my entire life who has EVER thought he was gay/bi but ended up being hetero. As for HOCD, how your explaining it doesnt even seem like it would be related to "thinking your gay".. It wud be more releated to homophobia. At least, in my opinion (even though you seem to dislike my opinion), that is how you described it. In all honesty - My boyfriend has OCD, so yes, I know what its like. His isnt nearly as bad as alot of peoples (you wouldnt be able to tell if you hadn't known him for long). There are ALOT of people who have OCD that nobody would be able to tell because it is slight and directed towards one object or activity. As my boyfriends is he is obsessive complusive towards thinking the house is going to catch on fire. When we leave the house EVERYTHING has to be off. No lights can be on, no computer, no TV, ect. It's not noticible usually and doesn't really effect life, and thats how it is for ALOT of people who have OCD. That was pretty much off topic, but just letting you know that , because you brought OCD up. Neways. To Imaginary: Sorry for not being clear enough. What I meant by all is "most" of the out-of-the-closet-gay-guy's in what we call the big "gay circle" in my city. Its a big group of gay males who are all out of the closet and they are all a bunch of (not trying to offend anyone) guys who go out with and/or sleep with everyone else in that circle. What i meant about that "one" was just an example, and he was the worst. He called the cops on me while I was at the mall when I did nothing to him, he just wanted me to get caught for driving on a suspended license. He drove by my house (before i moved) every night between 11 and 2 am, and it is a well-out neighborhood, so to speak, so we could get fined, ect. He likes to follow you while your driving, start rumors about you, get close to you and your friends just to try to steal your friends and/or boyfriend from you. (he tried taking me from my bf at first, didnt work so then he tried taking my bf from me.. didnt work). We dont have problems with him anymore, yet he is one of the few who still spread rumors about us, though we havn't even hung out w/ or really talked to any homosexual male for about 4-5 months. Note for everyone: I guess my post did come off a bit rude. I was at work when i wrote it, thereforeeee i was already stressed out and i was probably really tired (i usually am). But honestly, they are my opinions and i dont expect ANYONE to be rude to them, i merely just wanted to know other peoples opinions. Thanks for reading.

heh. thats cool. i came out when i was 14 also (im 18 now), a freshman in high school. and i never got why people were afraid to come out. i told one person, then another, then my whole table, then my whole class, then my mom, then my stepdad, then my whole school, then a few years later i told my real dad and stepmom (they never had a reason to know) btw - i nkow this is off topic but ur gonna get everyone freaking out about aids and stuff saying ur gonna get it.. it takes alot of guts to go get tested. whereas u might not have it, probably dont, the person you might be doin it with might have it so use protection i dont use protection, never have, but i've been w/ only one person (well 3 but it doesnt count) and i've been with him for over a year now so yeah. and we both got tested a few months back. and dont ever let someone talk you into having sex if you dont want to. cuz if u dont want to, and you try to do it, it probably wont work. (it didnt for me for the first few months we tried) hmm.. oh and here is a tip - if ANYONE ever talks sh** about you to a point where its daily, go to your principal/guidance counselor and tell them. its against the law for them not to take action - harassment is harassment and if they dont take action you can go to the school board and they could get fired.

