Bad_Disease

Every girl I've been with, I've pretty much pursued them romantically as early on as possible. I've never been able to date a friend. If I like a girl in a romantic way, I don't want to be just a friend and hang around her while she dates other people... It's too depressing

it all depends on his tone. it's hard to know without being there. i think you should ask for a certain date, so he knows that you really want to do it. say, "hey do you want to see a movie friday? maybe [name a movie]". then he can name a different movie, tell you whether or not he can do it on that day, or tell you if he wants to do it at all or not. if he tells you that he can't do it on that date because of some real thing that he can't get out of, then you should choose a different day. otherwise, he just doesn't want to go with you.

I'm not really friends with these girls though. Most of the time, I just met them and chatted a little bit. Onetime a girl texted me back asking me to go to the symphony with her and some friends, but I told her I couldn't go that night and never heard from her again. Also...especially with this current girl, I haven't said "let's go on a date". I've said "let's hang out", which is a bit more ambiguous, but has always gotten me better results. This girl seems to just be ignoring me completely though online. She just signed on and put on her away message, so I sent her an im quickly hoping to get her attention, but she didn't say anything...

You should end things with your boyfriend and stay away from the roommate. I'm thinking that the roommate might just think that you are easy and may want to use you. He seems curious, but not romantically interested. If you tell a guy that you like him and he likes you, he'll tell you right away. I'm also positive that your boyfriend won't be too happy about you dating his roommate. Sometimes these sorts of things do work out, but I think that you were dishonest from the beginning. In the future, don't date people so that you can get closer to someone else. That's exactly what it sounds like you did here. You felt that the guy you liked was so experienced and every other girl wants to be him, so you used someone else to get yourself in his house. It's manipulative and doesn't show any regard for the feelings of the guy your were dating. When you actually DID show feelings for the boyfriend, it was at the wrong time. You shouldn't take someone back just because they are taking a breakup the wrong way either.

Texting is very impersonal and almost seems cowardly to some girls, so I wouldn't suggest you do that. I think that you should call her as soon as you get the chance and the first thing you should do is tell her that you've wanted to see her, but have been very busy lately. Then, if she gives you any sort of positive reaction, you should ask her out right then and there.

So...the problem I used to have was that I would ask out a girl and she would just say no. NOW, my problem is that when I ask a girl if she would like to go out or hang out or whatever, she gives me her number, but when I call her, I get her voicemail, and she NEVER calls back. Is there some sort of new rule in the female playbook that says that this is how rejections go these days or what? I talked online to this girl I'm interested in the other night, and when I asked her if she would like to hang out this Monday, she said, "Yes! Definitely!". We exchanged numbers and I told her that I would call her Sunday afternoon. I called her at 3 and got her voice mail. I told her that I would like to talk to her about what we were going to do Monday night and asked her to call me back or send me a message online. She had been on aim all day and had her "away" message on, so after a few hours, I left her a message saying that I sent her a voicemail. Well...NINE hours later and she still hasn't called or written. Her away message said that she was just drawing, so I guess she wasn't very busy today and I'm sure she got my voicemail and my aim message. She works tomorrow, and we were going to hang out after she got back, so I'm pretty sure that this means it's not going to happen now. Should I just forget about this girl or what? This sort of thing seems to be happening more and more often. Girls pretend to be interested in hanging out, but when I actually try to schedule something, they avoid me.

This girl just isn't worth it. I wish that more people would take a stand against people who cheat and not have anything to do with them at all. I say NEVER date a cheater. NEVER. Be friends with them, but don't get involved with them. The facts are that she has had sex with guys behind your back, she has betrayed your trust, and she DOESN'T love you. If she was really hooked on you in a big way, she wouldn't let other dudes keep her up all night. That's all there is to it. I'm sure that she is really good looking and that making out with her is fun. So fun, in fact, that all of the guys around her are having a go at it while you are at home playing around with your cell phone. But in the end, there are good looking girls out there, who are fun to make out with, AND have some class and decency, and don't cheat. Find one of those girls and unhook this one in a big way. She's not a keeper.

I think it's ok for you to hang out with a lot of ex-boyfriends, but you should find some girls to keep your current boyfriend company while you are with these other guys. That way, you are both happy. I have a feeling that your boyfriend may not trust you because you yourself say that girls are "two faced" and don't trust them.

Are you making her choose between you and dancing in general, or just dancing with other guys? You can't make someone choose between you and something they enjoy. I would say that you should go dancing with her if you aren't already. If it's a favorite activity of hers and you can partake in it, you should. If she loves to dance and you don't, you shouldn't be together. If she just has a problem dancing with other guys, even when you offer to dance with her, then that is definitely HER problem and you have a right to be upset about it.

More girls need to ask guys out. Right now!!!!

Tell her that you think the two of you should hang out sometime. Never use the phrase "hook up" in a lady's presense unless it's a joke.

Girls without dads are ALWAYS messed up. There is a certain degree of variance, however, in how messed up they actually are. Plus, if she is a church girl, she may have more strict guidelines concerning who and when she dates. That's been my experience.

I think it's usually fairly obvious when a girl is ready to kiss. When in doubt, just move closer and closer to her while looking into her eyes until you are all the way there. Don't move too quickly, and if she starts to nudge away, you know she isn't ready or willing.

Why wouldn't it be fair for you to wait until you are completely comfortable? If the new guy doesn't respect your need to take things slow, then he isn't a good guy. Talk to him about it.

You need to schedule a date the next time you talk to her. You should have asked for her number when you asked her out since it sounds like she didn't turn you down.