90_hour_sleep Posted November 21, 2017 Share Posted November 21, 2017 Hello ena patrons... I'm in need of perspective. I've been seeing a single mom for about a year now. There's a bit of a long-distance thing with this relationship, as I've been working on the road quite a bit. We seem to have been navigating that quite well. In fact, I've never had a relationship with such a positive foundation of communication. We speak the same language...and seem to have a similar set of tools for working through conflicts. She has a six year old daughter who lives with her most of the time. Only child. Up until this past year, she (the daughter) didn't have much of a relationship with her Dad (I don't know the whole story, but there were some personal issues that he needed to deal with before he could be a part of her life). She's been to stay with him for two, month-long periods. At this point though, Mom is still the main parent...24/7. I've been struggling with this aspect of the relationship. The daughter is pretty demanding...and extremely needy when it comes to having her Mom's attention. She's very jealous of anyone who is spending quality time with Mom (I'm not the only one that experiences this). She seems to be at an age where she's constantly pushing boundaries with other people. Sometimes, it feels like she's running the show (this isn't actually true...I just find myself having that feeling). The distance has made this a little more difficult also, because I'll be gone for a month at times, and then all of a sudden I'm around again. I'm sure it's not an easy thing for the daughter to swallow...having someone show up fairly sporadically to ''steal'' Mom away. I know there are some legit reasons for her behaviour...and the rational me wants to believe that this is just a phase. I'm having trouble envisioning where this relationship is headed though...and this conflict is a big reason for that. How to deal with a somewhat unruly six year old... Wondering if there are others who have been there and have some perspective to offer... Thanks for reading... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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