LadyInWaiting

I noticed that you've posted pretty late at night. When did you take your pregancy test? Remember, that it's best to use a urine sample from when you first wake up in the morning. Also, stress can cause your period to be late. The more you worry, the later it will be. Have you always had regular period or is it occasionally late or even skipped? I don't know about you, but my breasts are always tender during PMS. As for the blue veins, I've noticed since I've started exercising that they have become more prominent. Dizzy/Nauteous feeling/Diahrea could mean you are getting sick. But I've never had a problem with nipples darkening or being swollen. Try getting EPT (I believe) that supposed to recognize pregnancy sooner than other tests. And when in doubt, just schedule an appointment with your GYN.

Ok guys... Are you intimidated by independent women? I'm not asking if it's a turnoff for a women to be independent. But is it harder for you to talk to woman if you find out that she has her life together and can take care of herself? Example: I've been raised to be indepent. I've completed two years of college (will be returning next year to work on my bachelor's degree). I have a home and a car in my name. I pay all of my bills by myself. I have a management position at my job, which I will also have my 4 year anniversary date next month. Oh, and did I mention that I'm only 24? I'm not a supermodel, but after loosing weight over the past 5 months, I've been told I look really good. I try to dress nice, smile a lot and talk to people. Although I know guys are looking, none of them approach me. I think my independence is reflected in my body language. Could that make me un approachable to guys? Is there something I can do to make myself more approachable? I'm tired of making the first move... but I don't want to spend my life alone either. Any advice?

Exercise! That's the first thing you should concentrate on! Get off the couch and get moving. Go get a cheap video from Target or Wal-mart, pop in the tape and get going. (I recommend Leslie Sansones tapes/DVD, usually something about Walking Away the Pounds). Don't worry about your diet yet! That will come into play later. Exercise for a couple of weeks (how many ever times you can do it without wearing yourself out). Remember, the only thing you have to do to lose weight is to burn more calories than you intake. The ultimate goal is to burn excess calories already in your body. Now, after you get used to exercising (get different tapes, do differnt things... dance, jog with your dog, park farther away from the department store), then, go ahead and take a peek at the calories of the food that you are eating! When you see a frozen dinner is about 400 calores as opposed to tuna which is about 120 calories per can, you'll start to realize that the less calories you consume, the easier it will be for your body to burn the excess fat in your body! FYI-at least this is what is working for me. 45 lbs in 5 months!!! Oh, and lots of water (as well as rehydrating the body, water will also fill you up) and lots of patience. You didn't gain weight over night and you won't lose it over night!!! But you will lose it, I promise.

yes, Yes, YES, You absolutely did the right thing. I'm going through a slightly similar situation... having to let go of someone I cared about deeply. He's getting married with a baby on the way. The easiest thing for my heart is to not talk to him at all (we work together). That is the only way I can get through this. I've found that my faith shows up at the oddest times. I'm not really religious, but I have to know that God has a chosen path for me. He made me for one certain person, I just haven't met that person yet. I believe the same for everyone. There is one special person out there especially for us. Sure, we can be happy with other people, but God has a specific person intended for us. So keep holding on, and we'll both get through this.

Ok everybody, thanks for the advice. You all are terrific. I just wanted to clear up some issues that probably got lost in the summary... Everyone at work now knows that my crush and his g/f are pregnant and getting married (they had to clear everything with the corporate office). I don't want to flirt with him or even get involved with him, I just hate that we had such an abrupt ending to our "friendship" (but I am accepting it). And I'm transfering because I received a promotion in early October (they've just had trouble finding my replacement). My transfer to another department has NOTHING to do with this guy. But truly, thank you for all of your help. I really appreciate it!

Ok, lemme sum up what's been going on in the past two weeks for anyone that has not read my other two posts... I've been crushing on this guy for over 2 years. After getting transfered to the same department he is in, we got to know each other better and found out that we have common interest. So over the past month or so, we got kinda flirty, but never anything serious. The week I came back from vacation (last Monday) I was told by a co-worker that my crush's girlfriend was pregnant and that they we getting married (I had heard him say on two separate occasions that he didn't have a girlfriend. The thing is, his g/f is upper managment and their relationship is a no-no.) So last week, I was mad. I figured the only way to make it through (I will transfer to a different department in January) was to not talk to him at all. Well, that's going perfectly. He must have figured that he messed up because he hasn't said one word to me. But this week, it's starting to hurt. I mean, we did get along, and we know a lot about each other. And I don't hate him or his girlfriend. And I figure they love each other, so I'm happy that they both found love. I just don't know how to get us back on talking terms again. It was nice last week being the one to ignore him, but this week, I feel like I'm being ignored. So do you guys think I'm being stupid? Should I just stay away from him til I transfer? Or if I hang on a little longer, will this new pain go away? Because it's starting to hurt (I guess this is my first broken heart?) Thanks!

