psycho_Jr

The only problem with knowing the truth is that one is free ONLY in proportion to the truth that one knows. This requires a great deal of inner seeking. I've been "fortunate" enough to hit the wall in a number of areas in life, such that I've learned I can't get my self-respect from others. Admittedly it is a bonus to have my values affirmed by others, but that doesn't determine my value compass. What I have done is examine my experiences against those I have been conditioned with, and rejected those values that were at odds with my experience. I have learned that a great deal of my so-called "conscience" is simply social conditioning. I have also learned that my values can be influenced UNCONSCIOUSLY by whatever group (or society) I am a part of. I then set about determining my OWN values. How does this relate to activism ? We have to know what our convictions are, while understanding that there are those who may not share them within the movement. Ad hominum attacks are counterproductive, to say the least. I've found it's better to expose the sins of the sinners, rather than bad-mouthing the sinner without any supporting proof. Personal Survival Tactics: I don't buy into the blame game, it only works if I believe I'm guilty and it's done to manipulate me into doing what the blamer wants. If I have to engage a bureaucracy, etc I ensure that the person's boss (or whoever they are accountable to - all the way up the hierarchy) becomes aware of my side of the issue. I write a letter, along with photocopied (NEVER originals if possible) I've found that the "structure ppl" we have often been at odds with are a fish out of water when they are obliged to function in another structure. Eg, setting the bureaucrats against the politicians or vice versa. I educate myself about my adversary and the tactics they use. Often they can be used against them. In short, the more truth I know about myself, including my self-deceptions and limitations, the better equipped I am to spot deception. I know I won't win the battle when I accept the adversary's terms. One way I look at it is I can use a boat to ram another (the direct, frontal approach) or I can use it to swamp their craft with my wake (the oblique approach). If I can't win, I don't play. I also do everything in my power NOT to enable my adversary. I follow orders, but I DON'T VOLUNTEER. They are not going to get the fruits of my best self-generated efforts. That's all I can think of for now. I'm posting this so it can be appended.

thats a short,suicidal song but it is the song of my life Katatonia-Quiet World four numbers staring back at me displaying the mediocrity of my presense i´m wasting my day wtching them change the sun with it's blue sky outside shining down on all you happy people i´m wasting my day waiting for rain need more methods to end each day to be happy by living this way

got the idea,thanks

well said everyone my advice to nice guys who are in their late teens to midtwenties is to have relationships with the girls who notice and would like to know them.thats better because it will prevent you from being brokenhearted and you will be much happier if you date with the people who respect you for who you are after your midtwenties you will have a successful career which most of the "bad boys" wont have and more woman will come to you by then.infact,most of the woman in those ages will have learned their lessons , will be much more intelligent and you wont fall again into the "nice guy syndrome" trap by being cheated on for an unemployed alcholic or an outlaw biker

by the way pip,can you tell me why you are not interested in him as before ?Is it because of his keen text messages or ...? (I need info about this)

no

i agree with paul,keep your promise and tell him that you are not interested in a romantic relationship with him there by the way,regardless of what you say he will be heartbroken i am afraid because inviting him to coffee surely have been a "lead on" for him

"just leave them alone and try to have fun without them!" thats a good point,you will NEVER succeed if you are not happy without a girlfriend and keep in mind that you cannot chase women i am not experienced enough like you to make more comments,others will give more insight

thats great info thanks rich

ask her on wednesday and dont take her to the movies.it gives you no time to talk and some girls would back off on the idea of going to the cinema at first.at least here that is like that good luck

thats too bad.i hate people who cowardly break-up too good luck

The best way to overcome acne is to overcome its underlaying reasons(if it is not liver-oriented of course).i use a sulphur soap(it makes my oily skin dry for sometime) but if my stress goes up acnes start popping up again.you have to overcome your psychological problems(acnes are the main reason i am shy towards girls so its harder for me i think ) if you are have any.increasing your daily vitamin intake will also help. Masturbation doesnt cause acnes by the way.when the hormonal activity is on the increase one usually must masturbate to "let it off".these two activities occour in similiar times and thats why there is a myth telling us that masturbation causes acne

increase your calcium intake i ate a lot of cornflakes with milk in my life that helped me a lot. now i am 19 and much more taller than my parents if you play some sports your legs will be more athletic and will suit your height

just keep your mind busy doing the things you like and unless you have to,dont stay indoors for sometime to prevent judging yourself

+1 only this one is a turn off for me(but it is a big deal,you know what i mean ) Can anyone tell me the reasons behind the human nature acting to make someone being loved jeaolous? i can guess it but somehow i cant get it