Ediec

i would put my money on it being his wife that is the cause to how he acted.

I've had the same thing for about 7 years now. I only really notce it when i'm reading a book. I went to my doc, he took a look and said its nothing to worry about, just a annoyance that's not worth doing anything about. Doesn't mean that you still shouldn't go. Just cause it's not an issue for me doesn't mean it can't be for you.

Male, 23 1) How long during dating did you wait to have intercourse with someone? 1st time: 1 year 2nd: 5 months 1B) Were you having "almost" intercourse instead? (oral sex or anything that involves stimulation down yonder) How long for that? Yes. started about the 3rd week each time. 1C) Edited to Add: did you have a hard time waiting, or does it come easy to you? First time yeah. i was much younger and the hormones were flowing. The second time. I had no problem waiting at all. I loved her well before hand and wanted it to be the next level of our relationship. And she had only had sex once before with a guy she regreted being with. 2) Did you discuss and/or demand to be exclusive first? What do you mean by exclusive? If you mean that they should only be seeing you then yeah. But if they aren't exclusive to me i wouldn't be wasting my time with them. 3) Has your policy changed over the years? If so, why? Yeah. back in the day i'd take it if i could get it. Now, I wont until i know that i love them and they love me. 4) Does your policy differ in regards to: a) I am looking for a serious relationship and feel my date is a potential long-term partner b) I am horny c) just got out of a relationship and am either on the rebound or see b. Or is it always the same? Will always be the same since i 'grew-up' 5) If you had sex early on in the dating, why did you do it? If 5 months is early, its cause i loved her and she loved me. 5B) Did the relationship last long? 1st ended about 2 months after we first had sex (she cheated on me with an ex) 2nd lasted one year. (she decided she just wanted to have fun and didn't want any responsibilities.

You didn't say how overwieght he is (and its not really needed), but i had 2 of my friends who were quite... large. One was 5'7" at 380lbs and on who was 6'2" at 450lbs. They are both now down to 250lbs. All they did was drink water. they changed nothing else in their lifestyle except they drank 8-10 liters of water a day. They've had no ill affects. I know that doesn't help with getting him motivated, but it doesn't take much to carry around a liter bottle of water and to refill it when its empty. If he can't do that one simple thing then i'm not sure if anything short of a MI will get him to.

Since he lives in another state, if anything is found to be illegal it can become a federal offense. More then likely he'd just have to deal with your states courts. Unfortunitly, like others have said, there isn't anything you can do about the pictures or the video, but the blackmail is a different story. Just make sure you and your friends don't delete any of the emails. if the police need them they will take them off the computers. copys that have been printed by you can't be used in anyway, save for getting the police involved. and i'm not to sure about the IMs, i think it would depened on which messager you used and the way it's saved.

I wish i would have found this site and read that first post back at the beginging of September. I did, uh, just about everything that i shouldn't have done. And now i'm sitting around like "yup, i'm single and it sucks" and she's out having fun and not hurting. I really need to go NC. She really wants to get lunch this week, i really don't want to, but i would love to see her face and hear her voice again. I'll figure out some way to tell her no. I have to for my sainity.

Stop talking to him. RIGHT NOW! Then call your state's Atterney's office or your state's Bar Association. They can tell you what you can do or who's best to talk to. May even have to contact the DA office of the state in which he lives. Hope that helps. He's scum.

My ex still owes me $200 for bills. I know, not even close to $2k but i'm an unemployed college student who's roommate just left for a 'clinic' sticking me with the $1000 a month rent. She can easily pay it back (she calls her parents on a regular bases for them to put cash in her account, they're both lawyers) but i'm letting it go. Money owed is not enough reason for pain in either of your lives. Yeah sure, there is the principle. But you know it. Is her knowing it going to make anything better? I say move on. Forget about the cash and learn from the experiance.

This sounds very familiar to me. Here is my story (go to the bottom if you just want to see my answer). I met my ex-girlfriend at the end of July last year. Everthing was great, everything was perfect. We spent almost every waking moment together. We went on trips from Miami to New York. We were in love. Then mid-May of this year i had to go home to work for the summer. It was only 2 hours away and i came up to see her every weekend (and sometimes just stayed to be with her) for 2 months. She began to hang out with friends she sworn off a year earlyer cause they where a-holes. One of these guys had a thing for her since they first met. When i came back after the 2 months she had changed. She no longer wanted to spend anytime with me. All she wanted to do was be out with them and i felt un-wanted, ignored and un-loved. She did nothing for me on our anniversery. She only wanted to stay with me 3 nights a week at this point and would come home at 2 to 3 in the morning and expected that the time we sleep in the same bed was time 'together.' One month later (end of this past August) she comes back from a trip to Atlanta. Where she went with those 'friends' (and she didn't want me to go) and walks in my door at 6am, and precieds to tell me that I(me) have lost passion in the relationship. She then tells me she needs space. Two weeks later (and still now) she's with the guy that had a thing for her. I've realized now that she never truly loved me. ---My Answer----- What I'm getting at is this. I know it may go against what other people have said here but... First: Talk with her. Tell her how you feel and why you feel that way. Second: If she isn't willing to devote the time for you. LEAVE HER. She isn't good enough for you. Now, there isn't anything saying that 1 day, 1 week, 1 month later that you two can't get back together if she realizes she wants to be with you and she was wrong. You know what you want. She needs to know/tell you, what she wants. ------------------- I know It may seem hard to think of breaking up with her, but trust me; It will be much less painful on you if you end it, then for her to. The month of September was the worst month of my life. There were several times i thought about killing myself because of her. If I had broken it off with her at the beginning of August i know it wouldn't have been as painful for me as it had. Hindsight is 20/20, so until you have that hindsight trust in the experiances of others.