Seraphim Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 As many people know because of the way my husband was raised he is not a very sympathetic or empathetic person. He astounded me today by tell me the best thing I have ever heard in my life. He told me he wants to have a session with my counselor so he can understand how to understand how I feel about being molested and raped when I was small. He also wants to have suggestions on how to help and support me. I AM OVER THE MOON. I am being repaid for the over 20 years I supported him through his severe anxiety and OCD issues. I am SO SO SO happy. There is no way he could be of greater help to me than that. I was just in tears of joy. He has become the man I always knew he could be. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 I'm very happy to hear it. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Woot!!! This is great news! Good luck at the session. Maybe this will lead to him coming with you more then once. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 23, 2013 Author Share Posted January 23, 2013 I am just so happy I am over the moon. I had to sob with happiness. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Oh that's wonderful!! Happy tears are the best. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 You so deserve this, Vic! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 23, 2013 Author Share Posted January 23, 2013 Thanks so much everyone!! There is something to said for persistence and believing and just putting your head to the stone and sticking with your marriage. Link to comment
Elektra22 Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 That's so sweet & awesome Victoria it's nice to read such a positive, uplifting thread! Link to comment
Ayanokōji Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 As many people know because of the way my husband was raised he is not a very sympathetic or empathetic person. He astounded me today by tell me the best thing I have ever heard in my life. He told me he wants to have a session with my counselor so he can understand how to understand how I feel about being molested and raped when I was small. He also wants to have suggestions on how to help and support me. I AM OVER THE MOON. I am being repaid for the over 20 years I supported him through his severe anxiety and OCD issues. I am SO SO SO happy. There is no way he could be of greater help to me than that. I was just in tears of joy. He has become the man I always knew he could be. Thats great news but I don't seem to understand why he needs to understand how YOU feel through SOMEONE ELSE, wouldn't it be best coming from the source which is yourself? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 23, 2013 Author Share Posted January 23, 2013 Thats great news but I don't seem to understand why he needs to understand how YOU feel through SOMEONE ELSE, wouldn't it be best coming from the source which is yourself? However way he does it is great. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 23, 2013 Author Share Posted January 23, 2013 Great news Vic! Thanks!.. .... Link to comment
mhowe Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Who we are is defined by our capacity to love and in the end this was mum’s final gift to us, to expand our capacity to love, to stay in the broken open place, soft and tender rather than constricted, or defended or running for the door, we learned to stay, just like she stayed through her marriage and our up brining with arms and heart wide open to take it all in. Mum was a women with an enormous capacity for love. Vic66 ---- this was from my mums eulogy --- but it will be said of you as well. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 23, 2013 Author Share Posted January 23, 2013 Who we are is defined by our capacity to love and in the end this was mum’s final gift to us, to expand our capacity to love, to stay in the broken open place, soft and tender rather than constricted, or defended or running for the door, we learned to stay, just like she stayed through her marriage and our up brining with arms and heart wide open to take it all in. Mum was a women with an enormous capacity for love. Vic66 ---- this was from my mums eulogy --- but it will be said of you as well. Oh wow, thank you. You do me a great great honour. Thank you. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 I am very happy for you! I think you completely deserve every wonderful gift you have, including this supportive guy you have now. Big hugs. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 24, 2013 Author Share Posted January 24, 2013 I am very happy for you! I think you completely deserve every wonderful gift you have, including this supportive guy you have now. Big hugs. Thank you Ms Darcy. Link to comment
BritterSweet Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 YAAAAAYYYY!! That's so wonderful of him! Hopefully he sees how much this means to you. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 24, 2013 Author Share Posted January 24, 2013 YAAAAAYYYY!! That's so wonderful of him! Hopefully he sees how much this means to you. Thank you ,yes ,it has been a long time coming. But so so so appreciated. Link to comment
Heather Dawn Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 Awww...I love that and I'm happy for you! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 24, 2013 Author Share Posted January 24, 2013 Awww...I love that and I'm happy for you! Thanks!...... Link to comment
Kaytie Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 I'm very happy for you Vic! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 25, 2013 Author Share Posted January 25, 2013 Thank you Kaytie! I talked to my counselor and she said while he was not allowed to talk to her he could talk to another counselor in the same location. They said they could give him great help and support. Link to comment
Miss Firecracker Posted January 25, 2013 Share Posted January 25, 2013 I am very happy for you, Victoria! You have grown so much recently, and apparently your husband wants to grow with you. Link to comment
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