tattoobunnie

Call and leave a message. Or call and talk to him. Set up a meeting date at a public place. If he/she has an excuse even the first time, he or she is catfishing you.

For curious people, yes. For Narcissists, yes. For bored people, yes. For insecure people, yes. I wouldn't look too deeply at it.

So you break up, and she has to leave her job. And you start dating, and she's back to working with you again? If she was declaring love after two months, I would be weirded out. You were treating her like sh*t, she had to get away from the situation, find a new job, and you expect her to go balls out in romance and undying love. Slow your roll, dude.

Leaving this right here: https://www.thedailybeast.com/hair-pulling-brawls-a-dead-horse-cheerleader-sues-smithtown-school-over-bullying DASA is Dignity for All Students Act (The Dignity Act) seeks to provide the State’s public elementary and secondary school students with a safe and supportive environment free from discrimination, intimidation, taunting, harassment, and bullying on school property, a school bus and/or at a school function. I'm not 100% if you have this by you; we do in New York State. If you do, file a report. File a report with the police if you do not. If it doesn't stop, and your administration are chickens, don't let it go.

M is not the problem here. Gossip is fun. But you weren't gossiping about your friend. Gossip is spreading rumors. You were backstabbing a friend, and that's 100% sh**y. Just don't talk sh*t about your friends, and if you feel the need to, you probably aren't actually real friends to begin with.

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. It happens to the best of us. Go easy on yourself, and take the time to work through it. He tried, and failed, and you got out. You did nothing wrong, but dated a bad apple. No point in judging others by every single relationship a person has, nor judging you on the choices another person made. Took me 5 years because I shoved what happened to me under a rug...so take the time to work through what happened to you.

Giving you mad props here!!! You have come a long way, and are doing all the right things! Setting boundaries. Knowing what you want, and making room for it. To be honest, your new post is amazing, and I'm glad you are seeing things clearly. It's normal to question if you are doing the right thing, and you are. It can be confusing when you have an emotionally abusive parent holding them being your parent over your head. You owe you parents nothing. They chose to have you. And its the parents job to give you the right tools, so you can live your own life to the very best of your abilities. Honestly, she has a husband. You don't have to balance anything. Even if you crawled up inside her womb, she'd still demand more of your time. You do you. And stick with it. There may be a point she calls 15x in a row. But you pick up on the 15th time, which they remember as how many times will work, or the reasons for you to call/pick up could be vague enough as a way to pique your interest, when it isn't that pressing. Just know, emotional abuse isn't just calling you ugly and good for nothing...it's an abuse of your time with an over the top expectation of it. Her gaslighting you is also gross.

Sometimes you aren't always going to be the center of attention. Sometimes you need to make small talk with different people that aren't hanging with your boyfriend. Sometimes, you need to learn the art of doom-scrolling on your phone to fill in gaps. Sorry, you don't have an old crew you can't catch up. In 5 years you've been with him, is there a reason why you cannot handle him catching up with old friends for one night? It says a lot about your securities; not his ex who's married with kids to a man who was there. I get it; you got jealous. But, they did include you regularly. It's impossible for a group to make you the center of attention all the time, especially when you aren't making the effort to get to know them.

Wow. What an ableist POS. He is dangerous to you and your kid. If you can leave, leave. It will only get worse. He's like the Wicked Step Mother in Cinderella.

Same here. She wouldn't have to keep asking him if he would take initiate or do as requested the first time. Just because he's not home as much doesn't mean he can't pitch in with managing the household. She didn't sign up to work full-time, and wait on him hand and foot. Nor, should she be made to because of some "traditional roles." It does not have to be the same chores, but it needs to be designated who does what, and equitably. She is telling him her needs. He dismisses her. Sometimes it really is about just getting some juice on their way home.

Demand to have a DASA report filled out. File a police report. The detective will get a yearbook for your son to point out the kid. Also contact the Superintendent. Is you grandson still being bullied, or was the bruised shins the one time. HUGS...no child should be afraid to get an education.

ewwwwwwwwww...sorry, that's when you say, "what do I need to be? You're my partner, and drink juice too. It shouldn't just be me getting all the groceries." He is not a child, so if treat him like a child that needs a big compliment every time, that dynamic will never ever die.

I would never ever stay with a man who wanted to control what I did with my own body in private. Your unresolved issues with sex, sexuality, masturbation, insecurity, possessiveness, obsessive rejection dysphoria are yours and yours alone to work through. It is not his fault you have trauma in connection to masturbation, and it's not his responsibility to work through your trauma with you. I would let him go. You are not ready to be in a committed relationship where you accept the person for who they are, not what you believe they should be like.

