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  1. I'm so glad to read this, I've been sexually assaulted several times and also had a very traumatic experience with my ex, and I've been working on my myself a lot recently, thanks for sarin your positive mindset!
  2. That's true, I think my mom is worried that I might end up in the same situation as she did, so maybe that's why she'd like to see me married and settled (her favorite word).
  3. Thank you everyone for your advice, I read everything, and besides my self-esteem issues (this is a very long process for me), I think I need to stay away from social media for a while to avoid comparing myself to other people. One of my cousins that I hadn't seen in a while told me it's high time that I find a serious boyfriend at my age. Things like this make me questions myself, although I know that life doesn't end when you are 30. I'll try to focus more on my life and my happiness than what m cousins think ๐Ÿ™‚
  4. I think this marriage thing is very Eastern European, we're still a little traditional, and honestly my mom would love to see me married soon, she's afraid that if I wait too long, I'll stay single forever. I mean, I want to get married one day, I just don't want to do it because I'm supposed to, but because I want to do it myself. I think I compare myself to other people sometimes because I have self-esteem issues, it's an ongoing struggle.
  5. Mostly my family, I have much older cousins who are already settled, they live in a house and have children, so sometimes I feel that they will take me more seriously once I get married. I often feel misunderstood by my own family, although they are supportive.
  6. Iโ€™ll be soon turning 30 and Iโ€™m in this weird phase in life. I thought I was happy with what I was doing but it seems that different things are expected at my age. Iโ€™m not married, I donโ€™t have children, I have a steady job and many friends, and I feel the pressure to settle down, and it honestly scares me a little. Iโ€™m scared of this idea that we should all follow the same timeline, but I just canโ€™t escape all these questions about marriage, boyfriends, buying an apartment, and sometimes when itโ€™s just too much, I feel like a failure. Is it bad that I want to do things at my own pace? I donโ€™t know if this is something that happens to everyone once they turn 30, or if itโ€™s just me overthinking things, but sometimes I feel lost, as if I had to tick off some boxes to make everyone happy, and to give the impression that Iโ€™m doing the right things. I donโ€™t think I am a failure, I moved to a different country, got my master's degree here, I think I am successful for my age, but lately Iโ€™ve been feeling as if it wasnโ€™t enough. And then I just end up comparing myself to everyone else and I feel miserable โ€“ I avoid doing this though. Can anyone relate to this? I hope this makes sense, please tell me Iโ€™m not the only one who is confused.
  7. You will see if there you actually go on second date or not, it's too soon to make any conclusion after one date. Keep yourself busy with work and friends in the meantime ๐Ÿ™‚
  8. I was invited to some really crazy parties when I was younger (Eastern European style ๐Ÿ˜ƒ), but there was nobody destroying any furniture. You don't have to do anything too crazy if you don't want to, good music and alcohol are okay, no need to overthink it ๐Ÿ™‚
  9. He texted me last night, while I was already asleep, and it turned out he wanted to ask me out for a night stroll. I have the impression he just wants to have sex.
  10. I don't mean it in a bad way, I used to overanalyze every guy I'd go on a date or text with, and now that I do it less, I feel better ๐Ÿ™‚
  11. I didn't read the entire thread, and I think it's great to ask for advice, but maybe you should not over analyze one woman this much, do you have friends/social life?
  12. So my friend just told me he's been asking her out for drinks, and basically texting her all the time. So probably no second date with this guy ๐Ÿ™‚
  13. I agree, not everyone has to be the wild one at parties, I'm a listener and sometimes I tell a joke, and I'm okay with it. I think the OP just needs to be more comfortable with himself, enjoy social outings and not overanalyze every social interaction.
  14. I mean I don't know what kind of messages he's been sending to my friend, but she told me he's a little annoying. He also sent a Facebook request to another friend of mine that he doesn't even know, he seems to be in touch with more of my friends ๐Ÿ™Š
  15. I'm not crazy about him, but I'd like to get to know him a bit more. I should probably see him again this weekend, but I just found out he's been texting a friend of mine too. She said he's been texting her all the time. He knows we know each other so I think it's a little weird. I know we're not exclusive or anything, but it makes me wonder how many girls he's texting with at the same time.
  16. We were in a park and he played the guitar, so it was nice. Yes he did ๐Ÿ™‚
  17. Based on my experience, when a guy calls after 10 pm, it is a booty call
  18. Story update - I actually went on a date with this guy, and surprisingly I had a lot of fun๐Ÿ˜ƒ
  19. You can always give them a chance, they can just post pictures for fun, nothing wrong with that ๐Ÿ™‚
  20. I just wonder, are there any non-native English speakers here? I will feel less lonely ๐Ÿ˜„
  21. I'm not sure if I could date someone who was interested in my friends, sorry that this happened to you. Try to focus on yourself, and go on dates with other guys.
  22. He doesn't have to text me 24/7, but he can at least ask me some questions, I think. Just to establish some connection, I don't know, that's what I like, and what men usually do, at least in Europe. Maybe I am too demanding ๐Ÿ™‚
  23. I said no to the walking date, I'm just not interested, he makes very little effort. Thanks everyone for your help ๐Ÿ™‚
  24. Yes, he wanted to come to my place when we were still in lockdown, I said I didn't like that idea, so now he's been suggesting a walk. As O said, I wanted to give him a chance, but I see very little effort from him, when he texts me, it's only to ask me out, the conversation is sort of boring, I tried to initiate a more interesting chat, but it didn't help.
  25. It's true I'm not crazy about him, but I thought he was nice so I wanted to get to know him a little more, I don't see anything wrong about this. It's just a date, I didn't say I'd marry him.
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