tattoobunnie

I wasn't writing about you. The OP has assigned a her value based on her looks for the long term. What he also fails to understand is that love grows. If one of the biggest factors for him staying committed is her looks, then that says more about him and how he feels about himself, then what it does about her.

Self care isn't about looks. It's about prioritizing your diet, staying active, taking time for yourself, looking respectable. But if the OP is saying, he wants to marry her, but questions down the road if he will feel cheated, that's on him, and his own self-sabotage. Cuz quite honestly, no one has a crystal ball. One day, he may get into a car accident, and can't move from the waist down. Should she just bail because he no longer has use of his legs? He doesn't even consider that she could be questioning about staying with him, and his personality, like she is the lucky one to be with him. To me, that screams insecure and deflecting.

Exactly. I can pay for my own damn meal. But if I like you, I let you pay for me. If I don't like you, man, I go dutch or pay for the whole thing myself. And, I'm not a billion years old. 🤣

When you love yourself, you can spot the beauty in others. What you are asking if people settled, and it worked out. Don't settle, but always remember, looks fade. There will always be a beautiful woman out there that someone is tired of f--king. If her looks concern you and you might feel cheated one day, that says more about what an insecure person you may be, then what it does about her looks. Shallowness is an ugly trait, and she deserves someone who looks at her like a goddess. Look within to be loving.

Love bombing is pretty intense. And, no, what you describe isn't love bombing; sounds normal. But the lying about smoking, not making time with you a priority, that just means that this relationship has run its course.

For some, I never paid till the 6th date. And as far as communication goes, usually by month 4, it's more often. After 3 dates, is not a lot at all to have a regular contact thing going. A lot is a red flag to me. I know many here will say to be 50/50, but there are plenty of friends who will say, don't be so cheap, and to make the guy work for it, or he won't be interested. As far as never asking questions about yourself, that's just weird. What do you both talk about? If you are both always having fun and talking a bunch on the date itself, then I'd give it some more time. If she is holding your hand, that's pretty cool. Focus on having fun.

Being around men in their 40's, secure men don't feel the need to fit in. Nor do they have full on discussion about it, because quite honestly, they understand they are someone's daughter since they have kids too. If your dude is under 25, eh, he's learning. If he's 30+, eek, he may never get his $hit together. Immature, and looking for a way to get a rise out of you is just sad.

I once dated a guy who didn't like I spoke up when he said discriminatory things. Now, I am married to a MAN who supports and even contributes to fighting injustice. We are also completely different backgrounds racially. He looks like a typical "something" right down with a Jeep and flags. You do not want to get into any type of physical fight with him. But he flies a 5 x 7 ft Progress flag on his Jeep whenever we are going to a rally to support our teachers and kids. It's not just about what you share or write on your own social media page; he just isn't supportive of your feelings, needs, and as a person. I honestly would "unfriend" him. He doesn't have to look at any of your posts.

Letting that word be used, and blaming it on alcohol while the entire world knows it is not to be used, just enables racism. Like see you next Tuesday, or Ching-Chung; one word used in a fight is damaging, and used as a means to make the other be subservient. Sorry, but that word is disgusting, and I don't care how drunk they were, they used that word willingly and on purpose. It does not just slip out randomly.

I am exhausted reading about your thought process. Why are you asking a bad texter to keep texting you while she's out with friends? Just call her. I hate texting. I really do. If she's great in person, keep it that way.

I agree with your husband 100%. Alcohol is a disinhibitnator, which means, it releases natural impulses by eliminating learned inhibitions, so an a$$hole let's their a$$hole freak flag fly and blame it on alcohol. I have been blotto so many times, so many times with friends, and I and friends have never once cheated, called people the "N" word, smacked our partners around, or picked a fight. You don't become a racist from alcohol. If you are one, the alcohol lowers your inhibitions enough to say it.

I guarantee she doesn't want anyone knowing because he was probably also with someone at the time too. Your "friend" is what we call an A$$hole. People like her are the $hit stirrers and stains of the planet. I would move on from this drama-llama, and get rid of your dude. He is foul. You can forgive anyone you want, but it does not make them a good friend or a good boy friend. She is not a good or best friend. She is a selfish person.

When I throw a party, I pay for all of it. So I have had some of the best birthday parties ever. For Zombie Preparedness at a Shooting Range to Steak Dinner, which I didn't cover the food, but the shooting, yes. Private rooms and tables at night clubs, karaoke party room, and my next one will be at a smash room. I also threw an escape room for my hubs one year. And I alternate birthday parties, because sometimes it's nice to just go to dinner with your family and best friends. My buddy paid for all of us to see this famous performer and hotel to celebrate hers. We had the best time. Don't take it personally. No one likes to admit they can't afford something. I would just ask grab drinks at someplace hip or new. Ask if it's possible for credit for another night because you "got covid" and go some other time. Or have people over for your bday, and make a signature cocktail.

