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Like i said, i texted that back. She then replied later around 7pm, we texted back and forth and she said she would call me later. She called me around 12pm. I didn't answer as i was busy and she left a message and I called her back 20 minutes later. We talked, she talked about what was going on with work, and school and her life. Some things that happened with her family. And how she never forgot about me, and was trying to build iup enough strength to contact me. She said she has been waking up with swollen eyes the past week or so. So i was concerned and pried it out of her. She has been looking at pictures of us in the middle of the night and just crying over and over. I was kinda shocked by all this. She wants to meet up friday night and talk in person somewhere quiet...

Thing is, i still do think about her, quite a bit. Never cared about anyone the way i did her. I truly loved her with all my heart. And made some serious mistakes on how i treated her. I replied with a simple.. "All the Time." Suppose being honest now is the most important thing.

Some of you have read my story, i havn't posted in awhile as ive been much better and was enjoying life. 3-4 Month mark. I'm talking with a friend on the phone, and i receive a text message. It's from the EX. We havn't even spoken in 3-4months. It says this: "Do i ever cross your mind, or is it a memory slowly fading.." Now, we dated for 2.5 years, she's 19, i'm 21. We fought over stupid stuff, and she met some new friends which caused her to break things off. The relationship was generally unhealthy. No one was unfaithful or anything. I was just so shocked to even receive the message. Not sure what to make of it...

Long story short, me and the ex's cousins were close, they were twins. Really good funny kids to be around, got along quite well. Almost like brothers to the ex. Well, its been about 8 weeks or so NC from me and the ex, and graduation is coming up for them from highschool. (finished now). So yesterday i bought a card from the drug store and stuck some movie tickets in it with a small note saying good job, and a quirky saying. I'm not trying to regain contact with the ex at all, just wanted to show i was thinking about her cousins. Was this a bad idea, am i out of line?

Well, its been 2 month's give or take since we have contacted. (shes 19, im 21, dated 2 years around). It's all odd because of the things that happened after we broke up, we stopped talking for a couple weeks, then we started to hang out again... she professes her love to me, saying we will "get back into our old groove in time".. after an incident that following saturday. We were supposed to go somewhere together, then she was like "yea, then me and the girls are going out later", not to mention i was supposed to go with her, but these are her "new friends". So, they didn't end up going, and we didn't end up doing anything.. she got drunk at her friends house with "her girls" she says, could have been anyone with the way she was acting at the time. Didn't hear from her the following day, so i called her monday morning before work to see if she wanted to do something tuesday, the only day we had off together. She said she was busy with school work, and "this guy from my work is trying to get me a job at his work, and im going on an interview after school (7pm?). Well, that aggravated me. (she works closely with 2 guys, its a convience store.) Not to mention i never once heard a word about these guys while we were dating but now one is going to try to get her a second job. The way her schedule is, it doesn't make sense because her time is already filled from work and school. I had to drive by her work tuesday night (no im not crazy, lol), and low and behold, the one day she has off from work her car is there. So me, being kinda aggravated at this point, had my friend go in who she doesn't know and look to see if shes there. She's not. Interesting. Whatever. That didn't click right with me. Leaving her car there.. Wish i never drove past her work. Didn't have a choice. So i sent a bunch of nasty text messages saying its better we dont talk anyomore as were on different pages.. and to lose my number. This all spurt of the moment stuff which i wish i never said, but she was being so shady. And she didn't want to get back together, she wanted to start over as "Friends". That wasn't working, because how do you go from one to the other. Cant. Anyways, this was a relapse, after that, i never contacted her. And she did the same. It's now been 6 weeks, give or take. Now i must say she had started hanging out and meeting these new girl friends from her hair school she goes to. Aparently they are all good friends now, and hang out, she does not hang out with her old friends. Noone has really heard from her or seen her. Neglecting her high school friends, etc. All seem's odd to me, but maybe she started falling out of love while we were dating, starting to like someone at her work possibly, and never saying anything about it. Using the corny excuse "We need to take a break". 2 Weeks after our break, she hangs out with the guys from work at someones house. Interesting. I checked her aim profile about 2 weeks ago and it said stuff about how its amazing the best girls can become best of friends from different area's. Maybe she has new friends, or a new man. Who knows. I dont check her name ever, did once in 6 weeks. Saw her at the mall about 3 weeks ago, with her new girl friend, dont think she saw me. I nearly had a panic attack, lol. We were supposed to go to florida in july, thats not happening, she will still go i assume. One ticket has my name on it which cant be changed. And she payed for it, fat chance if she thinks she's getting that money back. Wonder if she will contact me for it. Probably not now. All in all, i've had a great 6 weeks with friends. Being able to do things that i couldn't when we were dating. I'm not saying we were perfect. We both were immature at times, and i can see and admit that. I made some serious mistakes, that cant be taken back. But still seems odd for the girl i talked to every day for 2 years, to not ever once text, call again after all of this. Aparently she has moved on to better things. I know i couldn't date anyone to healthly right now. The feelings are starting to pass, and i couldn't go on being a friend. I would never heal. So it's good i told her to loss my number, as it gave me time to heal.. but there isn't a day i dont think about her still. Feel slightly numb at times still. Find myself comparing other girls to her. That will pass, for now ill enjoy summer. Cant say i wont always love her, no matter who she sleeps with, or dates, even after all the stuff that has happened. Wonder if she feels the same way... Even if that chance where she came back, i dont even know if i would wanna be back together after all the stuff that has happened. We would have to start over, and i dunno, it may be weird. Yet, i still have these feelings..

