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Wel update time I think. I was talking with the girl in question alot over the weekend. We've decided to go out next weekend and have some lunch and catch a movie or something away from home, so that there is less chance of people seeing us. I'm still not sure what people would think... but for now we're taking it slow and I plan to get to know her better and see what happens from there. She seems to be really into me though, just from her text messages and stuff. She says she's never felt this way about anyone else before. But like I said, I spose slow and steady is the best way to go for now. Any more advice that anyone has is still welcome.

Please do not do what I did, it hurt so much... My situation was similar. I had a really good friend who had a b/f. When she was having problems with him she turned to me and told me that she liked me, probably looking for some sort of temporary replacement. In the end she told her b/f, they worked things out and I got my heart smashed. I should have known better than to get involved with someone who was already taken, and I will never do so again. Our friendship hasn't been the same since. It was hard though, especially when you get so close to someone and they tell you that they are falling for you too. Trust me, stay out of it. Talk to her and tell her that you do not want to get hurt... I wish I had done that... I'm still reeling from that, even if it was only a matter of weeks ago. It makes you feel bad about yourself and lowers your self confidence, and trust me when I say that's not something that a single guy needs. I hope this helps.

Thanks for the replies so far guys. I think it is best to just let things lay low for a while and see what happens. I don't wanna rush into anything, especially if it turns out that she is not ready. I was thinking about what Brando said, about how she is basically a kid and asked how there could be attraction there. Simple: she doesn't look or act her age. She looks like she could be 15 or 16 easily. That doesn't matter anyhow, what does matter is that I think I've made the decision to just lay back and see what happens for now. I appreciate any more advice or opinions that anyone has to give or add

Hi, My problem is much like Viseman's in his 14.5 vs 17 thread, but I thought I might start a new thread anyhow. So here's the situation in a nutshell: I met this girl at a party a little while back, she was one of my friend's friends. I was instantly attracted to her, and we got to know each other via MSN after the party. I was surprised to find out that she was only 14, and I was 16 at the time. Now I am 17 and she just told me today that she likes me. Sure I think she's cute and a nice girl, but I'm worried what people might think for an 8th grader going out with an 11th grader. I mean I know it's not exactly common, but nor is it unheard of. I told her that maybe we should take things slow and get to know each other in person a bit first (we goto different schools). Just judging someone over IM isn't exactly the best way to know if you truly do like someone afterall. I'd just like some opinions or advice on what to do... I'm kinda confused, especially after just having just recently having my heart smashed a little bit by someone else (long story, not gonna tell that one). She says that she would never do anything like that to me, but I still question if at her age, she is ready for the serious relationship that I'm after. She says that if she's not mature enough that she can be... Iuno, any advice would be helpful. Thanks guys and gals.

I'm obsessed with this girl I have known for years right now. I thought I had gotten over her when I started liking another girl (who has a b/f, broke up with him and got back together again), but the truth is I have never gotten over her. I could never get the courage to ask her out, I keep trying to talk myself out of it, saying that any kind of signs that I might be getting are her playing with me or aren't real. I'm not sure * * * to do... So confused...

I know the feeling. I've liked 2 girls who have boyfriends, it just doesn't work out. One broke up with hey b/f and we got a little closer, we flirted a bit. But when she got back together with him I gave up. The other told me she liked me, despite loving her guy. That was confusing, but I haven't let it get in the way of us being good friends Girls with boyfriends are just a no-no. The best thing we can do is just find girls who are single and are in need of some love and attention

Hmm, I get a similar kind of thing randomly sometimes, only for a second, but on the side of my heart. And I'm only 16! It's kind of a clenching pain, and it only lasts for a very short time, but it's enough to make me flinch.

Yeh, we'll see what happens. Thanks for that anywayz.

Yeh, and that was before all the recent events too, she might be even more or less inclined to go now. I'll talk to my friends and we can set something up, then I'll tell her. But I think I must have gotten the point accross that I like her by now. I mean, we were talking one Saturday night and we got onto work. I asked her where she worked, and then the next day I went and visited. We didn't get to talk though, one of my other girl friends walked in and I got sidetracked. Still, I apoligised that night and she laughed and said 'That's just unacceptable! Don't come and see me at work again!' lol.

Ha, funny you said that. I asked if she wanted to go to the movies with our group a little while back, said I'd tell her when we worked out a date, which we still haven't done. She said maybe, that it would be nice to get away from working one weekend.

Mmm, I suppose so. I do have fun talking to her, even if it is only over messenger. I guess the only thing to do is go with the flow, see where things are going/going to go.

I'm not shy all the time, not at all. I'm actually pretty outgoing, 'loud' would be the word lol. It's just around the girls I like that I seem to go a little shy. I guess there's nuffin to lose at all. Right now I'm just taking things slowly, talking to her and getting to know her better. If she doesn't want to be anything more thatn friends, then I suppose I'll have to live with that.

