CarinaW Posted March 19, 2019 Share Posted March 19, 2019 So, an old family friend invites me to stay with her temporarily after I had a health crisis and lost my housing. She reassured me her husband wouldn't mind. I refrained from accepting the offer for weeks until my situation and health deteriorated. I needed respite for at least a few weeks for my body and mind to recover. Long story short, her husband is rude to me by being passive agressive behind her back. He flip out on me a few times, overreactions to minor things that aren't legtimemt issues. It was like he was really reaching to have a basis to yell at me. So, in response to the most mundane things he would snap at me. There were times I didn't even do what he was flipping out on me about and he knew it. It seemed like microaggressions. He would balently ignore me when I tried to speak to him even if I was thanking him for something. There was this underlying irritation with me from the start. It was abusive, rude, disrespectful behavior and unwarrented. Meanwhile, in front of his wife for the most part he would pretend and act like he was accepting of me. It got so bad though he started snapping out on me im front of her. At first she would try to deny it "he is not that type of person" then just told me to "ignore it" or he didn't mean it "that way" then to cap it off with becoming defensive of me even bringing up his bad behavior. She wanted to gloss over it and wanted me to be effacing and quietly receptive of his inappropriate behavior. A few times it was so balant she stepped in passively only to never do it again. It seemed easier to try to silence me, refocus attention back on me as being the problem for bringing it up. I spoke plainly about it, how it made me feel uncomfortable ect and then she ultimately flipped out on me saying that "I didn't like her family and thought they didn't like me" it upset her, she yelled, was over dramatic. She wouldn't let me respond so I just walked away in silence at one point. It was her yelling tripping out and me not being able to speak. I never yelled once. She is his trophy wife and refuses to deny her anything whether he feels okay with certain request or not. Her family even says this. So, I think he accepted she was going to have me come but was never truly okay with it. Instead of express this to her he became resentful and bitter towards me in some twisted way. Now her family feel I am the a**hole because I stand by what I experinced though now that I have left he tells everyone he misses me, cared about my well being,wanted me There. It is maniplative and balant lying. He was the so rude to me and mean I cried some nights feeling stuck with no where else to go. I fly from another state to stay with them. He was so mean spirited to me but why? Now that he scared me away now all of sudden he "cares" about me and ect His wife is vilinizing me to show support for him and protect his reputation. So now IAA. She doesn't work and he takes care of her adult son, two teen neices, her adult grandaughter, and her 5yr old grandson. She didn't tell me all these people were already living there bevause she said she knew I wouldn't have come. She us right. If he decided to never say no to to the point he is overwhelmed amd being a jerk why am I the a**hole now? I worked my a** off for them while there cleaning up after 7 people, helping wife cuz she has health problems, helping take care of 5yr old with ADHD and Autism Spectrum, and their bad dog. Yet, this man would be so cruel to me no matter what I did. Yet he set me up bu being sneaky and manipulate to be the a**hole. Am I? People who know all involved are now considering me to be one. I lost 3 quarts of blood. My health was waning. This man did not care. It felt like he was being mean and nasty just to do it. I talk about this and now I am supposedly the a**. Huh?What? Link to comment
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