It's his home too, and his must do his share to keep up the home. You are not his mom or the hired help. Say "no." Don't give him an inch. Or expect another 30 years of resentment and exhaustion, and if you have kids, forget it, he will lump all responsibility onto you. NO THANKS. If you fights you on this, do not do his laundry, period. Do not make him food. You are both contributing fiscally, and should have equal chores at home. It does not have to be the same things, but it should be discussed on who does what.

Where are they now? It's not seedy, but it sets the tone that this is it. There a level of pressure that this is the end game. It "doesn't have to lead to sex," but that is showing her how you lead. It's different if it's with a group, or you've known eachother for a while. Save the cheap home date that in reality, makes a woman anxious, especially when you weren't friends prior and know eachother, for down the road. When you are married with kids, all dates are Netflix and chill or game night.

It is on the third date to a woman. It's like asking for sex on the 3rd date. Even if you aren't, it's implied, and considered to be much less effort and consideration. Instead of forcing the situation or setting it up to be about a wham-bam, take your time before even making that a go to date.

How did she take the photo and hold onto the guy? How was she in the air if her legs were wrapped around the guy? Strippers are beyond gross to me, but I've got to strip clubs and hired strippers because it's some gross tradition, and I'm a good sport. I have zero interest in them though. I wouldn't hold it against her. She was no doubt ambushed by the bride to get it done.

Museums, Art Exhibit, Bowling, Axe Throwing, Sporting Event like baseball, hiking, picnic at the park, movies, a play, escape room, cooking class, archery class, beach, restaurant with wine pairing. So many things to do! So gross to invite her to your home for a meal and a movie. It's okay to go out somewhere, and end up to you home, but don't do a "netflix and chill" till like the 8th date or never.

You met once briefly. Trying to form a relationship through texting before your 1st date is amature hour and juevenile. Don't do it. You will not get the result you want. You don't have to be the best speaker. But you can ask her questions, and tell her about you. Ask her how her day is, family, things she likes to do. You do. Where she went to school. What it was like for her. Where'd she like to travel to one day or has been to. Texting will only get your romanticizing her, and it will be a short lived experience when the in-person reality and expectations meet.

Well, it's because you are: 1) selfish. You didn't want her then, but she dumped you, and it's your ego talking. 2) not into your current partner, and looking to sabotage it; you did the same with what you did to your ex. You don't want to progress the relationship, so trying to romanticize your past even though it was a crappy relationship. It doesn't matter how young you were; you didn't want her. You also don't care with all your care for your current partner; hence why you feel a void. And that's okay; it's just not working out. I would recommend letting go of your current partner, and figure out what you want in life.

I would call her around 7 pm during the week. It's a time where you've had time to decompress. DO NOT TRY TO FORM A BOND OVER TEXT since you've never had a chance to get to know eachother in person. Texting now will not help to get to know her. All texts are contrived; for all you know she's nuts. A text won't convey this, but phone calls can.

What do you have to lose? Worked out for my husband, reaching out after 14 years. We have been happily married way over a decade with two kiddos. And reconnected at 32.

People who's go to reply is to gaslight you shows that all you really know about him is just the tip of the iceberg. He knows what he is doing is inappropriate, but he doesn't care. Don't let up on this; what you enable now, will only get worse. You've only known him for less than two years, and he's already causing you a great deal of anxiety, and you have to walk on egg shells around him. That's isn't intimacy, honestly, and he's not showing you any respect. The following other strange women, nevermind what social media platform, imagine finding a box of photos of random woman he regularly looks, adds to, and has access to, while next to you in bed. I would never accept this behavior, and neither should you. The fact that you can't have a civil conversation about it without making you feel like sh*t, he is selfish. He takes zero accountability. It doesn't get better. Because he married you while keeping something secret or misrepresenting himself you may be able to get an annulment.

May I ask why you might need to be his keeper? Is he ill?

This sounds tough; sorry; I get this. Toddlers are very hard!! It's not your job to raise your kids'/stepkids' kids. But grandpa wants this, and accepts this, an knows if he tells her to go a daycare, his daughter may move away to where dad is to help make ends meet. And there is really only 2+ years left till she starts Kindergarten. If I were you, go back to the office full-time if you can, opt for it, and this way, you get your "alone" time. I can't work from home with the kids; they are constant and they are school aged. My step MIL said if she lived closer (she's hours and hours away), she would be helping with the kids. I love her. Just hearing her say that made me feel loved. I think you are overwhelmed. So, definitely opt to go back to the office full-time if you can.