aocwater245 Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 So me and the girl I was seeing had broken up with me she told me it was because our friends and interests were different but she still enjoys spending time with me. We stop talking for 2 weeks and I text her saying that she still has clothes at my house and we start flirting again one thing leads to another and we are seeing each other everyday after work, on the monday she would text me saying come over then on tuesday I would say to her come over and we would do this all week. When laying in bed together she starts to kiss me on my head and arms and wants to cuddle me so I do too so its not like we were just having sex, Then we start going out and doing stuff (getting food going to movies ect) and she even stays at my house for like four days leading up till Xmas we do our shopping together then we go our separate ways for the holiday. Then afterwards we pretty much are doing the same thing untill one week she stop responding to my texts are frequent. What I'm thinking happened is she was waiting for me to ask her back out but I never did. I want to text her that I wish I asked her to be my girlfriend again once we started to see eachother but I don't want to look like a fool if I do. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 How long were you dating? Are you exclusive? It sounds like she's interested in someone else but likes you as a fwb or for the friendzone. Once you break up it's over. She's clearly busy with someone else.So me and the girl I was seeing had broken up with me she told me it was because our friends and interests were different but she still enjoys spending time with me. one week she stop responding to my texts are frequent. Link to comment
aocwater245 Posted January 23, 2020 Author Share Posted January 23, 2020 we only dated for like 3months before she ended it but then started it again after 2weeks of not talking then we saw eachother for about another month having sex ect till this happened. We never spoke about what we were doing when we started to see each other again. I just wonder if she was waiting for me to say something to her because when we were dating she said she loved me and I never said it back apart from once when I was drunk and didnt really tell her how much I liked her so its got me thinking that she saw me again to see if I would say something to her. I also matched with her bestfriend friend on tinder and she really stopped talking to me then. But I dont know if thats what caused it I never talked to her friend I unmatched her but yeah i dunno Link to comment
aocwater245 Posted January 23, 2020 Author Share Posted January 23, 2020 or did I just let myself get completely played thinking all this while she was looking for a new person to be with Link to comment
kim42 Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Maybe she was lonely and liked spending time with you but didn't want to commit. Or she met someone else. Link to comment
limichelle Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Hi It sounds like once you broke up that should have been the ending. On again and off again relationships hardly work out. I would chalk this up to as a lesson you learned so you don’t get used or hurt again. I think she was using you for her needs to be met then left once she found them in someone else. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Sorry to hear this. Agree on/off is a no-win situation. She lost interest because you treated her poorly. Move on and learn how to handle dating and relationships in something better than fwb. when we were dating she said she loved me and I never said it back apart from once when I was drunk. I also matched with her bestfriend friend on tinder and she really stopped talking to me then. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 or did I just let myself get completely played thinking all this while she was looking for a new person to be with You didn't get played, you participated in fooling yourself. Breakups are supposed to tell us all we really need to know. Link to comment
DaisyMayPorter Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 So me and the girl I was seeing had broken up with me she told me it was because our friends and interests were different but she still enjoys spending time with me. We stop talking for 2 weeks and I text her saying that she still has clothes at my house and we start flirting again one thing leads to another and we are seeing each other everyday after work, on the monday she would text me saying come over then on tuesday I would say to her come over and we would do this all week. When laying in bed together she starts to kiss me on my head and arms and wants to cuddle me so I do too so its not like we were just having sex, Then we start going out and doing stuff (getting food going to movies ect) and she even stays at my house for like four days leading up till Xmas we do our shopping together then we go our separate ways for the holiday. Then afterwards we pretty much are doing the same thing untill one week she stop responding to my texts are frequent. What I'm thinking happened is she was waiting for me to ask her back out but I never did. I want to text her that I wish I asked her to be my girlfriend again once we started to see eachother but I don't want to look like a fool if I do. -Why did you stop talking for 2 weeks to begin with? -"she stop responding to my texts are frequent" - what does this mean? She did stop responding to your texts or she texted you frequently? -You said you wanted to ask her to be your girlfriend - if you're spending so much time together, I would just assume that she was your girlfriend, I hate how people need to ask if they're spending so much time together. But in this case, it does seem confusing. How old are you and how long have you been together? Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 If you wanted to ask her to be your girlfriend why were you trolling on Tinder? Link to comment
Andrina Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Her reasons for ending things wouldn't be dealbreakers to most, so she's probably not telling you the truth, which is probably that she's just not that into you. A person who cares when there are real problems will ask you to work on things together to move forward as a team. She easily dumped you, and past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior, so she's giving you the heave-ho once again. Since you're surprised, you haven't had much life experience yet to know that this was bound to happen. Time to make a clean break for closure. It's an experience to learn from, so make sure you realize how to date smarter in the future. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Sounds like phuck buddies to me. Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 Either she objected to you serial dating on tinder or - Some young women are not ready to fall in love yet. She's just not that into you. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 You aren't sure where you stand and at the same time you are wondering if your lack of commitment is causing her to fade, then why don't you two just-talk-about-it? You're willing to get naked and swap bodily fluids after all, but somehow speaking to each other is a problem? Link to comment
aocwater245 Posted January 24, 2020 Author Share Posted January 24, 2020 Should I let this girl know how I feel or just let it go? I feel like you are right reinventmyself but I dont know if im thinking that to make myself think that everything is okay. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 You already broke up and refused to be affectionate or treat her like a gf, she knows how you felt so got her act together and left you. Live and learn and find other girls to date and this time treat them right so they don't dump you.Should I let this girl know how I feel or just let it go? Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 24, 2020 Share Posted January 24, 2020 Should I let this girl know how I feel or just let it go? I feel like you are right reinventmyself but I dont know if im thinking that to make myself think that everything is okay. Why were you trolling on Tinder if you have all these "feelings" for her? Link to comment
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