Ok, i have been reading everyones posts. This is going to sound rude maybe, but i believe its true. What is the big deal with coming out of the closet?! I dont think there are barely ANY gay guys or girls in my town who are IN the closet still. I came out of the closet when i was 14, a freshman in high school. I got picked on a bit, but it wasnt bad. Now i'm 18, living with my 17.5 y/o boyfriend who i have been with for 1 year and 2 months, in our own apartment. I just dont get it, why do you think its so hard? It's not supposed to sound rude but im genuinely curious as to why some of you wont just tell your friends, family, ect. The first person i told was a straight guy i had a crush on. Granted, i thought he was too, turns out he wasnt, but he was really cool with it. And from there i told everyone. I started with saying i was "bi", continued to go out with girls, and then i decided i was gay. Another thing i dont get. How can you be "confused" about your sexual preferance. In my opinion- If you think your gay, your gay. The end. If you have sexual fantasies about guys, and not about girls, your gay. If you would rather touch and kiss a guy, not a girl, your gay (or opposite for the lesbian friends out there). Confused? Not confused. You arent confused - your afraid. Being confused is most peoples way to tell themselves "oh no im not gay, i dont know what i am.." no. your gay. Trust me. Note: Depending on the area in my city you live in, being gay can either be good or bad. Where my boyfriend lives - its bad. He had bottles thrown at his head in school and everything. Where i live - its good. Nobody really messed with me. Note 2: I say all the gay guys and lesbians are out of the closet here. I dont mean all of them, but pretty much at least 80% are. At least the ones between 14-23. I also have another question. So. My 3 questions are: 1) When/How did you come out. And if your not out, why wont you come out? 2) How do you feel about "confused" people? 3) Is it just my city or do all gay guys like to start 'drama' (as much as i hate that word) with all the other gay guys. Cuz ever since me and my boyfriend have been going out there was one guy who said he would break us up cuz he wanted me.. but then he realized i hated him and he said he'd break us up because he wanted my boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend went from being probably the most wanted gay guys in our town to the most hated gay guys as soon as we started going out. I dont know but i think its because everyone else was jealous. Respond pls.

Hey.. It's been 6 months since i cheated on my boyfriend.. About that long at least. Well, he still questions me and it has not been the same ever since. I have no advice cuz im in the same predicament, but i just wanna say i know how you feel. is my thread if u wanna see my story lol..

-Does she like me? Honestly... Nobody can really be one hundred percent sure, about that one. It would seem she probably likes you at least a little bit, could like you as much as you like her or more, and just afraid to let you know - just as your afraid. -Does she like me just because i am his brother? No. Well.. I wouldnt believe so. I don't think its possible for someone to like someone else just because they are the brother or sister of someone they once knew, or even someone they once went out with. She might have originally been attracted to you, and wanted to be closer with you because you are his brother -- Maybe because she thinks you are just as awesome as he is, and any brother of his is good in her book? To me, that may be a way for her to have began talking to you. A good excuse. -Am i doing the right things to create a relationship with her? Yes. I think you are doing the perfect things. You are becoming friends first, which is usually a good thing, and now you you want to create a relationship. Your not being arrogant "hey baby wanna go out", but your taking it in steps, and for all you know she knows that and she is waiting, taking it in steps with you also. -Would it be wise to make a joke-type remark that we should "Go Out"..or somthing along those lines? It wouldn't be a horrible move. It would be a good way to see her reaction. I wouldn't over due it. If your joking around, and she says yeah it would be a great idea, make sure your positive she means it before you get all excited and be like "really? do you mean it?" to her. If you think she means it, wait a day or two and then ask her. "Hey, about us going out.. Do you wanna go to the movies after work?" or dinner, or mini-golf (which i think would be the most fun date).. Ect. Or all in one night if you have time. Dinner at 6, mini golf at 8, and the movies at 11. Make sure you pay for everything. Guys are supposed to pay for girls almost all the time, unless absolutely impossible. Then you try to think of something you can do without money if you dont have enough (Beach, walk in the park, ect). -Am I making this relationship too friendly? definitely not. From what you are showing is that your making it like you guys are best friends right now. Sometimes good, sometimes bad. If she considers you a "best friend" then that could be bad. Sometimes females hate to go out with males if they are best friends, because they dont want to ruin the friendship. Tips: -- Do you talk on the phone to her? If not, that would be a great idea. Ask her for her phone number. A great excuse for a phone number could be thinking of something that you would need to talk to her about that has to due with work. At the end of the day before you leave be like "Oh, hey , i forgot, i need to talk to you about ______. Wuts your number, I'll call you later.." and if she says something like why dont we just talk now you can either talk to her and try again another day or say something like "I really cant right now, i have to be somewhere to meet with my mom," or something along the lines. -- Make sure if you go to the movies you see a movie she would like. If she doesnt like action packed movies, see a less action movie.. A great movie that i think everyone likes are scary movies. It would give her a chance to cuddle with you if she gets scared. Believe it or not, it really happens. When i get scared in movies I always grab the person next to me, and im male! -- If you ever play a game, and your better than her alot, make sure you let her win. Most people assume that females don't like video games also. Thats not true. I think if every female had the chance to play a video game with males that they would do it - I have had females come over and play games with me all the time (as they were friends, because im gay). Most females, who dont play games, suck at video games at first. A game i would suggest if you have it is Mario Party.. Its a funny game, makes you laugh, and it's fairly easy for her. If you dont have it, and your playing a game that she sucks at, keep showing her how to play.. Tell her what buttons to press. "Press x.. No, x.. haha, the red one!" or something. It will make her laugh if you exxagerate. And it would be a great chance to play around with her. If she beats you and your sitting next to her you could be like "Gah! I hate you!" and push up against her.. Dont hump her or anything, that would scare her. And btw, dont let her win ALOT... Because she'll know your letting her win. If its a game, let her win every other round or something.. Just make sure she is having fun. If somebody is losing every single round, its not fun. At least not for me and my friends. It makes us want to quit. thereforeeee, if i'm winning alot, i'll usually just keep 'accidentally' killing myself. Mario Party is what i suggest if you have a gamecube. If you dont have the game, try renting it, it would be great to say after dinner or a movie or something, a way to invite her to your place. -- Dont try to 'lay' her until you are in a great relationship. Chances are she wont only want sex. If she does only want sex at first, and SHE TRIES to do it with you, I wouldn't deny her. I mean.. If its absolutely against your morals to have sex with somebody, then you can deny her, but if you wouldnt mind having sex with her, do it. Denial might turn her off completely and make her think she made a fool of herself. Sorry It's So Long. -- Good luck.

