Starkitty

I totaly agree with you PAdreamer.

I'm sure you'll get alot of positive comments and if you don't then they're either jealous or just so sad that they have to make such a big deal your new hair style. Surely if they are so great themselves they'd have better things to do then make comments about your hair. It doesn't matter what they think! If your happy with yourself and your hair then everyone else can.. *tries to think of a non offensive sentance and can't* you get the idea As long as your happy thats all that matters. If it gets out of hand you can talk to your teachers about it.

Pain for pleasure

Thank you both so much for your help!! I will find out in the next few days if I got the job or not so I'll let you know what happens.

Thank you SO much!!

I know someone already posted about interviews, but I have some questions. Whats the best thing to say if someone asks you what you'll be doing in 5 years (or maybe less) time? I heard a good thing to say is working for that company, but if they ask 5 years time would it sound as good or honest? When they ask you how much pay you want and you already know what they're offering is it ok to just say that amount? Are they really just testing that you know how much they're willing to pay you? I look very young for my age so how can I make myself look older without using too much makeup? Is it better to wear my hair up or down? If they ask why should they give the job to me would it be ok to say because I know I'll really enjoying working here, I live quite close so I have no problems getting here, I have good computer skills, I am a good problem solver, I have good communication skills (can I say that even if I'm shy from time to time?) and I'm not sure whatelse. I'll proberbly think of more questions later. I hate interviews lol. I do ok in fake ones. I'm grateful for any advice/suggestions -Starkitty

Sorry this was ment to be a new topic I must have pressed reply. Please delete this one.

Congratulations!!! I'm glad this topic was brought up because I have an interview this week. I have a few questions so I don't know if I should ask them on the same thread or start a new one.

Thanks Snarfnaj I know that finding a bf won't change my life and that only I can do that. I just realised that when I'm not attracting anyone into my life there must be something wrong and when I have a crush on someone it makes me realise things about me I never normally notice. It would be great to have someone to just make life feel alittle better and that motivates me to sort my problems out more. Your post really made me think. I have alot of big dreams that I've always thought were impossible or hard to do alone. I live in the UK and I want more than anything to move to the US, but I have no one to move with and I wouldn't know where to start esp since I don't have any money right now. I find myself going from day to day just drifting along when I know I want something more and bigger out of life. I've been thinking that if I want something badly enough and do whatever it takes to get it I can do it! and I can furfil my dreams. So instead of spending my days feeling hopeless and like I'm never gonna get anywhere I could put that same effort into trying to achieve something I want. Part of the root of my depression is because I want different things than other people in life and in a way I feel guilty for wanting to do something big/speacial. It feels lonely being on a different path to others and not have them understand or share your enthusiasm for the same thing. That makes me feel different and alienated from everyone else and it makes me feel like theres something wrong with me because I don't want to just get married settle down and have kids. So I've decided to do something about it. I can't waste anymore time listening to my ego and feeling negative all the time. I have to take a big step into achieving what I want out of life and I can still be helpful along the way. Thanks so much!! I need to realise all this. - Starkitty

Thanks I feel better today. I've been thinking about seeing a counselor for ahwile, but I didn't know if it would really help or not. I might go to one. I know that I'm alot more confident amd happier than I have been for years now! most of this I've achieved myself so thats why I didn't really want to see a councelor before. I know I will feel better in time I think a hobby is a good idea. Theres a few things I would love to try. Shademan, you seem to be very wise. Do you mean that I want to be individual and thats whats making me insucure? that I want to break the mould? and that my ego is the one building the barrier again? Please tell me more about that I am interested to know what you mean. Thanks everyone for your advice! I really appreciate it!! - Starkitty

I distrust nearly everyone and theres alot of reasons why I do and things that I just want to forget I feel completely alienated by the world and it's ruinning my life. I have no confidence anymore and I'm really trying hard to stop thinking negatively about life and people. No one ever seems to want to help me and when I try to talk to someone to ask for thier advice they change the subject and go on for hours about them. I love helping people, but when people act like they don't care that just makes me feel worse. People I don't even know are rude to me. I'm always trying to be nice to everyone and I'd go out of my way to help people and to try to make them happy. People talk to me like I don't matter and this has happened so much that I've started to believe it myself. I know I'm a good person and I've been trying so hard to change my life for the better. I've really achieved alot over the past few years and I'm proud of myself. The thing that hurts the most is that I've been single for years. I don't think I'm ugly and I can be funny and sweet. I've had attention from guys and I know a few guys have really liked me during the past few years I've been single. I think I was close to having a bf a couple of times, but I feel so insucure and my faith in people has just gone completely. I would have asked my crush out (mentioned in earlier posts) but the truth is I wasn't scared he's say no, I was scared he'd say yes because I knew I'd really fall for him and didn't want to get hurt. He seems like a really nice guy, but after bad expierences in my life I find it hard to trust anyone. I feel really unhappy and lonely and I wish more than anything that I could have my confidence back and stop being paranoid that everyone hates me or eventualy will. I know this is all stupid, but no matter how hard I try to fight these thoughts they crawl up and kick me in the butt! I'm not gonna give up though. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel really strange like I'm detached from everything in life and like all the joy has been sucked out of my life. I just want to love and be loved in return because love is the only thing that keeps me going in this world. I would be so grateful if anyone could suggest a way to get my confidence back in love and people. I'm not going to give up and I am going to try so hard to make things better. Thanks, - Starkitty

