Big Boobs

[Mr.Mister]

My girlfriend has really big boobs. She really hates having them, and is ashamed of them. She's always holding them or hiding them with books and things, because she's worried people are looking at them. I love her big boobs, as most guys would, but, she doesn't want people looking at her like that. Every time she plays a game which requires running or jumping, she has a hard time because she is clutching onto her boobs so as not to let people see them bounce. She doesn't want people to think sexually about her.

 

She already has a problem in her head where she thinks she's flirting and making sexual passes at guys and girls, even though she is just walking or doing normal human things. And, she knows people look at her boobs when she walks by and she wants to not be thought of in that way. What should I tell her to calm her down? Also, how can she deal with having such large boobs, besides breast reduction?

[EmotionalCreature]

Make her watch one of those shows that's on TV every now and then. People with really flat boobs.

[TheRedQueen]

I have larger breasts as well, and it really gets annoying when, day in and day out, people stare. But then again, that's no one's fault, after all, human beings are just visual creatures. So when a girl with abnormal features is viewed in public, whether she be abnormally fat, abnormally beautiful or abnormally short, doesn't matter, people are going to notice her and pay extra attention to her, it sucks but it's human nature.

[Newo Ikkin]

Big boobs can be disturbing to some bearers - both physically and mentally. How does she dress? Sounds strange, but it can be a contributory factor to her self-consciousness.

[Leonhart]

Absolutely no disrespect intended, but how tall is she and what does she weigh? If she's a bit on the heavier side, she could try losing weight in order to lose some of the fatty deposits on her breasts. If she's thin already and can't lose the weight, then... you're a very lucky guy! Sorry, but you are!

 

I guess you could try reassuring her that she's perfect the way she is, and to stop caring what other people think of her. Boost her self-esteem so she no longer cares what others think of her. If they stare and can't accept it, it's THEIR problem, not hers. Why should she suffer over being large-chested?

[Jetta]

They have bras that minimize the appearance of large boobs. They generally aren't the cute bras but if it's really that awful for her she could wear those.

[Locke2121]

Can she get a reduction? They are pretty good these days, and it may be exactly what she needs to start changing her attitude.

[rocio]

I can relate with everything you said about her. Sometimes I like to have them noticed and I'll wear a push-up bra with a low cut shirt and enjoy showing them off. But that's only on occasion. Other times, it's weird because I'll be wearing professional clothes and a good bra and my mind is a million miles away from sex - like I'll be thinking about a project at work or about my child and being a mom, or something completely non-sexual - and suddenly I become aware of the fact that some guy is staring at me, picturing me naked and doing dirty things and I feel violated.

 

This summer, I was dressed pretty, yet respectable and walking down the street. These two drunk bums yelled out as loud as they could, "wow, great boobs. Oh yeah baby, those are awesome!" There were at least about 20 people who heard them and turned around to look at me and I just kinda smiled back. Then I went home and cried. The worst part? I was about 4 months pregnant and, even though it wasn't yet noticeable, I was so infuriated that they could disrespect an expecting mom like that.

 

But I've been dealing with crap like that since I was 12 years old and started to grow breasts. Your gf probably has too. She might not have a "problem in her head". Think about what it's like to be all sexual and bouncing all over the place 24/7. The novelty wears off, trust me.

[bigheart09]

I'm 5 feet, petite, with size D boobs...obviously people notice (im surprised I dont fall over!) Anyway, I am pretty confident in myself and am comfortable with my body. All my friends who have smaller boobs are always wishing they had mine. It is all about how you carry yourself. She should be proud of her body and not worry what others think. You should tell her that.

[RayKay]

I have had larger breasts too since I was 12, on a petite frame, and I can say that while I am comfortable with my body NOW and even my breasts (and fortunately it seems as I hit my mid 20's they did get a bit smaller as they settled into their shape and now I can run more comfortably etc) growing up I was not. You tend to feel rather disrespected and insecure when people always yell "nice boobs" at you. I remember one time when I was working at my part time job at 16, two older men (customers) in the store yelled that...how good was that for my self respect at my job, and how "safe" did I feel at 16 with older men yelling that at me?

