First of all, thank you all for taking time to read this and give your advice. I do appreciate it. I know most of what you are saying is true. I do not want to keep being an investigator and trying to keep him from misbehaving when I know it should be a given in a marriage. There are a few things that hold me back from throwing in the towel just yet. I am actually very good at the investigation part. That being said, I know with about 95% accuracy that he hasn't taken it past looking yet. The first time he tried 3 years ago, was with a couple that he had been with many times before we were married and this time it never worked out. I had his Apple watch and saw the whole conversation without him knowing until I was back in town. This time was the first time since that he went on hook up sites. I could see his location the whole time and his son was in his hotel room so that wasn't an option. There was 1 hour that he wasn't in constant texting mode with me and I was looking at his live location the night he looked up the site. I guess I feel the need to talk to him even if I don't get answers because I want him to know I am smarter than he is for one, and for two, I want to see what in the world the crazy excuse will be. Also, in every other way he is an amazing husband. He cooks, cleans, plans special days, vacations, helps my kids that are not his, is good to his parents and mine, well known and liked in the area, as I said the sex in great too! BTW, I have had all the tests done several times and I am healthy. I guess I want to give him one last chance to come clean, admit he has a sex addiction problem, go to counseling with me and be the man that everyone thinks he is. I know I must take drastic action if he will not. So, with that being said, how do you think I approach him for this conversation? We all have temptations we normally don't act on while married. I am hoping this is all it was and that he decided not to go through with it. I know to many I sound crazy, and maybe I am, but I feel I need this conversation for me if nothing else.