I'm glad to hear you've both found love! Thanks for replying that helped alot.

Yeah go for it!

I've read alot about being positive and having self love in order to find love. Any tips on this? and did anyone have to do this before finding love? or did it just 'happen'? Did anyone find love while having negative thoughts about love? Thanks, - Starkitty

What do you mean by connection? What exactly do you feel? I'm just wondering so I can compare it to something I read about soulmates. If you feel that you no longer want to be with your boyfriend and you're sure about this then let him know. Don't stay with him just to protect his feelings because in the long run it's only going to hurt both of you. Be honest with him. Be sure it's what you want though and be sure the "soulmate" wants a relationship with you first.

I guess it doesn't really matter if someones your soulmate or not as long as you love them, have things in common and are faithful to each other and are happy together.

I believe in soulmates. We have more than one. Some are karmic soulmates which mean they have some karmic debt to pay you from another life or you have to them. Theres companion soulmates who stay with you for life. Your soulmates can be your friends, enemys, lovers etc..

Alot of girls do it because they're insucure and they like to test out how guys will react by trying to make them jealous or say/do something they know will get a reaction out of them. I think most women do this because they've been hurt in the past and they'll do anything to keep a guy or to make him suffer. *Not talking from expierence cos I'm too sweet to mess with guys minds* I've seen alot of girls play mind tricks to keep men even as far as faking pregnancy to keep a guy! Which I think it's #$%@ed up!

Just tell them that you've enjoyed working there (if you haven't lie lol) you feel you've learnt alot from working there, but you have to focus on your school work and social life. They should understand that schools important and they might respect you for wanting to concentrate on school. Just tell them, they can't fire you for it be polite when you do and that'll keep a good relashionship with them esp if you need a reference from them.

Shinobie, I've been reading you posts for awhile now and I relate to alot of things. I also wonder why even though I try to help other people and I'm the polite sweetie that would do almost anything for anyone and I don't get anything in return.. except abuse from people. It sounds like the guy who sleeps around needs sex to feel better.. an ego or confidence boost? You'll find the right girl once you learn to love yourself. I want you to make me a list of every good point about you! (I'm gonna make one for myself too since I'm trapped in the same chain of thoughts.) Don't list any bad points just the good ones. If you don't want to post it here PM me. In fact why don't the people with this problem all find a way together of how to feel better about ourselfs and solve our low self esteem problems? We could all try things and see if it makes a difference and report back on out successes. If anyones interested I could start a post on it. Those girls that say your ugly are proberbly trying to boost thier egos too! They must be pretty shallow to judge you on looks and I bet these same girls end up with your friend. If someone doesn't like you thats thier problem! They'll come in and out of your life, but you have to live with yourself forever! So do what makes YOU happy! As said before a girl isn't going to make things better, but she can teach you alot of things about yourself. I think we must all go through obsticles, but some of us choose the harder path. Others try to avoid it and it'll creep up on them later. Theres nothing wrong with you as a person! You seem like a nice guy and very smart! but you are your own worst enemy! You have to break the circle of fear that you're in and once you've done that things will get better! just be as positive as you can and think as much good stuff as you can! If you're happy with yourself and you're doing what you want to do then you must be on the right path and anything else is just a distraction. You'll find a girl, but don't choose the first one that comes along because that'll just end up in tears. Wait until you've found one you know your going to enjoy being with and someone you can be yourself with.

Brunette, it makes you look older.

I tried cutting out dairy products because I read there is alot of hormones from cows especially pregnant cows in them and some of my spots cleared up within a week. If you do this you have to find a way of replacing you intake of calcium. The extra hormones in your body produce more oil than your skin needs and produces more spots.

Go for it! You don't really have anything to lose! good luck!

Please don't act like a badboy just to get chicks. You gotta be yourself otherwise you'll be doing something you won't feel comfatable with and it'll look weird to anyone that already knows your a nice guy. I agree with Beec, I just noticed his post and hes said all that I wanted to..

I hope ur right paulo ribeiro!