 

Anyway, it took a while for me to be comfortable with my body and in my skin as a whole, including the breasts. She can wear minimizers or look into a reduction (though that is major surgery and has it's own negatives) if she really wants, but I think she also needs to be more confident in herself overall and likely she would feel better about her breasts too. This takes time.

[eleanorrigby1]

My breasts are a 34J and I feel like i wasted my teenage and early 20s being really depressed about my breasts.

 

Everyone looking, staring, nudging their mates saying "Look at the size of her t i t s!!!" really loudly when I walked past. Being called a tart (as though i purposely did this to myself) whether i gained weight or lost weight they stayed the same.

 

i used to dream summer, i used to literally cry and stay at home all the time when i couldnt hide behind my coat or jackets.

 

I eventually got sent to see a specialist who agreed within five minutes that i could have a breast reduction. i had to have pictures taken with a male photographer which felt like a porno session and degraded me further "can you turn this way... turn to the left..." while he took pictures of my boobs.

 

The approved me, put me on a waiting list, but as the time went by and got more confident with myself, more confident with my attractiveness, my personality, got a bit older and more wiser, i started to see them as the asset that they are.

 

I changed my mind about the reduction, you cant breast feed once you have had it and i would lke to breast feed my children. because they are so large they will sag once i have had kids and i will then have the reduction when im 40 after ive had my babies.

 

At the moment, i see them as an asset and it took almost 17 years for that to happen.

 

Its a shame that its in hindsight we see all the wasted time hiding away.

 

Maybe she should look into CBT therapy, change the way she thinks about herself or the way others look at her. Maybe even just person centred therapy will help boost her confidence.

 

She can always have a reduction, but with any surgery there are risks and expenses and I dont think a young girl should be contemplating that because of how she feels psychologically.

[rocio]

yeah, I wouldn't recommend getting surgery for asthetic reasons.

[applepie]

I'm another girl with big ones. Mine grew at least one size every year through my teenage years. I ended up with 34G by the time I was 19. The comments and staring used to make my blood boil, especially if I was dressed very casually and just wanted to go to the bank or something. I remember people actually telling me that I looked like I was going to fall forward. When I got dressed up to go out I used to appreciate the attention. I admit that.

 

Just after I turned 19 I went off the pill for about 9 months and they shrunk down to a 34C/D. All of a sudden, the comments and staring stopped. No one even noticed them anymore. I actually found myself trying to make them look bigger. I went back on the pill at 20 and I've been on it for about 4 months. They are back up to a 34E and the comments have commenced once again, even though it's winter.

 

Over the past year I have really learned to appreciate them. Some women pay thousands of dollars for bigger boobs and I've got mine for free. They are a wonderful accessory to any outfit. Now if only I could find some pretty lingerie that looks good by itself and under clothes...

[obscurity]

Tell her how lucky she is!!! Im asian, so naturally short and lanky. How I would trade to be in her position.

 

Besides breast reduction, going to the gym could help. Try cardio because that is the first place I see decreasing. Go with her, and encourage her! Dark clothing, in solid colours is really sliming. But, even if she does any of this, if she doesnt love her body, she will never see the "perfect" image she wants.

[Mr.Mister]

Thank you for your replies. I am especially grateful too all the girls that replied that have dealt with this problem, or are still dealing with it.

 

When my girlfriend was around 13 she had an eating disorder. She started looking at model pictures constantly and she was very skinny. I didn't know her back then, but I'm seen some pictures of her at around 14 or 15 where she looks like a really young model. She is so beautiful, but I will love her no matter what she looks like.

 

Her boobs in those pictures (obviously clothed.. don't think of me as a pervert or anything) looked like a decent size, but more proportional to her height. She's about 5'4" I think, and so having larger boobs is definitely noticeable. Well, in the past year, she has put on some weight. It's not really that big of a deal to me, but to her it's a TON. I understand where she's coming from since she used to be super skinny. But, she has to understand that she's not going to be "skinny" like she was before, since her eating disorder at the time was the main factor in her being that skinny.

 

I try to boost her self-confidence as best I can, by telling her how beautiful I think she is and how much I love her no matter what and all sorts of things, but she never wants to listen to anyone but herself (because of what she sees in the mirror). (And, she still looks at those model pictures and gets tons of magazines with models in them, though I told her I don't like the idea of her looking at that stuff. Oh well.)

