Portobello989

So l’ve been in this job for one year and three months. At the beginning everything was great, good pay and it was company with a good name that would eventually look great on my resume. When l was till new, l accepted things like working on weekends and coming in whenever they needed me - the nature of job is hospitality but it’s also a office/ desk job- and l’m in charge for room bookings basically for a VERY upscale hotel. At the beginning l noticed one of my coworkers getting bullied by my boss (our director) over silly mistakes. She got fired eventually and was escorted out by security in a very bad manner. I also overheard my boss calling my other coworker “idiot” in the office, then one time when l didn’t understand something, l over heard her say “she has no common sense” about me to the other manager. I felt hurt but l let it slide. I continued working weekends, my day off requests were denied, while they allowed one of my coworkers take 3 weeks vacation. Summer came, and l have requested time off in August (my entire family is in Europe). My request was denied - l was told by my boss to resign. But l was told since l’m a “good employee”, they’d take me back. Once l returned to States, they re-hired me. But two weeks after, l was given paper to sign that l wouldn’t be receiving commissions for bookings until my 90-day grace period is over. So l’m seeing my coworkers getting more $$$ then me, while l was the one making the MOST big bookings (packages) and generating most revenue for my company. Because of overwhelming work l get put on (cause l’m the most experienced one) l was making some mistakes and my boss has been very mean and condescending to me, calling me out in group chat - when she can address it privately. Etc. She starts meetings saying how we all suck, we make so many mistakes, nothing good ever comes out of her mouth. And we do so much work. She always says how lucky we are to have this job. She told me privately “don’t make me regret we took you back” etc. She keeps pin pointing blame to someone and it’s like she enjoys it. She is never wrong about anything, and she never listens to understand. Only to fight back. I’m tired of it, all my coworkers are so stressed and scared. I have requested time off again for holidays, again denied. Is this job even worth staying at? I feel miserable.

I have two friends that l consider close, we’re all in our mid-thirties and we live in different cities. Two of them are not close, they met through me. I hang out with them separately. Both of them have different lifestyle. One is married with kids and steady job, let’s call her M, …the other one travels a-lot, lives abroad, not married and free spirited. Let’s call her F. So, F, although she is fun to be around, can be a little toxic sometimes. She spends 90 percent of time talking about herself and doesn’t let me talk or asks me anything. She is very pushy when it comes to going places or coming to my vacation house. But she can be very loving, affectionate..l love her and want the best for her, at the end of the day. I became very frustrated with her behavior, l felt drained from my energy, so l talked about her with the other friend, M. M is more diplomatic, she can listen well and always gives me good advice. I don’t know if that’s called gossiping, but it was more about how F makes me feel. So few days ago, l met with F for coffee, and she’s telling me: “my sister said someone is spreading gossip about me that l am pushy, and l beg to stay at peoples homes and that l’m annoying” .. And she seemed pretty upset about it. I felt so so bad, it’s only a matter of time before she finds out it was me. I found out my friend M works with her sister’s friend, and apparently said all that stuff to her!! Stuff that was supposed to stay between the two of us. I am 100 percent guilty of gossiping and l feel horrible about it, but l don’t know what l should do. Should l even stay friends with M after she spread all those rumors? Sad and confused.