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Sorry to hear about your split with your gf outlaw I hope everything works out for you.

I agree completely with mandylee4christ when she says that if you're completely happy, you shouldn't need to go seeking out pleasure anywhere else. I myself would love it if this were true all the time, but unfortunately it isn't guys! We have to all face facts, there will be guys that look at girls/models/actresses etc and there will be girls that ogle men and discuss it in great detail...I personally never look at anyone, but I also know that we don't live in an ideal world. I have had bfs in the past that have eyed up other girls and been obsessed with celebs etc, which I would never dream of doing! My current bf does not do it in front of me, but I still have to accept that just because he doesn't do it in front of me, doesn't mean that he never does it! It kills me to think that he probably does, but from my experience of men, 99.9% of men ogle women, be it celebs, real women, etc...so why should my guy be any different? When your partners ogle these celebs like Brat Pitt and Britney, you should just try and shrug it off as best as you can...even though, I must say, it is annoying. I sympathise with you outlaw! I've been compared to people like Britney, Catherine Zeta Jones, Jordan and various porn stars in the past and it makes me feel totally crap because i know that I'll never be as physically beautiful as these people or have their 'assets'...silly I know, but at the back of my mind, I wondered what those guys were really doing with me if that is what they wanted! lol

*sigh*...I want to write a long reply to this post, but quite frankly, I'm tired of thinking about this subject. This was how my last relationship went, porn over me. I'm not unattractive and I never once refused my ex anything in *that department*. I got told it wasn't me..*blah blah blah*, but he never had a real explanation for constantly choosing porn over me. It was obvious he had some kind of problem, but he would never talk to me about it. He said porn was his way of burying his head in the sand. It just got so lame, I dumped him. I have no answer as to why men pass up the opportunity to be with beautiful women who would do anything for them, just to be alone with porn! I guess some men are just like that...Fortunately, I now have a guy who treats me in the way that I deserve. However, I sympathise with any woman in this situation, because as funny as it sounds, the experience of being with someone who prefers porn over you, is a very damaging experience. There are a lot of women on this site who have been through the same or similar situation...maybe we should start up a club??? lol

It took me and my boyfriend about two weeks before we said it, sounds lame I know, but we knew each other before that. I fell in love with him in about the first 30 seconds of meeting him-again sounds lame, but it's the only time that it's happened in my life! The first time we said it might have been soon, but it happened when we stared deep into each others eyes and realised that we were going to be together for a very long time...

Ahhh, what a great post Ok, I'll add my ten cents worth! I'm completely in love with my boyfriend because when I was with my ex, I longed for that 'fairytale-movie' kinda love. You know the sort, where the guy is passionate,sensitive, caring, loving, reads poetry in the park and plays his guitar for the main girl,cooks her a meal, runs her a bath and makes her feel like the most amazing woman in the world, well, I found it in my boyfriend! I love him for an infinite number of reasons, but mainly because my life with him is like it should be, it's a dream come true.

Hi missie I'm really glad that you're finding ways to deal with your jealousy! I woke up one morning and thought 'I'm not gonna let this beat me anymore'...it seems to be working for me I hate my ex for being like he was, but I can't let that experience shade my present relationship...I love my new guy and he loves me dearly...from now on I'm just gonna go with the flow and relax, and rebuild my trust!

Hi missie, I just want you to know that I haven't got time to reply to this now, but like you suggested on the other thread, I have added you to my msn, so maybe we can have a chat sometime?

Wow guys.... I never realised that SO many women go through this, I thought I was totally alone-but here you all are, going through the same situation! I know exactly how you feel with the Carmen Electra thing! I have been through the same thing with Britney Spears and Catherine Zeta Jones! I now hate both their guts! it makes me really happy to know that I'm not totally insane in thinking the way that I do!

Whoa! Things certainly have took a turn for the worse! I have noticed that most people who post on this site are located in the US and I have to say, I am really surprised at the differences between the US and Britain. Take this situation that you're in 1millionth, it just wouldn't happen like this where I live!! It seems that things get somewhat 'exaggerated'- I mean, your family thinking he's gonna rape you?? I had loads of friends that were older than me when I was growing up, but people here don't automatically think 'Oh my God he's going to rape you!' It seems to me that there is a definite lack of trust going on here...I mean, why doesn't your mom/cousin listen to you? Have you ever given them any reason not to trust you? I have already told you my viewpoint on this 16/21 year old thing, I can't see why he would be romantically interested in you, but there is nothing wrong with being friends! I think that you need to sit down and have a long chat with your mom and your cousin, because even though you're only 16, you need to take control of your own life-they should be believing you and not trusting gossip. At the end of the day, they are only worried about you, and maybe they mean well, but still, they should be developing trust. When I was 16, I used to hang around with people that did major drugs, but I didn't touch them. Someone told my mum and she believed that I didn't take drugs, because she had faith in me!