Your body, your choice to masturbate or not. That's your business. Thank the heavens! She is a horrendous person.

Bought lunch for all my lady employees today.

The third dog trainer we met with over the summer who have positive reviews and decades of experience to work with our youngest dog, since our previous one moved to the Midwest, thought it was great to keep hitting our dog as a redirection from barking at other dogs behind a gate. Of course, it didn't stop her, and she learned nothing. We never called him back again. Let me rephrase, some dogs may have issues that cannot be addressed or must be treated with medication, or rehomed without other dogs presents or whatever reason, but a dog resource guarding, and the one the OP is posting about is not one of them. There are many pet owners who believe in leaving dogs outside no matter what the condition is, chained, or dump them as soon as they have a kid, or want to remove the dog's teeth because they got bit before. So the way I look at it is, the OP is nervous about leaving her pup behind for a week. I am saying the dog will be fine in good hands. And yes, even if a dog once bit someone, I would still watch them. Just like my groomers, they never turn a dog away.

All dogs can be trained. Never heard that Rover.com rule. There are plenty of people who dump dogs in the middle of nowhere that post here. So, I wouldn't listen to everyone who doesn't own or plan to own dogs, or still thinking being the leader of the pack is a thing; that training theory has been completely debunked. Being resource guarding does not make this dog unable to be watched by others. People who actually worked with dogs for a living know how to handle different personalities whether reactive on a leash or resource guarding. So, some of the posts here are wow, talk about a way to make the OP sound like a POS dog owner. I've been bit by the nicest dog in the world; I tried to break up a fight by my A-hole dog was causing with my bare hands instead of just using water. The dog accidently bit me, and I had to get stitches, and that dog is still awesome. Nothing wrong with the dog. And to those who wonder if my dog was trained...she's had over $4K worth of training...she just wasn't having it with this rescue, and she has never bit me.

This is normal; many dogs are like this. Your Bestie is an experienced dog trainer of the same breeder. You're just being a worry wart. The pup will be in great hands. I have two mad bossy dogs by breed, but a well experienced sitter will know what to do. I have found a ton of great house sitters with rover.com

So when you two have a kid, do you have to stay home when she wants to bring the baby around to introduce them to friends and family. Or do you stay home to watch the baby, while she goes out drinking with other dudes?

Insert eye roll here. She meets up with plenty of people. It's not a social phobia. When you are proud of someone, you introduce that person to other important people in your life. That's how a strong partnership and romantic relationship works.

What do you think, "she wants to open the window in the relationship, to get air" means? Especially after repeatedly lying about going to grab a drink with another man. I know you are in shock, and cannot believe how someone can be this cruel, but bro, she is not good to you, is NOT a wonderful girlfriend. You've been with her for a long while, and you're scared because you think you will be lonely and have no one else. But geez bro, is your middle name doormat? You are literally in your prime. Imagine having kids with her, and she brings home dudes, and tells you to beat it while they busy?

Um, wow. Do not make a baby with this woman. In fact, pack up all her $hit, and leave it out front. She is HORRENDOUS. How is telling her to not sleep with other dudes make you controlling? You've lost self-respect for yourself. Go find it. 44 is old for her to have kids, but sweetie, you are in your prime to find another younger woman, and procreate. Your current whatever is a HAG. She does not deserve you. And you will never be happy with her. Nope. She's just a rude a$$hat jerk.

This is a manipulation tactic. Isolating you from others and your needs is gross.

Your dream is about losing control, your footing, your sense of self is being sacrificed. I believe dreams are both prophetic and, or things you need to work out in your brain. But cleaning out the closet could also mean you are making room for new thoughts, moving past a wrong you may have made. Can I ask what else happened? For a few months now, I keep having dreams that I am unmarried with no kids, and annoyed that I have to sign up for online dating sites. But my hubs wasn't someone I broke up; I just wasn't myself. When I wake up, I am relieved to remember I am married with kids. Last time, I had these weird break up dreams, was probably 15 years ago; the guy breaking up with me with a current BF, and he'd be cruel in the dream. I had them for six months, and he did break up with me cruelly that actually brought me to enotalone. Oddly today, I was looking up what they could mean just minutes ago, then I noticed your post. And really rich chocolate right before bed also makes me have vivid mean, crazy dreams.

I have found a great way to save money; drop the deadbeats. He doesn't see how any of it is his fault and his problem. This screams 100% DEADBEAT.