Hi everyone, I'm in a little bit of a pickle right now. I like this girl, have for a few months now. It all started at a christmas party last year. She was really friendly and happy, eager to say hi and everything, unlike most of the other girls there (although she would have to be the nicest girl I know). But I was sitting there and she came over and rubbed my head, and it was just nice to know that someone cares. So I kinda started falling for her, being the nice and pretty girl that she is. Anywayz, skip forward a couple of months later and I've been talking to her over MSN a bit lately. We see each other at school all the time, there's always a smile or a wave or something. At first I was thinking 'oh yeh, she's being friendly'. But then she waved at my mother, which I thought was weird considering they'd seen each other once for a brief period of time. Then one night we were talking, and I asked her how she was. She said crap, I asked how come. She told me this whole story about her ex who she had broken up with a couple of months earlier, and she wasn't sure about him. She said the only reason she stopped liking him was because he stopped liking her. They were at this party together and apparently there was a kiss that he said was confusing. So I conforted her, told her to do what she thought was right. As far as I know, things didn't work out and they've remained ex's. I think she might know that I like her though, because it seems alot of other people are finding out, and my mother accidentally let slip to one of her friends (not CLOSE friends, but they hang out in a group together) that I liked her. Whether she told her or not I'm not sure. But lately when she's been around 2 of her friends specifically, she seems to glance back at me when walking between classes, or there was one incident after English when the 3 girls hung outside and watched me walk past. She's been starting conversations with me more lately too, but I'm not sure if she's just being friendly or otherwise. We always seem to have nice chats about stuff, we laugh alot. But we never talk face to face because we're only in one class together or always in our separate groups. So it's very hard to tell whether there's anything there or not. So far I've just been coasting and seeing where things are heading. I'm one of those shy guys who likes to know if he's really in with a chance before making a move. I guess I just want to get some outside opinions. Srry this is so long, but I just needed to get it all off my chest. Thanks

Wow, very meaningful... I'm a guy and even I can relate to what you are saying there. I hope other people can read this and it'll help them

I think that this RHCP song pretty much summarises what being a teenager in love is all about: Teenager In Love Each night we have a quarrel It almost breaks my heart 'Cause I'm so afraid That we will have to part Each night I ask the stars up above Why must I be a teenager in love? One day I feel so happy Next day I feel so sad I guess I'll have to learn the good with the bad Each night I ask the stars up above Why must I be a teenager in love? I cry a tear For nobody but you I'll be your lonely one if you should say we are through Well if you want to make me cry That won't be so hard to do If you should say good bye I still go on loving you Each night I ask the stars up above Why must I be a teenager in love? I cry a tear For nobody but you I'll be your lonely one if you should say we are through Well if you want to make me cry That won't be so hard to do And if you should say good bye I still go on loving you Each night I ask the stars up above Why must I be a teenager in love?

Don't worry mate, I'm 16 and 90% of people in my year have never had a boyfrend/girlfriend. I know too that it would be nice, but good things take time to happen. There's someone out there for you somewhere, you just gotta sniff her out

Man, I'm sorry to hear about all this. I think you need to get out and get some space. Your parents obviously are a little weird. If you could, I would suggest moving out of the home, although at 18 that's a little hard. Driving yourself into a tree is never the solution, there's always something in life worth living for, sometimes you just have to look for it. First, I would tell your parents the situation. Sit them down, and explain how it's making you feel. If they are good parents, they'll listen and understand. If not, you should know that maybe a home with them isn't neccessarily the best option. Rape is never an easy thing to go through, and it will take some time to get over, but know that everything will be alright soon enough.

It is just a giant game. Sometimes when you are getting close to winning, you freak out. Just like girls, guys like to play sometimes, and it's hard to tell whether they're signaling interest or fooling around, it just depends. Don't go too hard on the guy, he might be a little caught off guard and back away, but also don't shy away. Like SexyChiick16 said, flirt a little harder, let him know you are interested. Just be yourself and things should always be alright in the end

No, he isn't one of his good friends at all. I'm still too sure whether his info is entirely correct or not though. Well, I'm sure she knows me well enough, we have known each other for 6 years or so. Problem is we don't talk anymore, and that's a pain. I'm not going to just ask her, I'd prolly end up embarrassing myself. I talk to the friend who told her I like her a bit, so maybe I can find out from her. She always has a knack of bringing her up in conversation too...

Aight guys, thanks for your help. For now I'm just gonna wing it and see what happens. Unfortunately we haven't talked in some time, but we'll see. If she is interested, I should get more signs. If not, I'll forget it and move on I guess. The formal is basically a high school prom (we talk differently here in Aus).

What else do you want to know? BTW, the formal is in 2 weeks and she's already going with that idiot, so that's out of the question.

Hi guys, new confused member here I'm 16, and I've liked this girl for years now. She apparently found out I liked her from a friend, but I'm not sure if she likes me or not. Every now and again I see her looking at me. Thing is, I was told by someone that she likes someone else, and that he doubted she liked me. Apparently I was also high up on her list for someone to go to the year 10 formal with, but then someone else got to her first (but he's an idiot and people say they wouldn't work together anywayz). Some time ago she winked at me, but that was just playing around because her and her friend were talking about me earlier for the formal (but apparently I wasn't the joke, they really were considering me!) Are these actual signs from her, or am I making it up in my head? I'm torn between 2 pieces of evidence here, someone who told me information, and what I'm apparently seeing. I do trust this person, but I'm not entirely sure if he's fully informed. I don't know what to do! Someone please help!