Thank you so much for the advice. After fighting w/ him last night and thinking about it until I posted It on here, I decided that is probably what I would do. I have been kind of lazy, not really helping out around house, ect, which causes us to fight - So i have decided i will work more on everything, including our relationship. I hurt him alot, and I know that, and there is NOTHING i regret more. Of everything I have done with him, I dont regret anything. Not dropping out of school, not running away, not having zero friends, not anything. I love him, and he is all I need. And i want to show him that... I dont regret ANYTHING i've done in my life, except that.. I believe in living life to the fullist, and all that junk, and without him That seems impossible. I just want him to know im terribly sorry, and I want him to get over it and at least be a little like he was. Sometimes he has spurts and is like he was before, and during those few hours or so, I feel like i'm in heaven. And then he will start thinking and become how he is now again... He doesnt understand how much I love him. I would jump infront of a speeding train if It would save him.

My view of love would be basically when you feel that you could give up pretty much anything for the one you love, and know that even if it was something important to you, everything will still be okay. You'll know when you are not with that person but you spend every waking and sleeping moment wishing you could be there with that person if only just to watch them. You'll know when you think to yourself as you look at him, instead of saying "wow hes hott!" you'll find yourself saying "He is the most beautiful man i have ever laid my eyes upon" whether it would be true or not- because if you love him, he should be most beautiful to you.. You'll know when you dont want to have sex for "fuN" or because he is "hott" but you want to have it because you love him. Basically.

To be honest with you, I'm one of the few people I know who would, and have, risked everything for love. I dropped out of school for love (dont worry, im doing good making 15 bucks an hour right now at the sheriffs office), I lost all of my friends for love, I dont talk to my mom much anymore (shes an alchoholic and scared me so its not a big loss), and i have quit multiple jobs for love... All for the same person. I've given everything i've had for love, and i dont regret it. I figure you only live once, love once because true love never dies.