Wow im surprised, i wear polo.. i love it.

Well, at the time last night.. i wasn't getting a good read on her so i didn't know how to play that one. I didn't want to move to fast with her, but i dont want to end up in the friend zone either.

Update: So my friend called me and we headed downtown to have a good time.. we ended up going to a bar. I called her and said i was down there, and she asked if i could pick her and her friend up i said sure, and went down and got her. I dropped my friend off as he had to leave and got her and her friend. We went to the bar, had a good time she was touching me etc, was also drunk. We met up with some friends there, and she hung out with them and then i brought both of them home. As im pulling into her house, i stop, she gives me a hug and a kiss on the cheek and says thanks for the ride. I said no problem, and we leave it at that.. ugh.. so confusing..

Well, some of you have read my past ex relationship and know what happened, but we've been broken up for about 2.5 month's now and im starting to feel much better. There is this new girl i have met through some friends, i was playing cards one night and she came in, we started just chatting.. we both love sports and baseball. So, aparently, she got my screen name from someone else, and i had an IM from her. We were talking on the computer for awhile, few days, on and off. Then one friday night she called me, left a message, and called again about a half hour later. She said she was gonna swing by, i had some friends over, but my friends had to leave. She was like, well you can come here and hang out its just me and erin here. So i drive down to her house, and i go in to find its just her.. so we hang out, talk, good chemistry. Decided to watch a movie together downstairs in her house.. was ladder 49, quite sad, at the end, it's very sad lol. So i grabbed her hand, and she rested her head on my shoulder. Held hands for quite a bit then i had to go, as it was 3am, i walked upstairs gave her a kiss on the cheek and went home. We exchanged text's throughout the week. But she still is close friends with her ex, which they broke up like a year ago i think. I think she is looking for a relationship, but she keeps giving me mixed signals. Maybe she just wants to be friends. So today, she was gonna go to a local party in the city, and asked if i was going, then if she couldn't find people to go with from where she's from, she wanted to go with me and my friends. So, i didn't end up going for various reasons, and she went with some friends, i get a call about a half hour ago, she is drunk slightly, asking if im down there, and said where she was going. I wasn't down there, and she was like "You suck, lol" all jokingly.. i keep getting mixed feelings. Im 21, she's 20 by the way. Not really sure how to play this.. maybe she just wants friendship..

To me, it basically comes down to how much i like this girl. If she is cool, enjoy's doing the same things i do, being with me, etc. I dont care how big or small her breast's are.. some people with narrow minds are missing out on some beautiful women. Their loss i suppose.