 

She still lives at home, while going to school, so she is still on her parent's insurance. She's been to some therapists in the area before, but only the ones covered by their insurance, and I guess they aren't very good. I've taken some classes on psychology, so I know somewhat what they should at least be doing. One of the therapists she saw was mean to her and made her feel worse, so she got out of their quickly. She started going to see this really nice lady, that she enjoyed seeing, but she was more of a counselor than a therapist. I've found some really good sounding therapists in the area, but they aren't covered by their insurance, and her dad isn't going to "waste money" on something like that.

 

As for clothing, she wears really big and baggy hooded sweatshirts often. Never anything skimpy ever. She doesn't want to be sexual at all, so she tries her best to hide everything. When we work out, she normally wears something more comfortable, but she holds her boobs most of the time and doesn't like doing any moves that may make her bounce or anything.

 

I try to tell her she's lucky, since so many women want large breasts, and will even go through the trouble of getting implants to get them that big, but she finds that whole thing gross, since the only reason for that would be for sexual reasons or something.

 

I think I'll mention something to her about those restrictive bras everyone keeps mentioning, but I think she wears sports bras a majority of the time already. Maybe she's just not wearing the right kind or has the wrong size. Anyway, I heard that wearing sports bras or tight restrictive bras all the time was bad and could hurt you. Is there any truth to that? I don't want her to have any pain because of them.

 

Also, I've been working out with her, so we can both burn fat and gain muscle together. All I have to do is help encourage her to not eat so much junk food now. haha. She seems to have lowered her self-control since she has gained the weight. But, she is determined to lose it again, so that's a good thing! Thanks everyone again.

[EvaGina]

MrMister, you seem very caring, patient and loving!!

She's lucky to have you

[AntiLove_SuperStar]

Me - 5ft 7ins, 36D. Supposedly very hot?

 

Never - I'm getting nice flattening-surgery soon as I can afford it. I feel her pain.

[Aurian]

One reason she might be holding her breasts when working out is that it can be damn painful when they bounce around! I'm a DD myself, and I can't seem to find a sports bra that stops it from hurting when I jump or such. So I have to hold myself or simply refuse to do any jumping when working out.

[jengh]

Applepie, I know exactly how you feel--I'm a 34DDD and it SUCKS! The comments people give... as if i dont KNOW they're huge and completely out of proportion with the rest of my body.

Going off the pill really made that much of a difference? Hmm, maybe I should look into another BC method...

[Mr.Mister]

I can't believe how many women on here have said how guys have said comments like "nice boobs" to them. That is harassment, and it's just plain disrespectful. If it happens at work or at school, it's against the law. I'm not sure about everywhere else, but it should be.

[EvaGina]

as long as it is in good humor, I dont mind that kind of thing... there are certain lines that stay uncrossed... if they want to keep their testicals.

the other night's conversation at hte pub:

 

guy 1: If you werent dating Macca, I woud so pull some lines now

me: you know aussie Dave?! he grabbed my boob on saturday night!!!

guy 2: Really? You dont look like you have anything to grab?!!

me : well, he's heard that line so many times he might as well get to use it once, no?

 

he apologised and told me my boots were sexy

[Altruist]

SAY NO TO BREAST REDUCTION. BIG BREASTS ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!

 

How I wish more women would realise that.

[rocio]

SAY NO TO BREAST REDUCTION. BIG BREASTS ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!

 

How I wish more women would realise that.

 

lol... yes, beautiful to look at, nice to touch.. But a bit of an inconvenience when they're permanently attached to the front of you. I wish guys could realise that women's bodies are so much more than sex objects - they are the homes that we live in!

[Altruist]

lol... yes, beautiful to look at, nice to touch.. But a bit of an inconvenience when they're permanently attached to the front of you. I wish guys could realise that women's bodies are so much more than sex objects - they are the homes that we live in!

 

I think the human body has a wonderful way of adjusting to whatever natural load is on it. The bodies of those with big breasts adjust naturally, especially in the spinal region.

[rocio]

are you joking?