AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 He told her he could not be intimate to her since he was still getting over me...tho he never broke up with me! Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 After a decade...I honestly had no idea he could of been acapable of this. Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 He just told me that for the past 7 years that while stsying at my place..and sometimes staying at a hotel...he was periodically seeing this woman...she only lives 15 min from me! Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 She helped him with his Visa. Apparently shes a stewardess and was able to get adjoining suites everywhere they traveled.. Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 We have been engaged. He was a caretaker for his elderly parents and had other work obligations so it took a while to be abke to move to US Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 You can understand my pain and disillusion..Im so sick right now Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 Yuck. He can go on a 3-week vacation with an ex that lives 15 minutes from you but can't see you in over a year and a half and you guys are supposedly in a relationship?? Next! Its unbearable..shocking..and heartbreaking..I put a decade of my life in this mans hands Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 Oh, and don't even give me that BS that "this wouldn't have occurred if you guys weren't fighting." Get rid of this guy. Hes saying its my fault lol...I said I never put you on a plane with this woman that knows all about me Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 Your post doesn't make sense, OP. You say you've been dating him for 10 years. Now he's a citizen of your country, lives there, and has not seen you for 18 months. He goes on holiday but says he wasn't affectionate with her because he's getting over a long relationship - er....is he not already in a relationship with you? I don't get it. Is he not actually your boyfriend,or...? Hes just become a citizen a month ago..this woman signed his Visa. She bought this 3 week vacation as a birthday gift to him..supposedly with separate suites since he said he told her he was heart broken from ending a relationship with me Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 I am also confused as too how he can be getting over a long relationship when he has been with you for a decade. Regardless, I would tell him to hit the road. He sounds like a huge waste of time. By the way, psychopaths and sociopaths easily pass lie detector tests because they feel no anxiety about lying. I just started researching narcissistic behaviour..what hes done is so unbearable and cruel that I thought he must be mentally off Link to comment
boltnrun Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 I just started researching narcissistic behaviour..what hes done is so unbearable and cruel that I thought he must be mentally off So you have told him to never contact you again, correct? Please don't say you're "confused". His behavior is loud and clear...he doesn't care at all about hurting you. Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 I just started researching narcissistic behaviour..what hes done is so unbearable and cruel that I thought he must be mentally off This sort of deception amounts to nothing short of sociopathic and I don't throw these terms around loosely. I can't figure what his game is though, clearly he's got something serious going on with this woman, enough that she went through the trouble of getting him a Visa, but why continue with you? Were you sending him money or something? Link to comment
maew Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 You can understand my pain and disillusion..Im so sick right now I can understand that you had a fantasy relationship with this man and now that you are facing reality you are also facing the pain and disillusion of your fantasy ending. I don't think anyone looking at this objectively believes what this guy is saying or that he is who he says he is. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 He just told me that for the past 7 years that while stsying at my place..and sometimes staying at a hotel...he was periodically seeing this woman...she only lives 15 min from me! You cannot be this naive! You have not even seen this guy in a year and a half and you believe yourself to be in a relationship? If you were on a relationship, then why weren't traveling with him? Do you send him money, or pay for any of his flights? What type of visa did he supposedly get? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 You can understand my pain and disillusion..Im so sick right now No. This has been a non relationship for 10 years. How much time have you spent together in this ten-year period? Do you really think that if he were in love with you, he could spend a couple of months apart, much less 1.5 years? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 I just started researching narcissistic behaviour..what he's done is so unbearable and cruel that I thought he must be mentally off He married her. Stop diagnosing him. You simply allowed yourself to get involved in a nothing relationship. He is a user and jerk. Angelina, you should have know better by the little time that he spent with you. He has now found someone else to take care of, and support him. he sounds like a real prize. Not! You need to wake up and understand why you ever allowed yourself to get into this position. You should date locally with people you can actually see and interact with! Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 Omg he married her? I missed that, geez! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 Omg he married her? I missed that, geez! I don't know how else he could a visa. Unless, she is going to sponsor as an employer. The guy sounds like a con artist and loser, though. I wonder what his occupation is? Link to comment
DanZee Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 Yes, AngelinaD said the ex "signed his visa." The only way she would be involved with his visa is if he married her. And then they went on a 3-week honeymoon to celebrate. I wouldn't be surprised if during the past 10 years he would visit her and then the OP. He probably juggled both women for the 10 years. Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 This sort of deception amounts to nothing short of sociopathic and I don't throw these terms around loosely. I can't figure what his game is though, clearly he's got something serious going on with this woman, enough that she went through the trouble of getting him a Visa, but why continue with you? Were you sending him money or something? No I never sent money or anything. And He also texted to say hes back in my town and staying at her apartment. Apparently he told her that he is going to leave this weekend and visit freinds in.a neighboring state for a week...but he said he wants to get a hotel near me.amd spend time talking to me.. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 He's a scammer and you know it but want to deny it. What's "way off" is thinking you were in a relationship with someone who you barely saw and who is using women for trips and visas.I just started researching narcissistic behaviour..what hes done is so unbearable and cruel that I thought he must be mentally off Link to comment
catfeeder Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 I have not seen him in over a year and a half. ^^^ This says it all. I wouldn't consider anybody absent this long to be my BF, so whatever he's done or with whom would be irrelevant. Link to comment
AngelinaD Posted November 24, 2018 Author Share Posted November 24, 2018 Omg he married her? I missed that, geez! I never said that but people on here say he did to get a Visa? I asked him that and he said I.was crazy Link to comment
Jibralta Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 Don't invest any more of your time into this relationship!! You can't reclaim the time you lost to him. Don't waste any more of your time on him! Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 24, 2018 Share Posted November 24, 2018 It seems you want to hang onto this scammer because you want to make believe you have a bf/relationship. Are you in a country where you can not date local men? Or are you isolated somewhere that you can't leave your room? I never said he did to get a Visa? I asked him that and he said I.was crazy Link to comment
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