Doesn't matter to me, if i like a girl, and she's attractive i dont care. I've dated two girls, which i loved.. both were A-B cup, a handfull is enough for me. Both girls were very self conscious about their breast size i made it very clear a handfull is enough for me.

thing is, she didn't waste my time and wasn't nasty to me all the time. The first year and a half was great, she was very loving and caring and i cant take that away from her. She just started to change when she met these new friends and started this new job at a convience store. She was working so much and was going to school, she was really just stressed out. I think she wanted to just be free for awhile, we were fighting quite a bit towards the last few months.. but i thought it was normal, i guess i didn't see the warning signs. Also she may have started getting feelings for this kid at her work, as she was spending a lot of time there, and she hung out with him and a bunch of her and his friends 2 weeks after we broke up. I think she really missed having guy friends like she did before we started dating. I dont know, we just started arguing a lot about stupid stuff. Started to not apreciate eachother as well. I was having trouble finding a part time job while i attended college, lack of money, was a number of things. Sad when you think this might be there person i was gonna spend the rest of my life with. Yet, i shouldn't think that because she is young, 19, i'm 21 and young myself..

So, after about 2.5 weeks of NC. I saw her at the mall earlier in the week, she didn't see me i dont think. I was driving last night heading to one of the local clubs, and bam i see her car outside. Now i had a friend inside that bar, who never met the ex. Said the club was really bad, only about 17 people total, really dead inside. I was trying to describe the EX and he said he might have seen her, with a guy.. holding onto him, kissing him. Now it might not have been her, but regardless its very odd of her to be out on a thursday night, she has class in the morning. Not to mention she had school all day, this is very not like her. I know i shouldn't care, but it seems she changed so much. And if she is with someone it seems she got over our 2 year relationship pretty quickly. As for the feelings i have, why do i still care about her even though she may be with someone else? (she might have just went out with her new "girl" friends, i dont know, making assumption). Why do i still want to know about her life? Why does it seem like our relationship was nothing, and she could have moved on so fast? I last sent her those text messages about 19 days ago. We had an argument about something, and i just couldn't take it anymore i needed NC. Mine were nasty, and i regret them. I said "Lose my number, i think its better we dont talk, have a nice life, its not my problem anymore etc". I really regret sending them, but i needed NC and couldn't take it anymore. Maybe i expected her to realize what she lost, and call. But these new friends she made, work and school, some guys, have seemed to change her completely. She would have never went out on a thursday night, but i cant care, yet i do.. this is my problem. It seems like she moved on so fast, why cant I..

Bingo, i agree with yourdesire completely. Maybe you need to take a break from him. Start doing some stuff with friends and have SEPEREATE LIVES. Or its not gonna work out. From experience i took my ex for granted, never realized what i had, and miss her dearly.. she broke it off.

"Absense makes the heart grow fonder.." Think you should be fine, if you truly care about one another this shouldn't be a big deal.

thanks for the comments, i guess i just have high standards when it comes to that stuff. I really need to care for someone before i become intimate in that aspect. Maybe ill grow out of it or something, i just feel like if a girl is trying to sleep with me in the first couple weeks she is a total skank, and i dont want to be with someone like that, lol. I want to work for it, its weird.

OK, not sure if im in the right forum. Anyways, i have this serious problem with girls who have been with "a lot" of people. Sexually. I myself, value sex as something to do with someone you care about, now, ive been with 2 people, both girls which i loved. The opportunity arises a lot, but i dont want to sleep with just some skank. I enjoy developing an emotional relationship with someone then the sex is so much better. But when i meet a girl, and she says she has slept with 7+ guys.. im slightly turned off by this whole situation. Should i feel like this... im 21 years old if that is of any importance. Thanks..

Well, she didn't SAY she wanted to experience some things. I just dont think she liked feeling like she had to worry about where she went or anything. We had a major communication problem, i can admit to that. Smothered eachother and neglected our friends. She gave up all her friends to be with me, i NEVER asked her to do that, she did it on her own. Yea, she didn't look so hot.. i have been improving my image. I suppose in the end its her loss.

