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  1. sibling295
    sorry about the news - i am wearing my LIVESTRONG bracelet today thinking positive thoughts for you and your family.
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    okay now i am confused : Which is better to rid of cellulite work out in the morning with no food or workout after had a meal?
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    Well its hard to say with this girl , because there is a child involved too. And from what i read you and the kid got along well. i.e. you loved him. A real woman would take that into consideration as well. And maybe she has. I def think she misses you, is curious about what you are doing and stuff. Sleep on it today , see how you feel tomorrow - start thinking positive again. Maybe , this might sound corny, but read some material on getting what you want out of life. I will look for some books too for you. Take care , Sib
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    wildchild - i am in a relationship with a man who broke up with me because he felt pressured. When he came back to me he said we could talk about it at another time. But to please just continue our relationship as is and see if we really make each other happy. Well of course , a couple weeks back into our back together i get ansy. So last week i declared out of the blue" So i am thinking next xmas , lets see where our finance's are and look into buying a home after we get married" While waiting for him to run as fast as he could , he instead said " well keep working , no more summer's off for you". I replied "yah I know" and that was it. It's hard not to bring it up again, but i decided to change my way of thinking about it. Perhaps , you could try something like this too???
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    i didnt mean whiney here on this forum, you ARE allowed to do that!!! I meant when you talk to your girl. So whats the decision?? God i hope this girl gets a friggin clue!!!
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    ocd - have you thought about what if you did call her? although you cannot imagine exactly what she would say , you can guess. How would you feel ? How long would it take you to then get over it all again? Ask yourself these questions. If you feel like taking the risk , then my friend, stop beating yourself up and call her. But get ready for a possible landslide. You never know with love. But i hate reading how upset you are. Other peeps may not agree with me. But if after you have prepared yourself and you feel this is a last chance before you can really move on. then call. OCD _ Do remember this woman hurt you. You dont have to do this to yourself . But if you choose to call , i know some peeps wont agree here, i say do it. Get it out. Dont be whiney , be a man. and call her. Stop the games you are playing with yourself. Go get what you want from life. But be prepared tobe hurt. Pick yourself up afterwards and continue getting what you want out of life. We only live once , but we can love several times....
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    also make jokes , be funny . humor goes a long way. And she cant have her cake and eat it too, if you dont allow that. She is just a friend now, no need to ignore calls anymore. Just go on with your life.
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    Well , i just want you to think about my advice about this. You have to make your own decision. But when she calls you again , I would answer. keep it normal. Do not say ' i miss you , or want us back together - keep it very friendly. I know you will do it well. Dont call her - wait till she calls you. But yes , i would answer the phone. But keep going out and doing good things for yourself. Dont dwell on this relationship working out. Honestly , my last month of NC - worked for me because i stopped counting days of it - i just moved on. Oh but be friendly "like hey how are you?"act interested . Also what worked for me was I acted like i had sympathy for my boyfriend. You know Like i was really concerned that he was okay. A little like switching the story , understand? It was kind of funny actually. Now we laugh about it. He says "i dumped you and when we talked again you acted like it was me who was about to commit suicide"
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    Yes , she MUST miss you. But I will be honest , when my boyfriend and i were broken up those 2 months - i only did nc for about the last month. Then he showed up and cried and we talked everyday after that for a bout a week until we got officially back together. I know NC works for allot of peeps here on this forum , but i am not sure it would have worked longer than the month for me. I dont want to steer you off course , though , you sound great. I just wish this girl would come to her senses, GEEZ!
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    So she is still calling you?
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    Bounder - I got back together with my boyfriend a couple weeks ago. Well as much as things are awesome again - sometimes the fights still ensue. Like last night at dinner with friends , he said in my ear , i miss how you used to compliment me out of nowhere. I said , well its natural for my guard to still be up since you dumped me. And he reminded me that if we want to be a success , i have to learn to forgive him for that , otherwise it we wont make it. Basically - we must learn to forgive and learn to love again. Easier said than done , yes, but it sounds like you guys could make it work out. Go slow with her . It might just be worth it.
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    Still checking on you - OCD - Hope you are doing well. keep up the positive attitude!!!I bet you meet a cool girl very soon!! Make plans for News Years , and promise yourself to have nothing but a great time!!
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    OCD- Things to avoid certain doom? Let go. Let go of it. And you have already jumped the gun. I know she was or is still important to you but sometimes we have to let go to move on. You sound like such a nice guy - believe me you will love again. keep smiling
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    ocd - You sound just fine to me. Again , my opinion , is DO NOT CALL HER> AND DONT ANSWER HER CALLS> You've got to stay strong and get this girl out of your mind. She has a child, right? You know this child is asking about you. BUt she needs to make the switch in her mind that she has made a mistake. You cannot control this. For your own sanity please stop thinking about her. You sound like you are doing great, I bet if you keep ignoring her - it'll make her break down. But you cant care about this. just keep going forward , you owe her nothing. No responses from you. She knows you were hurt and from what i have heard from my boyfriend when he broke up with me he was really hurt too. So they do hurt too. Stay strong- i come back here every other few days just to check up on you and make sure you are remaining confident and positive. Happy Thanksgivivng man!