I think that you should avoid feeling sorry for this guy....sorry to be cynical, but from what you've told us, it sounds like he's playing the sympathy card for a reason. It strikes me as very odd that someone can't tell you their age. I would be looking for the reasons as to why he didn't tell you that. If he is cagey about something simple like that, then think what he could have lurking in his closet...from what you've said, it wouldn't surprise me if he was married or something. I'd get to know him a little better if I were you. But in all honesty, I agree with MandyLee4christ, from where I'm sitting, he don't sound too great..

I think that a five year age gap is fine-but not when one person is under 18. If you both say, 25 and 30, then that would be no problem-as you're roughly gonna be on the same wavelength. Being 22 myself, I would seriously never consider being with a 16 year old because I remember when I was 16 and quite frankly, the type of person I was then is a million miles away from the person that I am now. I just couldn't see how I would gel with a person that age. I don't really think that it's morally right either. At the end of the day, it's an individuals own choice, but I'd think carefully if I were you, because I genuinely can't see what a 21 year old person would want with a 16 year old. Do what you think is right and even though you are friends, be cautious of him!

Wow-if I was in this situation (being the jealous type!), I wouldn't be able to stop myself feeling negative thoughts! Why did he not invite you to go with him? (If you don't mind me asking) Okay, so the fact that he told you about the whole thing suggests that he is being honest, but on the other hand, the fact that he only told you with two days to go, means that you can't really do or say anything about it now because it's so close. I'm having one of my guy friends over to stay at my house, but I have told my boyfriend with at least a week in advance and I have asked his opinion about it and made sure that he's completely confortable with it- and we are definitely going to sleep in separate beds! Also, we are not attracted to each other in the slightest and we will not be alone in my house. I think maybe you are worrying about it because the details of it are so sketchy? Yeah, your boyfriend has told you about it, but has he mentioned this girl before? Maybe you shouldn't worry about it for the meanwhile, because there's not really anything you can do about it. But, if I were you, I'd sit down with my boyf and talk it over-It's not an overreaction if it's genuinely bothering you..

hey hey hey, I'm not getting emotional! I read what you said thoroughly and I just replied...The way that your comments read to me, it seemed that you were including me in what you said...if that's not the case then sorry...but its just how it seems! Like I said, I value the opinions you've given

ck, Please read my posts before you reply! I already said that I only met my guy online, he didn't become my boyfriend until we had met in real life! I agreed with you that I think it is strange to have a romance over the net without meeting, or having intention to meet. I get out all the time, meet loads of people in real life, had loads of offers like I said-but it doesn't make me odd, just because I chose the guy that I met online! He is perfect for me, whereas all the other guys that I met in 'real life' were just not..Should I have sacrificed my perfect romance for some total loser instead, just because I knew him in 'real life' first?? We met, THEN we became partners...that's the way it went. I haven't only met my guy, but I have many excellent friends that I have met online...NO! this is not because I'm sad, or have no real friends, but because I love the variety that life brings and I sometimes find it easier to talk to more annonymous people about certain subjects. I think it depends how you look at things actually...the majority of people have no problem with meeting a stranger in a bar, chatting drunkenly to them, then taking them home for a one nighter... When you think about it, isn't this an odd and dangerous thing to do?? But loads of people do it, so it doesn't seem odd. Whereas, people tend to have a problem with people meeting each other first on the net, then in real life...Yeah, it can be dangerous, but so can meeting people in bars and stuff! I agree with everything that Ash has said...you get to know someone and feel comfortable...when I met my partner it was just like meeting an old friend...I suppose it would be more acceptable if I'd have said that we met in a club, but it wouldn't have been the same..not as special.. Tell me ck, have you had a bad experience regarding net relations? Thanks for all your comments guys!

Hey ck, I completely understand what you're saying about internet relationships being a bit clinical, ie no touching, kissing, etc. I met my guy online, but now we're together in 'real life'. I couldn't have a relationship with someone without meeting them in real life...just doesn't seem worth it! I was fortunate to meet someone who only lived about 15 miles away from me! I guess some other people aren't so lucky I don't agree with you about the being lonely bit....you make it sound as though people who develop relationships from being online are weirdos and could never date in real life. Well, I have had plenty of offers in real life, but I met this guy online, gave him a chance to meet me in the flesh and I've never looked back! I didn't do it because I was desperate, or because I'm odd or anything...just had this feeling deep down that he was the one that I should be going for...I listened to my heart and my heart was right Nice to see your opinions though