You were dating this guy (last month), then you broke it off to be with another guy (the one you liked over the summer). So which one are you with now??? If your with "summer guy" and he's shying away from you, I don't think there is a lot you can do. Just try to talk to him and see what's going on. If your with the "last month guy" again, he may be pulling away because he doesn't want to be hurt again. If you've dumped him once for another guy, what's to keep you from dumping him again? You've got some explaining to do, and you had better do it quickly. Just tell him how you feel. Oh and one more piece of advice, keep your conversations between A & B, and tell your friend to C-Ya if she can't keep quiet. Even though she means well, her acting as a buffer between you two will only strain the relationship. Good Luck

I'm a chickie, so I know nothing about condoms, but there are other methods of birth control... The Pill, the Depo shot (if you're worried about forgetting to take the pill), there are also sponges and diaphrams. But the condom is best to prevent the spread of disease. If by chance the fact that wearing a condom is causing him to go soft, try working with him to get the erection back (you know, hand job ) Good Luck

That "hittin it from the back" means doing it doggie style. Not anal sex.

I may be missing something, but you said your friend (not M) is a girl, right. And now she's mad and you're not sure why (this ocurred after your note to M). I think your "friend" likes you. Did your "friend" tell M to write that "she's not ready for a relationship"? Is M friends with your "friend"? If so, then maybe M knows that this other girl likes you. Just relax and get to know each other better. Find out more about what she likes, then you will have something to talk about. Good Luck!

Hey all, just feeling a little heartbroken right now, so I thought I'd share my feelings with you guys, maybe set some thing straight in my mind. See, I've had a crush on my co-worker for about 2 years now. Last year, there was rumor going around that he was dating someone else at work. Since I didn't see him often, I didn't worry about it and didn't really thing much about him. Well, this past spring, I started working in his department. So I saw him everyday. We talked on and off and got to know each other a little better. He said that he did not have a girlfriend. And over the past month, we became kinda flirty. So I thought he was really liking me. So I started to let my mind wander... and I figured that this could be someone that I could fall in love with. Well, I found out from my boss today that his girlfriend is pregnant and they are planning to get married. I was totally shocked! But I kept my cool (didn't get upset and didn't cry... although the not crying was really hard). So I sent up a prayer to God and asked Him to please take my heartache away. I figured I'd have a good cry on the way home or when I got home. But you know, I don't feel like crying. I'm just kind of numb. I saw him at work today (before I found out everything) but he'd didn't come over to my area to talk to me. So now I have to deal with seeing him and possibly talking to him tomorrow. Do I tell him Congratulations? I don't know if I'll even be able to say the word. I've only got four more weeks in his department before I transfer, and I would rather he not talk to me at all. It's not so much that he had a girlfriend, but that he lied. I understand that he was trying to protect himself, but what was with all the flirting this past month! Thanks for hearing me out. I feel a little better. Feel free to respond. I'd love to know what other people think.

that there was another side to this story. He has a girlfriend and she workds at our place of business (he told me he was single). It was announced today that she is pregnant and they are getting married.

Ok, first time poster here. I'm looking forward to all replies. I'll give some quick background, but I'm trying to figure out if this guy I work with likes me. Don't worry about us working together creating a problem, b/c I'll be transfering to a new department in January and any relationship we (hopefully) have will not interfer with work. Background - He's 29, I'm 24. We have quite a few things in common... Movies, sports, sense of humor, and we've been getting kinda flirty with each other lately. He lives with his sister, I live alone... My problem is that I'm getting mixed signals. Sometimes I'm 100% sure that he's interested, but some days I have my doubts. I'm on vacation this week and he's having to fill in for me at our place of work. My mom works there, too, and they get along. She says that he's been talking about me every day this week. You know, How's her vacation going? Is she going anywhere? He's asked her before where I live and if I live by myself. And 75% of the time he'll come over to my area to talk to me (he's on a different shift, so not long after I arrive at work, he's leaving). But it's those few days that he doesn't talk to me that makes me think he's not interested. But I've also noticed that if he's in a bad mood or had a bad day, he doesn't want to talk to anyone. I just don't get why he hasn't asked me out yet. He would have to be blind or dumb not to have figured out that I like him. Trust me, I'm not being a giddy little school girl, but I'm definitely showing interest. I'm worried that when I transfer in January, that it will all be over. I guess if that happens then I've got my answer (and I will move on with my life). But I know if I've given the chance (i.e. we get to know each other more intimately) I will fall in love with him. And trust me, I've seen some of his bad sides and he's seen mine. I've seen him in embarrassing moments and he's seen me in quite a few as well. But that has not turned me away from him. So, I guess I need to know what you guys think? How much longer should I keep wishing/praying for him to give me a sign? Should I keep trying to get his attention, or just back off and let everything go? Thanks so much!