Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 My partner of 15 months wants to go away fishing and camping alone for 3 days and didnt invite me .. Now i love camping and fishing and its on a weekend when i can go He is on his last week of holidays and says he wants to enjoy his last few days offs doing what he loves which is catching big fish lol We are going away for a few days together just before he goes but find it strange he is going alone (all his friends are working or busy) Whats your thoughts? Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 You’re overthinking. Some people fish to escape. Give him his space. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 My thoughts are; Wowzer going camping near a lake all by myself sounds awesome. I too think you're over-acting. Let him enjoy the peace while you book a fab girls night and a spa day so you can experience some of your own zen. Link to comment
sosavvy Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 Everyone needs their alone time, I don’t find it strange at all unless there are other circumstances you haven’t mentioned Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 Thanks for the replies Other circumstances? Only that its 4 hours drive and on the beach with little to no reception ..he has been a few times with mates but hsnt taken me for a while ..thats the only other circumstances can think of Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 Well you're going away together before he leaves, so what's the issue again? Not getting why him wanting to get away for a few days on his own (no matter where he's going) troubles you so much; not to sound flip, but are you joined at the hip or something? If so, that isn't healthy, time away from each other is good once in awhile -- gives you both a chance to miss each other, and keeps the RL from becoming stale, same ole, same ole, routine. Yawn. I presume you have friends you can hang with during that time? Link to comment
Annia Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 Let the dude have some time for himself. He's already going away with you before. He's not obligated to spend his whole holiday with you nor to justify himself for wanting to have some time for himself. Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 No way joined at the hip lol I have friends thats no.issue at all but i do need to ki da give them notice as they all very busy people He given me 10 days notice so yeh But plenty to do and i actually love me time His brother goes camping away alot and takes a girl other than his gf and my partner told me this so maybe thats just on my mind ! Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 No way joined at the hip lol I have friends thats no.issue at all but i do need to ki da give them notice as they all very busy people He given me 10 days notice so yeh But plenty to do and i actually love me time His brother goes camping away alot and takes a girl other than his gf and my partner told me this so maybe thats just on my mind ! Well, yea... a cheating brother that takes the other woman camping would tend to raise a red flag. Hopefully your partner thinks his brother is the pig that he is???? Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 Well, yea... a cheating brother that takes the other woman camping would tend to raise a red flag. Hopefully your partner thinks his brother is the pig that he is???? He thinks he is a pig yes.. but they get along And my partner says he just minds his own business doesn't want ti get involved Link to comment
DanZee Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 I can see why you're worried. This is the guy that has 5 kids by 3 different women. But he does probably need the time off to meditate and decompress. My head would explode trying to deal with that. Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 Yes thats true and im.meeting the kids this week thats where we are going Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 Wow I'd love 4 days to myself if my husband went fishing or whatever by himself. Why do you mention there's little to no reception where he's going? Do you plan to phone or text him on a regular basis? People need alone time. You are really over reacting. Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 Wow I'd love 4 days to myself if my husband went fishing or whatever by himself. Why do you mention there's little to no reception where he's going? Do you plan to phone or text him on a regular basis? People need alone time. You are really over reacting. More for his safety ..secluded beach nobody around etc Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 More for his safety ..secluded beach nobody around etc And his cheating brother will probably want to go at last minute Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 And his cheating brother will probably want to go at last minute It seems this is what you are truly worried about. Do you think they'll bring women with them? Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 It seems this is what you are truly worried about. Do you think they'll bring women with them? I trust him but the brother has turned up before with random chics.. i wasnt on the scene then Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 He also thinks i should trust him regardless what his brother does.. he feels he shouldn't have to tell him no chics allowed camping with the boys Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 This type of insecurity and clinging will shorten your relationship eventually. Pick your battles. Get your own life and interests and friends. Let people have their space, privacy, time to reflect, etc. Are you afraid he's going to cheat with a fish?🐬 Or this is a secret rendezvous with a mermaid or mysterious woman?👣Thanks for the replies Other circumstances? Only that its 4 hours drive and on the beach with little to no reception ..he has been a few times with mates but hsnt taken me for a while ..thats the only other circumstances can think of Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 You are overthinking. Having time apart is healthy for any relationship. Use the time he is away to do things you enjoy. I promise you, you will survive without him for 3 days. Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 I have no problem with time apart he was away fishing for 4 days 2 weeks ago and hardly communicated ..i didnt care at all Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 He also thinks i should trust him regardless what his brother does.. he feels he shouldn't have to tell him no chics allowed camping with the boys I can actually see your point here. He can't control his brother. And he isn't his brother. However, he could have a reasonable boundary with him of asking the brother to please not bring women who he is cheating on his girlfriend with around him to camping trips. Link to comment
Pocketrocket Posted December 5, 2018 Author Share Posted December 5, 2018 I can actually see your point here. He can't control his brother. And he isn't his brother. However, he could have a reasonable boundary with him of asking the brother to please not bring women who he is cheating on his girlfriend with around him to camping trips. Exactly what i think It hasnt happened since i have been around but my partner said it happened twice before He doesn't say anything now because its been over a year and half since it happened but he does take girls when he goes camping alone .. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 Your boyfriend will cheat if he wants to. It doesn’t matter what his brother does. Leave him alone and let him go. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted December 5, 2018 Share Posted December 5, 2018 Exactly what i think It hasnt happened since i have been around but my partner said it happened twice before He doesn't say anything now because its been over a year and half since it happened but he does take girls when he goes camping alone .. I think there's no need to worry if it's not happened since you've been with him. Maybe he did deal with it in his own way. Link to comment
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