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  1. kickedin
    no not weak but she knows you are still back up.....thats the problem in itself my ex came back because she though i moved on after 4 months while she was till out there......so when she thought i was still pining because "i loved her sooo much" she was safe to explore
  2. kickedin
    dude....we talked about this.....you need to make yourself appear strong even if you are not if you are seriously wanting her back.....otherwise it is unattractive......i know its hard trust me it s hard i deal with it everyday if you do nothing then nothing can happen....it needs to ber her idea not convinced by you
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    ok so i called her and left a message around 630 last night........nothing no return call no text....now i begin to wonder...
  4. kickedin
    as all of you have been following my break up with the ex.......i met this girl while being broken up about a week before christmas....texted her a couple times....nothing major...she doesnt seem interested as she never intiates contact...(she seems classy and old fashioned which i like) so i texted her today about her new years she responds back 1 min later good how was yours so i tell her i went out last nite to the place we met.... she says i was going go but changed my mind last minute i said well thats too bad cause i would like to get to know you better something i have been trying to do since you caught my attention she texts me back i said would you like to do that over dinner one night? she says sure i text back thursday night? she says i dont have my calendar in front of me but i think i am going to dinner with my girls i say ok she says maybe another night? i say of course check your calendar she says will do i text thanks for distracting me enough today have a great day as you know i gotta get some work to do then she writes......yeah i m busy right now sorry hit me up later i said ok now i hope i didnt offend her but her answer wasnt really warranted based on what i said so do i call her tonight or let it sit and do i bring up dinner again? dating is so hard
  5. kickedin
    thank you.......i actually went to dinner with my brother, stopped and had a toast with my secretary and then my friend who talked to her begged me to have some drinks with him......it was a low key night i am glad i didnt go to taht soiree and see her.....
  6. kickedin
    any opinions?
  7. kickedin
    well i am glad i didnt go...cause that would have been uncomfortable......i wont call her...even though things transpired she knows i love her...and shes gotta be the one......granted she may have been caught off guard...i think she is struggling with her decision too
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    good thing i didnt go she sat at the table where i would have been with my friends..... some things were said that my friend cleared up.....he said she wasnt with any guys just two girlfriends she caught my friends girl in the bathroom.....and said i heard alot about you...my friends girl says me too......she says well if its from xxxxx(me) then its probably bad because he hates me right now.....my friends girl said no actually he loves you more then anything.......my friends girl said she got all choked up and walked out like she was going to cry towards the end...she said she thought that i was in florida and my friend said he thought i was home in bed....after som eback and forth he said she basically looked a mess and was going home to bed and kinda just ran out...... he says dont be surprised if she calls you ......i figured if she did love me why not call me or text me when she got home if she was that emotional?
  9. kickedin
    yes i al really thinking not going is the best
  10. kickedin
    well i told the ex i wont bearound until after tuesday...just needed som space from our supposed good bye metting which isnt going to happen ever..... a couple of my friends are going to a local place.....where they have weddings and such so its a nice place its 3 couples and they asked me to go reasons i dont want to go 1. ex's best friend is a little local frump who doesnt like the glitzy stuff 2. its local on nye people dont like to drive 3. i am single dont havr a date to bring and wouldnt because it is local and dont want to be seen with even a friend 4. i am not supposed to be around 5. if i doo see her i would probably leave asap 6. i was invited to a few houseparties.... for some reason i feel like doing nothing alone...which is not good and i am taking my bro out on monday night for his b day
  11. kickedin
    trust me i spent many days crying and such......move forward maybe not on but make your life better for you if you dont do crap but mope and she pops back in your life you will be a mess who now looks weak which is not attractive.....
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    wait until tuesday to see if he really realizes it......from my experience hes wanting to know if you are still there....please trust me you are on top enjoiy the glory og being dumped.......maybe if you feel you need to respond.....miss me? remember you dumped me?
  14. kickedin
    after finally getting some breathing space from my whole situation i am glad we arent meeting tha would tear me up to see her....have our chemistry come back only for her to say goodbye on a friday night new years weekend.......deja vu cause she broke up with me at 1130 on new years last year on a cruise!!!! anyway i do miss her and i do believe things happen for a reason and the last 2 years i ahev spent focusing on her and us....now i need to focus on me....its not easy because i would have felt better if we were ok and doing this climbing together...but such is life thanks guys for all your help although i may have not followed every bit of advice.......i appreciate my friends here....
