tattoobunnie

Next time, give her a budget, and have her plan it all out. And, if she doesn't do it, don't take over and plan it yourself. Or do a staycation. Have her get a part-time job, so she can help afford a little more convenience. It's one thing if you might camp a few days, and build it some meals where you go out to eat. If it's all where you are doing everything, and she doesn't want that, then save up some more before booking.

My husband's comfort and piece of mind is my top priority, and vice versa (these days). Boundaries need to be discussed and shared, so you are on the same page. And things can evolve over time, so you must check in with them at least once a year about how they feel in the marriage, with themselves, etc. A marriage where one is riddled with guilt, or one is walking on egg shells, will eventually implode. Now there is unrealistic expectations like, never having or interacting with coworkers of the opposite sex, or sex you are attracted to. Or having to detail your entire discussions or interactions with people outside of the family. These are things you have to discuss and see what is acceptable, and what are deal breakers. I am fine with my husband working with anyone, I am skeptical about any women he might invite to a social engagement with the family or over to our home. I let him know. I just avoid this all together with male coworkers. But I'm also the boss, so I just don't fraternize with any of my employees, period.

Congrats on being sober. You aren't the best man for her. She doesn't want a two-timer. The best man for her is what she wants, not what you think she should want. Focus on your sobriety.

I am the WORST texter. I really think you need to stop using that as a gauge for her interest level. People who also neurodivergent tend to be EXTRA awful at texting timely. Stop asking her for drinks. Ask her to dinner or the movies. Like date like stuff. You are beyond "getting drinks" at this point.

But is she stuck doing absolutely everything else? Is this the first trip planned? Who packs for the kids? Who gets the kids out of bed, dressed, fed, and ready to go with activities? Did you not ask her input before booking everything? It doesn't matter who makes all the dough; you should always discuss things with your partner on plans, places, times, budgets, etc. I have been the main to sole earner for the entire marriage until recently, with many trips under our belt, and I always get my hub's input. Sounds like you don't listen to her needs, so she is nitpicking at the moment.

I remember all of my Bfs penises. But I have never dated a man who once asked me the size of others. Your boyfriend is so beyond creepy and insecure. Don't waste your time trying to fix him. Figure out why you need to be with someone this insecure.

First, recognize the screaming and shouting is triggering you from something in your past. 2nd, tell her that her screaming makes you feel unsafe. 3rd, go see a therapist to work through your trigger. 4th, understand the grass is greener on the other side. What I see is a "girl" who did not stand up for you, and chose her parents over you. That is not a partner. A partner chooses you first 365 - 24/7. Asian family here too, so I understand the whole in your face, I'll disown you trauma bonding statements. It's bullsh*t. She wanted out, and chose an out. She also didn't bring out the best in you, hence 3 years of being a REAL sh*thead to her. Five, grow up. No one forced you to marry your wife and have a kid together. Love your child, and understand, that this child was meant to be. Block and delete all that person's contact info. Take all keepsakes and photos of her, and dump it in the trash. Then, go make new memories with your wife and child. And take lots of photos of them.

Does he remember how big each vagina was, and can tell you all about it? Why are you still with this clown?

My dogs are my babies. Not sure why you got dogs if you think it's okay to dump them on your girlfriend at will. And, get the other shots done. It's a part of being a responsible pet owner.

Sorry, just reread your timeline about the boats. Have someone else drive home. You can ride shotgun.

You drive 2 hours, and let someone else drive the rest of the way. Not sure where you are, but it doesn't get dark till 9 in the Northeast. So if you leave at 9 AM, it'd still be full sun after 5 hours at 2 PM. I think you are worrying way too much about Sunday traffic. If you are tired, pull over, and get something to eat.

This is enough; you are young, and should be having fun and learning about who you are, your own likes and wants and needs before you can truly ever give yourself to another. If I had no idea what makes just me happy, I would not feel complete. Be brave. You can love someone, but it doesn't mean they are the right one for you. Whatever you do, don't brag on social media if you do meet someone at least for a couple of months.

If he is your superior, or any way can jeopardize your job, I would tell HR, so they cannot hold anything against you if he, himself, tries to retaliate. He can try to get you fired, whether you say anything, not say anything, feels obligated to back, don't go back. Yes, he is scum. But if she gets this information, she has time to prepare her financial statements, look for hidden money, gather evidence of infidelity to work on who gets the house, custody terms, business dealings, etc. Being blindsided where he just packs up all her stuff one day, and puts her out in the street to make room for his new honey - NOOOOOO WAY!!!

I would want to know, 100%.

Get a lovesense and use during intercourse. A guy who cares about you, cares about you. Insecure men are really not gun. I think he just cares about your needs. I would have him or you manually stimulate along with the intercourse.

Why don't you want to bring the dog? Is it the same reason why she doesn't want to watch your dog? Where do you live where it's $200/day to board a dog? I'm in NY, and it's about $80. We have some dog sitters that charge $35/day in your home or theirs. Try rover.com to find a sitter. I found many from there, and one that we love, and even have her watch our kids too. My 2nd dog is pretty spicy, so I don't expect my folks to watch my dogs anymore; this should also go for your girlfriend. Don't hold it against someone for saying "no" to caring for your babies for days.

"The cobbler's children have no shoes."

Yes, but you were still talking about them in the office with her; that could have been done in the privacy of your home. Your business failing is on you, which happens to the best of us. It's not on her, but you make it all about her. At the end of the day, you were still the one talking about them. And, if they were happy to be working with you, you would have been able to speak to them about, and acknowledge how happy you are with them. But, I gather, you said nothing; that is the straw that broke the camel's back for them. Be accountable and understand how you are culpable for any of your achievements and failures. It takes two to end a relationship.

Try ASMR EMDR for your PSTD; many therapists can do this for you. And generally may only take a few sessions.

Bring your new fella.

1) Stop blaming her for why your business failed. One, why in the world are you talking about your employees together on the phone while they are there. There is beyond unprofessional. You do that at home together. And, COVID closed down shop for endless companies, so stop holding that resentment over her. If your employees felt acknowledged or recognized, they wouldn't just leave a functional business. 2) You need to get yourself close to cumming (masturbate, watch porn); most women cannot have multiple orgasms, so if you are banging for over 20 minutes, that is way too long for them. 3) Get back out there in the work world, or focus on caring for your kid and your MIL. Either way, your self esteem is in the toilet, and it is so unattractive on top the giant chip you have that it's all her fault why you're life sucks. 4) Just be in charge on maintaining the cars. Take that off her plate. Make the appointments, and drive her to work or whatever. 5) You are better off going to therapy on your own. You have so much resentment towards her that you need to work through, not her.

I would have just paid ice cream for everybody, but that's just me. Meaning, instead of letting the BF pay for the sis and your BF, you pay. Why should they pay for your ice cream, again? I mean it's tacky to only 3 out of 4 people, but I would let it go. Be the cooler person, not the petty one.

Maybe try a penis pump? I am not joking.

I used to write just like this, even sent love letters as a prank in college. All for fun, but cruel joke to be honest. I honestly think it's fiction. Mine sure was. And essentially, you just read her journal. A good writer is all about the details. I think you should let her be herself in her writing.

Nothing will change until you change. He is the same broken record. You've given him your love. Fighting with love won't change anything, nor this dynamic.