So, i was walking through the mall today with a friend of mine, and for some reason i turned my head to the left.. BAM.. saw the EX. Heart dropped. She was walking down the stairs smiling, she was with one of her new "best" girl friends. MAinly the reason we broke up was she wanted to be single and experience some things. Dont know if she saw me, but it was odd seeing her again, havn't seen her in about 2.5 weeks... Thing is, she didn't even look that great, she died her hair black again.. with awfull highlights.. still, kinda hurt to see her.

Yea, i know were not together anymore. She seems to be handling the breakup better than I am. 2.5 Years with her and i still struggle to get over it. ( today marks 2 weeks of NC. ). It's one thing for me to be hurt over her, i can deal with that. It's another for my friends to start secluding me because of something she said/did or if she is gonna be there and aparently i cant be there either. That's the only thing that bothers me, but i guess im making assumptions.

After an odd series of events over the weekend.. aparently she went to a local race track on saturday night, saw my younger brother and father walking and she was in her car leaving, i guess she waved to them. My brother couldn't see if anyone was in the car, but thats besides the point. The people she is friends with, guys, that i am also friends with have been acting differently lately as well. For instance, a kid i know supposedly was having a party saturday night. I asked him over AIM on tuesday if he was having anything. He said, "I dont think im gonna have anything, i dont want the house getting all messed up again". So i get invited over to his house on sunday night to play cards. I then hear that he had people over saturday night, girls and guys. Couple kids slept there. Now, it bothers me he would lie about it to me. Maybe the EX went with her new BF? And he knew she was gonna be there and didn't invite me.. Or, someone from that group of people is now seeing my EX, and he didn't want me to know. OR, he just didn't want to have too many people there, thus he didn't invite me, maybe it was a small gathering... Regardless it bothers me. Also another close friend said he was going to the bar saturday night, but he instead went to this kids house. Feels like these friends dont want me around, or maybe dont want me to know what's going on with the Ex? Thing is, she went to the race track that saturday night, as his party was the same night. Maybe she didn't even go... i have to ask my close friend what's going on..

Yea, i have spent so much emotion on her its draining. I dont want to break the NC as its been so hard to even get to Day 13. I feel kinda bad about it, as she is going to have to work twice as hard to pay for my ticket. But, she could possibly get it changed? Even though she said that it cant be changed, etc. She still will go.. even if its alone. Before she said "Once you pay for the ticket, its yours, you can go if you like".. so i dont know..

(shes 19, im 21) Well, as you all have read my other posts, me and the ex of 2.5 years split up. She wanted to go experience some things i think, and hang out with her guy friends, etc. It's a long story. I sent her a text 12 days ago that we shouldn't talk anymore as were on different pages once again. And she should lose my number. ( i know, i said these things out of anger, but i need her out of my life if i am EVER gonna heal from this ). Here's the thing, we were supposed to go in the end of july to florida, to visit some friends. She charged the money to her credit card, and i promised that i would pay her back for it when i got the money. It was something like $200 dollars. Now, she works quite a bit for her money, and goes to school. I feel really bad not giving her the money, even though we aren't on speaking terms at the moment. ( i have this feeling she will realize that going out, and partying gets old, etc. anyways) I would just drive to her house, and stick it in her mailbox with a note, about how i know i didn't keep all my promises when we were dating, but i wanted to keep this one or something. Not to mention, weird thing, i was eating chinese, and i opened a fortune cookie and it said "Remember your promises". So, should i give her the money, or can she get the name changed on the ticket, maybe to this new guy at work she is possibly becoming close with...

Socal guy, i know working with the ex is hard, i did it in a previous relationship, i even had to quit the job it was so bad. As for your ex and this other guy, sounds like she is using him maybe to heal from you? Which, in my opinion isn't gonna work for her in the long run but still hurts you. My current ex has been hanging out a lot with this guy from work, who she worked with while we were dating. Think he was a cause of our breakup possibly. We dated for 2.5 years, but girls change from the ages of 17-19, i learned that. I'm 21, i really need to find a girl 20-21. Younger girls need to go through that phase still, where they wanna be independent and single and be crazy. Day 12 of NC.

at 14, you may get smacked seriously for doing that lol. I suggest sticking with a hand, maybe resting your hand on her thigh. i strongly advise to stay away from the crotch area lol.