  15. kickedin
    and no i didnt send the email..ironically i deleted it so i guess things happen for a reason......i see it here but i am not doing it
  16. kickedin
    hey guys thanks...he called he said i know you talked to my sis and she said you guys wanted to talk about some things and that his schedule was tight...i said well i guess she didnt call you and tell you i wont be around until tuesday.....he said no where you gonna be ( i think he knew) anyway i said i need me time to take car eof me dont worry about it....he said well is it pressing because next week i am jammed with a trial(lawyer) i said dude dont worry about next week either...we got on the subject of x mas eve and i didnt want to re open pandoras box but it sounds like she didnttell him that she text me and i didnt want to tell him.....and it also sounds like she added more then what really happened on their conversations that night.....i just kinda said look i appreciate your friendship and i just need to get away from it all so just understand and i will call him...... so i think i could bust her and maybe him for breaking trust and telling her more even though he said he said nothing...but whats the point shes gone i am hurt hes in the middle......and its still his sis...i just dont like how i was being accused of being dishonest or shady...when she lloks to be theone doing....i sit here biting my tongue knowing that is the best to do......although i miss her it just didnt work and isnt working so now i am working on me...and am gonna protect me the best i can
  17. kickedin
    really just trying to get space fromm all of it.....but i somehow get sucke din by him....and i am trying to nicely show i need it....with out blowing him off with no explanation
  18. kickedin
    his email which i kinda dont buy.....but Hey. I've been trying to call your cell but its been busy the past few days. Give me a call. the response i want to send xxxxxxx, i dont know what transpired on christmas eve between you and xxxxx but its obvious that something was said, i know anytime we talked you told me that i had your strict confidence that it was between you and me, you gave me your word......again something set her off i was alone and wanted to be alone because that was the hand i was dealt......i didnt ask you for anything other then to leave xxxx be and let her come to her own decisions from her heart and soul......you told me you would....i know you were trying to ease my pain in anyway i think should forward her the email(you have my permission) i sent you after your christmas party(12/22/06) so she can see my conversations about her to you....that might help relieve any unwarranted anger she is harboring or has towards me or even you.......i left her alone i said what i said i had to say in the email i sent her last week, at this point talking to my friend(who happens to be her brother) was obviously a bad idea even though i felt comfortable because i trusted you...my christmas eve was wrecked as well because i was already unhappy and trying to fill my time with things that i didnt want to be doing(i.e. painting my floor).....i know xxxxxx has her network of friends she talks to about us, unfortunately this topic is just too close for me to keep you in mine i am not going to get into anything anymore about me and her with you, she deserves that and so does our relationship, maybe yet another mistake i didnt realize i made out of pain....if you want to show her this you can i do not wish to keep anything at all from her we have both been through a lot and right now i have to take care of me, my heart, and my soul....trust god and keep moving forward regardless of the outcome having faith is the strongest driving force you can have i appreciate and value our friendship very much you need to know that i just need to time for me right now, i hope you can give me that without resenting me for needing it, there is just some pain that needs to reside.....i wish your family a happy new year
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    thanks it does help that i havent seen her since thnaksgiving....i have alot going for me know rebuilding a once successful business and also starting another one......so it helps to have challenges and goals something i didnt have or strive for back in january of 2006.....i hope by june of 2007 i accomplish alot of what i want and am happy with her or someone new....leaving her as an experience at that point....at some point you just let go let god and keep pushing
  20. kickedin
    i am doing me right now..which is something i didnt do when we broke up in january for four months i was always worried about her.....lesson learned i am working on me no matte rhow much i get sidetracked i gotta keep pushing AND IF she re surfaces with a clean happy stable heart I will be in a better position to move forward(something we couldnt do financially) and feel stronger and better about being able to the man of the household with her or whoever comes into my life
  21. kickedin
    thanks i would go nuts to just feel alone....plus all my friends are tired of me repeating myself
  22. kickedin
    dude the last time i saw my girl was tgiving night hugging her and we talked about a june wedding......then bam 2 days later done
  23. kickedin
    hang in there bud...at least you dont have mixed signals.....i read between lines....alomst had her in front of me but i nixxed it..... just try to do something i want to hang myself lol but i know there was life beofre her and after her.......
  24. kickedin
    thanks it means alot that you take the time to help me out.....it has been very hard.....especially when someone wants to keep explaining how they feel even after they broke up.......just to help me move on easier....who does that?
  25. kickedin
    ok so i left her a voicemail blowing her off until next week.....i dont need someone to sit in front of me with her brother after a month of not seeing her to tell me its over or whatever fact is her bro and i were good friends, he triggered her outburst on christmas eve and even though was fine with me, then she broke down to her family on christmas day....he never called me on christmas which was weird because he was so concerned about me on christmas eve and even said "my sister was asking about you and was concerned and he said he told her look he didnt expect to spend christmas like this" so he was sticking up for me......well i guess me not responding to her explanation texts/emails that day of her true feelings made her freak about how her brother sided with me.......i guess the family put the foot down after my drama queen flipped on christmas eve and blew her whole family off......when i talked to her on tuesday she said she broke down to them and is finally dealing with things(i.e. divorce) but she said i had her brother convinced that she was seeing someone but lying to everyone yadda yadda yadda and that she wanted him to be there if we met cause i involved him which i really didnt i spoke to him like a friend that he was in what he said was confidence....... well after i spoke to her yesterday i called him and said i talked to your sister and we need to clear some things up........give me a shout.......nothing since...she was supposed to call me on friday to set up the goodbye's meeting with the 3 of us(gay) i called her today and said i wont be around until next tuesday and didnt want to inconvience her brother trying to meet with us....... i guess i am pissed that he hasnt called me but her family is so up in her biz....i think maybe they came down on him for sticking up for me.... how should i handle this?
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