Rhody Posted June 2, 2017 Share Posted June 2, 2017 My partner and I have been together for four years. We started dating in May and then that June of our first year dating, I found out he cheated on me. Here's the backstory and how it is still affecting us right now: He volunteers for Special Olympics. He's been doing this way before I ever met him. I always admired his love for volunteering and helping make a difference. Every June they have the big "State Games" at our local college. He goes every year. If they win their team goes to Nationals, which they have in the past. He loves it and the clients love him. Well, I found out our first year that while he was away at the camp for the weekend, he cheated on me while in the dorms overnight with a coworker. I found this out months after it happened (almost a whole year later). He apologized and we worked through it. He promised me it was a one time mistake and it would never happen again. I truly believe him when I say he was remorseful. I ended up forgiving him on the sole rule that he no longer goes overnight to volunteer again because I am not comfortable with it. We've had no infidelity issues since. Flash forward three years: he told me THIS MORNING that he decided the volunteer again because they are really struggling and low on volunteers and he wants to help out the clients and it means a lot to him. Basically blindsighting me this morning. We got in a huge fight before I had to go to work, and ended with nothing resolved. He's there now. Am I wrong for being furious by this? He knows how this makes me feel and how it's hurtful to me. Now my mind is running wild with if he's going to cheat on me again while he's there. Also should be noted that I'm seven months pregnant with our first child. I have a huge pit in my stomach about what will happen this weekend/will he cheat on me again/or if I'm just overreacting. I want to support him and the great cause he's doing volunteering, but I also can't help but have my mind wander with these thoughts. Link to comment
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