First off.. Let me just say I am 18 years old, male, and gay. My boyfriend is 17 years old, and also gay (obviously). We have been going out for a year and 2 months. I love him more than anything in the world. I would give up anything for him, and I have already given up alot. He feels the same way, he says, and he does give up alot. When we met, we knew we loved eachother from about a week after we were going out. After about 3 months of going out his parents decided they didnt want him to see me anymore. So, naturally, we ran away so we could be together. We ran away from FL to MD.. I stayed for a week and came back to Florida and He decided he would live with his dad. He stayed for an additional 3 weeks and came back to FL to be with me. At the time we were both 16. I was a junior in highschool, he was a sophomore. I dropped out so i could be with him. I know, most of you will be thinking that is Crazy, but it's not and I'm still going to have a great life. Well when he came back we spent almost every night together and by June of last year we had started to fight. I didnt want him talking to any other guys (I get jealous easily) and he wanted to talk to other guys. He wanted to have 3-somes and i kept telling him I dont think he loves me if he wants that. (It's a fetish of his, i finally found out). Well, after fighting alot he started talking to this guy who i will cal Johnny. They were friends in school. He introduces me to Johnny and me and johnny hit it off, and my boyfriend wanted me to have a 3-some with him. Well after saying no alot of times i just gave in and we were going to do it. But it didnt happen. Me and my boyfriend got into a big fight and we broke up. That night i was taking to Johnny on the phone and he comforted me. I noticed that night that i could talk to johnny ALOt and i really liked him. A day later my boyfriend asked me back out again and i said no, because i think i liked johnny, even though i loved my boyfriend. Well i eventually went back out with my boyfriend because i DID love him, but he kept telling me to not talk to johnny anymore, so i said i wouldnt - but i kept doing it bercause johnny really was the only person i really could talk to and relate to, and he was a great listener.. Then johnny kissed me one day while i was hanging out w/ him without my boyfriend knowing.. and i i kissed back naturally.. Well i told my boyfriend, and we broke up for a few days, and then started going back out again. I decided i wouldnt talk to Johnny anymore, he was ruining my relationship with my boyfriend. After a few weeks i couldnt stand it anymore and i went to Johnnys house. My boyfriend caught me and we broke up for a week.. Then we were back together and i promise myself i wouldnt talk to johnny again. A few weeks went by and me and my boyfriend got into a huge fight. We were about to get into a fist fight at a friends house but he left, and intead of hitting me he bashed my car in.. Over 2000 dollars of damage. Well my friends called the cops and my mom came and she pressed charges and he was arrested. He said the only thing that kept him alive in jail that night was knowing when he got out he could see me again.. But i decided i didnt want to be with him - because everyone told me that i shouldnt, and i was vulnerable. This is the first person i've ever loved, i lost my virginity to him.. And i was confused.. Well after 3 weeks of not talking to him i couldnt take it anymore. I was severly depressed and nobody was home and i wanted to kill myself. But i decided better of it and called him. We talked and i went to his houe that night and we madeup. That was in about june or july.. So its been over 6 months since it's happened and we are still together. But me cheting on him has changed alot. He doesnt like to cuddle with me as much, he doesnt like to kiss me as much, and to be honest - sex is basically something that we dont do anymore. He would rather masturbate to pornogrophy or do it alone than do it with me it seems... And i mean, sex isnt everything, but i've alwys been a firm believer that sex is the biggest way to show affection to someone - you dont have sex with them unless you love them.. and thats how i show affection.. Anyways, ever since i cheated on him, things have changed. We still love eachother. I work for 911 now, making 15 dollars an hour, and he works for an answeringservice getting 11 dollars an hour. We live in an apartment with a roommate of a coworker we used to work with, who is an older woman.. We have a joint bank account and everything, and i know we'll be together for a long time, but sometimes he brings up the cheating on him and asks me why i did it.. And i tell him "i dont know.." because i honestly dont know.. I love him more than anything and i try to show him but he just cant get over me cheating on him. I understand not being able to get over it, because if it was him who cheated on me I would be the same.. But is there any way I can prove to him that I do love him, and i am truly sorry of what i did. I havnt talked to that Johnny person since me and him have started going out again, over 6 months ago... I need help of what i can do... I want things to be like they were before, but they arent the same