whiterock girl

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tlh - thanks for the kind words. I am sorry you are going through this and I hope everything turns out ok for you. Talk to him and tell him how much this hurts you. If he truly loves you, his loyalty will be with you, not her. Good luck. SimoneTiger, I was not meaning that having a mistress is not cheating. Of course it is! I would never tolerate my husband/boyfriend having a mistress, ever. All I was trying to say is that there is a european outlook that having a mistress is no necessarily a bad thing, just something a man acquires in his life, while in North America, the society standard is different. Of course I wish the original poster wasn't going through this, I was just trying to help her with her situation and explain that her husband may have a different outlook on cheating than she does.

I hate to tell you this, but it is very apparent to me that he is cheating on you. What on earth does he need to have a shower at the office for? Her treatment of you is also very telling. You are competition to her and she is treating you as such. And unless this girl comes from a VERY wealthy family or has just won the French lotto, I can not see why she is willing to work full time for free, unless she sees your husband as her next meal ticket and/or husband. European men (for the most part, I don't want to generalize) do not see having a mistress as 'cheating', it is just a part of life. I am sure your husband understands you were not brought up with that outlook, so he continues to deny it to you. I think deep down you know the answers to all your questions, but needed confirmation from someone on the outside looking in. I suppose I should say I could be wrong, but always, always trust your instincts!!! It seems your instincts are telling you there is more than meets the eye here. This is a really awesome website and everyone on here is great. You will get a lot of support from everyone. Good luck with everything and don't put up with any crap, you don't deserve it!

Don't waster your time with this guy. My last relationship was almost identical. He ended up breaking up with me and had a new fiancee (who is pregnant) within 2 months of our breakup. He just wants to keep you around until he finds someone he thinks is better. He's just stringing you along!!! You deserve better treatment than that. Go find someone who will give it to you

You are totally doing the right thing. You must feel so good right now! I think I'll take a page from your book and set some small goals as well. It's a very healthy approach to take. And just think of how wonderful you will feel after you accomplish the first, second and third etc...goals, you'll be ready for some bigger ones Good luck, we are all here for you.

I also agree. Unfortunately, the person has to come to the realization on their own that their behaviour & treatment of you was horrible. There is nothing you can say or do to make them see that, no matter how much you try. I also speak from experience, as I tried for years to get my ex to appreciate me and be a 'stand up' guy, but he never would and our relationship ended badly. However, I know now that I am better off without him and there are lots of other people out there that will appreciate me and all I can offer them. This is the same for you. You will find someone who would NEVER dream of hurting you and only wants to love you for the great person you are. Good luck on your search for this person, they are out there.

Wow, you are very insightful for someone who is only 19. I am finally getting past a bad relationship/breakup and your writing is exactly what I needed to see today...thank you so much for sharing your beautiful thoughts!

I don't mean to be harsh, but I have done the online dating thing on and off for 5 yrs now and honestly, this guy (& guys his type) troll the websites looking for 'easy prey' to have sex with, and that is about it. (I have also had the bad luck to experience guys like this online. They are Jerks, and nothing will ever change that. I can tell from your email and your writing style that you are much classier than that, but you've been scammed, no doubt about it. He is looking for easy 'marks' and once he gets them, he loses interest completely. Please don't waste more time with him, go find someone who will be grateful to spend an evening with you, instead of the other way around. Good luck!

Thanks for the advice. It really is like a bad soap opera and sometimes I can't believe that it's my life. I realize that he may never leave her and that is a bitter pill for me to swallow. I thought I was getting on with things but when he called me, it just brought it all back. When things were good with us, they were the best. We have a connection that never seems to dim, no matter if either of us is with someone else or not. He does have issues, I am aware of that and would be willing to work on things if we ever did make it to the getting back together point. I am also ok with the fact that he may never be able to have children as I am not sure if I ever want them either. I think deep down I know I should just keep trying to move on, but our connection pulls me back. I guess I will wait to see if he gets his sterility tested and leaves her (or not) and go from there. Thanks again.

Hello everyone, I am new to this, but have been reading other people's posts for a week now. You are all very helpful and supportive, so I am asking for some feedback regarding my situation. I am at a crossroads and am confused. My ex and I have been on and off for 6 yrs (mostly off) until last year. We got back together in Mar/04 and moved in together in Sept 04. As soon as we moved in together, it started to fall apart. He has problems with depression & intimacy and could not commit fully to living together (ie: slept on the couch from the day we moved in together) After 3 months of basically living like roommates, we had a big blow out in December and we decided maybe it was best if he moved out. He said he needed to be alone. He moved out one week before Xmas '04. One week later, he ran into an ex of his from high school (10 years ago) and they started 'hanging out' as friends. He then proceeded to bring her to a New Year's party that we were both going to, even though I expressed to him I would not appreciate him bringing her to the party (more mess: we have the same group of very close friends, so we cross paths occasionally) as bringing her would be upsetting to me. He brought her anyway, but proceeded to tell anyone who would listen to the problems the he & I had been having. She just stood by him all night and said nothing. They kept dating and then she moved in with him in Mar. 05 and they then announced in Apr that she is expecting a baby in Dec.05 and they would be getting married in July 05. (he and I spoke of having children, but it appears he is sterile. There is a lot of evidence pointing in this direction) Throughout the time they were dating and then moved in together, I was hearing from our mutual friends that she was cheating on him with her other 4 ex-fiances and was also involved in online dating etc. (She has a history of cheating, is mentally unstable, a real gem!!) With him being more than likely sterile, this would be fairly obvious that she is in fact cheating. But, he knows his limitations and seemed to be accepting to the fact that he was going to be a father, so I never said anything to him nor did any of his friends. I was of course very devastated when I heard they were getting married, but I did not call him or try to stop him etc..it is his life. Well, last week he called me (he had not done so since Jan. 05) to ask me what rumours I had heard about her and what he should do. I point blank asked him if he thought this child was actually his and he acknowledges, that probably it is not his child and that he has also caught her on the phone with her exes late at night when she thinks he is sleeping. I told him to go to the Dr. to find out 100% that he is sterile and then to proceed from there. While talking to him, it brought back all the feelings I had for him and made me EXTREMELY sad that we are not still together and I almost called him babe, sweetie etc...while we were on the phone, even though I was able to stop myself. I realized then that I am not even close to being over him and need some advice from you helpful people. I guess my questions are this: 1) Why would he call me to ask for advice on this? The history we have goes back a long way and is deep. To deep for me to give him an unbiased opinion, and he knows this. 2) Should I once and for all move on or wait for when he gets out of this and be there for him when he is ready? (He expressed to me that he will be leaving her regardless if the child is his or not) My heart is aching and I really would appreciate any comments that anyone has. Thanks. (And sorry for such a long post)