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Thanks Lady Bug and Hope . Just took a bath -put on my pj's and gonna wallow my sorrows in hot chocolate Tomorrow i am gonna remain positive. And get focused. My girlfriends have offered their couches and bottles of wine , but i feel good at home alone right now. Maybe a large pizza is in order. As i typed this he just called , he left no message. please keep me focused my friends!!

Hi ocrob. The thing is - he said he NEVER see's himself getting married. Not to me not to anyone. NEVER. NO KIDS EVER.DOESNT WANT THEM. I do want a family. I want a house together - a family together. I asked him where he saw himself in 3 to five years.He told me yesterday" Right here where i am .In this condo . Doing the same thing i am today" There was no future with me , none. What was i to do? Yes he was loyal , commited , wonderful to my family. But i want to get married. Plain fact is he doesnt. EVER. oh well , here comes the panic attacks.

yes he is in his 40's.

Thanks guys . He called my cell phone - tricked the caller id - i answered he said there is something wrong with your home phone.I said There is nothing wrong i took it off the hook. he said why i said because we just broke up , i was crying and you yawned. he said we are not broken up i said yes we are , its over he said i will call you later , when you feelbetter i said dont ever call me again , its over i hung up now to tell my family.

So basically we just broke up. He said " I am not ready for marriage.You are. You want this relationship to go from 50mph to 100mph.And i am not. I see that you are unhappy. I dont want to break up.Why cant we just love each other and laugh. " I said , the problemis that you dont EVER see marriage in your future. And i want it. This is not gonna work out." I started crying.. we were on the phone.... he YAWNED!!!! HE YAWNED!!!! I said are you yawning right now?I am crying , we are breaking up and you are yawning??? He started laughing , i hung up. Took the phone off the hook. I dont even know what to tell my family. This is the worst.

Oh thats exactly what i have been feeling - doing. on one hand , i feel that perhaps maybe something is missing inside of me. And thats why i am so desperate to want to get married. On the other hand i feel that there isnt anything missing and i just want the American dream - a family. Its all sooo confusing - but i do get what you are saying. Scout - i do agree the book "B**ches " is first of all a horrible name - and second - its really for a snippy gal. But it is perfect for me . My b/f and i lets say live in a VERY ego-driven lifestyle, environment , family. We both are in the same industry. Different jobs , but we both think we are God's. I am not gonna say more - just that. Regarding meeting the one who you wont have to act - i do believe this too. Another reason why i am sooo confused!!! Hope- oh the book rocks. It basically says to stop thinking about what makes him happy and ONLY think about yourself.I will go into it more later... BUT - after only two days of changing my thinking process - it has made little but big changes. This morning when he called , i said hello. he said" Hi MOMMY" I said its not your mom , its me Sib. He said i know who i called " Hi Mommy" Now , i know that may sound weird to you all - but this was coming from a man who exclaimed that he was too old to have any kids- yah know. I just think he is softening up alittle. Going from i will never be a dad - to calling me mommy. there have been other things too - just dont have time to go into it. I am going out tonight - must get ready. Talk to you all later- SIB.

Oh my , so i ran to a book store today at Lunch. I bought the book. I am only on page 11 - IT IS AWESOME!!!! I love it!

So true , Hope , thanks ...

Two Years Maximum!!!

LOL! Yes , how about when your boyfriends best friend proposes to his girlfriend in front of you at a new years eve party!! Piegirl , whatever you do - dont be like me and bring it up DAILEY!!!! I had already told my b/f that there was NO living together. So that is out of the realm . I know its frustrating , my b/f has no kids , never even wanted any but he is SOOO awesome with my niece.( I take care of her for my sister, long story) My b/f has become a new man with this relationship - he knows it , he tells me all the time. But the legal commitment issue is another story. Give your b/f some time . 8 months is not that long. Put his house key on your key chain and just keep quite. For now. Or until you cant take it. But if marriage is not what you want - then i dont see a problem in your relationship. I mean you guys sound great. When he mentions , you cant live me or marry me - just say " HAH! You should be so lucky!"and go about your merry way. Sib

God- i know i bring it up WAY to often. I am trying to stop , do you think i should just drop it , like my original plan till June - when it will be past two years together and that is MY LIMIT.? thanks in advance.

Hi There Enotaloner's! Thank you soo much for everyone's advice. I really appreciate it. But see this is what happens , and then i get confused. Like last night , i had a late meeting , i amsupposed to pick up my niece from school. I call our mom , but she is sick , she cant do it. I call my b/f , i know he has a hectic shoot going on , but i say , could you please pick up Zoe. He says , of course , but i will have to take her back to the set with me. So , he leaves work , goes and gets her. When i got home aroound 8:30 last night. She had already done her homework , eaten dinner , showered and was ready for bed. He is soooo awesome , its moments like this that i am like WOW. This morning when he left for the set , he says his usuall , i love you but today he hugged me really tight and was just like "I love you Sib , i know we will figure things out." So my confusion is this- Do i leave a wonderful man , who i know loves me or do i stay in this relationship - throwing dreams of marriage out the window?? Oh and i forgot an important thing he said this morning was " Sib , we are already married in my mind. We are committed, loyal and best friends. Dont worry about a piece of paper" Whats everyone's take on that ???? Like i said , i am happy , He does treat me like a princess- i mean he fullfills my basic needs of what i want from a man , just not legal. UGHHHH!!!!!! Hope everyone has a great day! Sib

Kelly, I dont want to sound rude , so please dont take this the wrong way.BUT Is that your pic ? Your are considered a minor. Please dont post pics of yourself , you never know what some freak could do. Also , as far as the sex/BJ's go - STOP doing them! You are 16 years old , still so young !!! Please enjoy life , you dont owe him a blow job everytime you see him. I would stop calling him alltogether. Only respond casually when he CALLS YOU. You will see how much he cares about you then. And BTW- A blow job is a treat - not a necessity. ( When you are older!) Please dont take this age thing wrong. I am just concerned for your safety! I am an overprotective aunt, okay!

Thats right raykay!! Its still a great day. I am going to keep on keeping on. I know its baby steps. We both agreed to take some time to think. I am just trying to think about myself though. Besides those early morning phone calls !! UGHHHH.. Off to work - long day HUgs Sib

This is pretty funny! One day my housework-challenged husband decided to wash his Sweatshirt. Seconds after he stepped into the laundry room, he shouted to me, "What setting do I use on the washing machine?" "It depends," I replied. "What does it say on your shirt?" He yelled back, "University of Oklahoma." A couple is lying in bed. The man says, "I am going to make you the happiest woman in the world." The woman replies, "I'll miss you..." "It's just too hot to wear clothes today," Jack says as he stepped out of the shower, "honey, what do you think the neighbors would think if I mowed the lawn like this?" "Probably that I married you for your money," she replied. He said - Shall we try swapping positions tonight? She said - That's a good idea... you stand by the ironing board while I sit on the sofa and fart. Q: What do you call an intelligent, good looking, sensitive man? A: A rumor A man and his wife, now in their 60's, were celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary. On their special day a good fairy came to them and said that because they had been so good that each one of them could have one wish. The wife wished for a trip around the world with her husband. Whoosh! Immediately she had airline/cruise tickets in her hands. The man wished for a female companion 30 years younger... Whoosh...immediately he turned ninety!!! Gotta love that fairy!