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    i have talked to several people about this. And have observed my getting back together. The only way it has worked for me and people i know. Is when the dumpee completely didnt care if they came back or not. About a month after my break up , i did a whole 360 turn around. He still tried to contact me but i was very aloof. This independence and confidence made him attracted to me again, i am sure. We still argue about the same subjects , IE marriage but i drop it quicker and move on.
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    During the first week or so after i said "Scr** You" to my dumper ex - I repeated this title to myself everyday - "Dont call that Man" over and over - didn't buy book but looked great.
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    yes unfortunately friends can either work with you or against you. My advice is to try to keep your stuff to yourself or friends that will. Also in my expierence i let go of what anyone said to me. I didnt allow it to change my behavior and or actions. I stayed on course remained confident and it worked out for me. man , forget what she said. You cant control others. Focus on you.
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    All my girlfriends and I get "taken care of " down there once a month. I find it doesnt hurt so much when the hair is shorter. But i will not lie - Boy oh BOY it hurts. I mean still , even with short hair, it is not a happy time!! But the results - FOR ME- are worth all the pain. I mean it changed my life - if you know what i mean! I would never go back to hair now. At least in the near future.... and every man i have been with - enjoys it too!! For me its just cleaner or something , also makes me feel like sexier or dirtier (that only my lover will find out !) Like the librian who wears sexy lingere underneath.
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    link removed not as credible - but an interesting read on dealing with break ups.
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    check this out - link removed
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    Hey OSL - Trust me - my ex found and READ my diary last week.He knows ALL!! I explained it was how i planned to get over him , I explained I was soo hurt when he left , i didnt know what else to do to feel good again. As far as falling on your face - The thing was I always remained confident. Remember - I was set out to get OVER him. I had made up mymind. I was going to be okay.I said allot of affirmations to myself everyday. Confidence was key. It has lead into our new life together - and I am telling you I think its theis Push - Pull effect thing i have read about in other threads. What I am trying to do now is just move on to a mutual respect relationship.I admit I am still childish at times. But things take time - I suppose. Again I am no puritan. ( Actually I am a liberal!) So thats why I am still on enotalone. Plus I feel ppl could learn something .Even if its LA GIRLS ARE HORRIBLE!!! LOL!! So I try to put out the confidence is key thing - to the other posts I have read. Like there is this one guy . He sounds like a great guy.I keep telling him to be a great man .I want to see this person I dont even know HAPPY. Your right i could have fallen on my face - but i remained confident. I envisioned success. But MY success , not with him. Not with any man . My ex just happened to really feel like he made a mistake and came back. I wish everyone on this thread is a success. Yes even you tiredman!!!! I hope we all find happiness. The world is sometimes not a kind place. As a matter of fact - I want to personally apologize to Tiredman. I hope your day is great , my friend. Sib
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    hey enotaloner's - Okay i am not here to win anyone's approval (obviously! Geez!) anyway this is just an account of my break up - recovery - exspression . I may not make the right choices - i may not be a puritan - but i am me. And you can either see it as a tool , or as simply put , what one chick is going thru. All type's of ppl live and breathe in this world. You can either choose to learn from their mistakes or not. I am NOT trying to have my cake and eat it too.HOW am I trying to do that? Because I went out with friends and ran into a guy I dated while I was broken up??? BIG DEAL!!! I am NOT calling anyone or carrying on with anyone. But I am over trying to plead my case. I am NOT cheating on my boyfriend. I am NOT seeing anyone behind his back. I am commited to our relationship . TRUST ME . I did go out with my friends this weekend . BUT i did not plan on running into that guy. We spent a total of like 20 mins. hanging out . Amongst allot of other people. Yes , i found him attractive. But i believe that is a human trait. There is nothing wrong with admiring the opposite sex. I did nothing to engage a little tryst or affair. It was innocent . I even told my ex last night that I ran into him , just in case he heard from friends. I explained everything. He was fine with it. I am not inviting any discussion regarding this. People you must STOP PREACHING AND JUDGING. I dont know what else to even say so this will conclude my rant. AGAIN , I am not inviting any discussion regarding this. anyway - So ex was totally great last night , He said he did allot of thinking this weekend. He asked what it was that i wanted most. I said you know , why did you leave me. He said because of the marriage thing. I said well that hasnt changed for me. Its what I want. He actually said he thinks he needs to calm down and give me more. He said "How about in 2 years" I said " How about in 1 year?" Now usually he would start hyperventalating - and sweating- but last night he kissed my forhead and said 'Lets see how things go" and fell asleep. I couldnt bel;ieve it. This man has told me that whenever i brought up marriage I made another one of his hair's turn grey! So I am feeling pretty happy.He also invitied me to Thanksgiving with his family. Things are good again, YEAH!!! Now just got to get thru 2 more weekends, LOL!!!
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    He just sent a text message - ( i cant believe he knows how to do this?) "will you warm my bed?" Yeah i am excited - i replied "see you at home"
  25. sibling295
    well ex called - he is still traveling home - he wont be in till late. He asked me if i was going to my girlfriends tonight , i told him i wasnt sure yet. He seemed a little down. i am missing him tonight.
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